We've been going out close to 3 months now. We're totally in love and everything, yet she never lets me get past kissing her breasts when we fool around together. We're both 16 and in 6th form college. Whenever i try and get into her underwear she says no and that she doesn't want to take things too fast. WHAT THE HELL, S&A??? Last time we fooled around together we had been going out about 2 months, is this REALLY too fast?? I'm thinking if things were going any slower, they'd be going backwards.

I'm going round to hers on saturday then we're going to, what sounds like it will be a really lame party - no alcohol - *GROAN*....

Should i try to get into her knickers yet again, or should i try and get her into mine?

To be honest, im thinking she would be really reluctant to take the initiative and show any interest in touching me, so how should i go about getting her to? Should i say something along the lines of "if you won't let me touch you, how about if things were the other way around?" I know this probably sounds REALLY lame, but i don't know what else to think.

She told me she's never had an orgasm, so i think that's probably why she's so nervous to go any further and I want to be the one to pop her cherry, dammit!!

Please if there are any trolls who are just going to say something abbrasive like "Lol, u r wel lame, dood. You and your gf r pussies, get a life, loser!" FUCK OFF and save your time because i don't care what you think, why would i? This is an internet forum...

Any advice on the matter would be nice. Please reassure me that i am not unjustly thinking this is a weird situation to be in! I know that she loves me, it's a great feeling when she says it, but im just left wondering how long it will be before anything happens...



Cheers.

tell her what you think, speak about it, find out why she isn't wanting to.

The key to any relationship is communication.

Cant really say i have been in that position, my girlfriend is so horny, like as much as myself...

[This message has been edited by nau06248 (edited 12-15-2006).]

Lucky bugger. But, im thinking things will all change after she has her first orgasm, right? She will be opened up and ready for the possibility of sex?

She just needs to let me get my foot in the door and things will be better...i hope

Edit: im pretty sure she doesn't want to because she's just affraid of taking the next step. Any girls who could tell me what they think of the situation would be highly valued advice, maybe from what happened when you first got with a guy? I dunno...just looking for answers.

[This message has been edited by The Poet Chemist (edited 12-15-2006).]

well she probably wont orgasim the first time. she hasnt had sex before yeah?

you just need to explore sexuallity with her. touch each other and such, you dont need to jump straight into intercourse...

Would say more but i gotta bus to catch.

Lol, u r wel lame, dood.

You are a looser for not listening to your girlfriend.. and taking it slowly.. if she doesn't want to go fast.. let her go at her own pace.. by the sounds of things.. your only looking for sex, hence you should go for somebody who opens their legs easily..

If it sounded like that, then that is COMPLETELY wrong. I am definately happy not having sex, and it is NOT all im searching for. No she has never done anything with a guy apart from with me.

I can/am being ok with taking it slowly, im just trying to work out how slow "slow" is.

Bumpity bumpity buuump!

Motherfucker don't push it or you wont ever be getting any pussy.

Just take the whole sex thing slow. If you are really that horny, fap before you go see her and ask for oral. Give her oral in return.

Deal with it you stupid fucking cunt. Respect her wishes, it's her vagina.

If you don't the whores at your age are decent looking and plentiful.

Lol, u r wel lame, dood. You and your gf r pussies, get a life, loser!

quote:Originally posted by The Poet Chemist:

I want to be the one to pop her cherry, dammit!

quote:Originally posted by The Poet Chemist:

If it sounded like that, then that is COMPLETELY wrong. I am definately happy not having sex, and it is NOT all im searching for. No she has never done anything with a guy apart from with me.

I can/am being ok with taking it slowly, im just trying to work out how slow "slow" is.

Stop being a fucking douche about the situation, she doesn't want you going down there because she's simply not comfortable with you. It sounds like you just want to get into her pants and thats it, also sounds like you have no consideration for her whatsoever.

Why aren't you happy to simply respect your girlfriends wishes and not do such things? Its because you're a selfish prick who just wants yourself to be satisfied.

I think you should simply learn to respect her wishes beyond yours and then you may genuinly understand why she's like this. You have to build complete trust and respect for her to let you do things.

quote:Originally posted by The Poet Chemist:

Should i try to get into her knickers yet again, or should i try and get her into mine?

Hahah, What type of guy wears knickers.. Sorry, I shouldn't say that to totse.

Yeh im definately going to leave it till whenever she makes the move. Im happy where i am with her right now, so thank you totse for helping me out

You already feel around her arse and all the rest? Pull her towards you? Grind your body against hers? push her down on the bed and run your hands down her sides?

If you're already pulling out the tricks, and still nothing much is happening, then I recommend being upfront about it. And having a proper discussion. Personally, I woudln't stick around with a girl that long if all I was getting was that (and no I'm not a hella dope playa, I've only made out with 3 girls in my life...)

quote:Originally posted by The Poet Chemist:

Yeh im definately going to leave it till whenever she makes the move. Im happy where i am with her right now, so thank you totse for helping me out

I think that's the best idea. It's only been 3 months, and she'll decide she wants to go further soon enough. Just work on showing her that you love how she looks, no matter if she's a little pudgy or has small boobs or something. I'm thinking part of the reason she won't let you go any further is that she's self conscious about how she looks. Correct me if I'm wrong on that.

quote:Originally posted by prettypoems:

Just work on showing her that you love how she looks, no matter if she's a little pudgy or has small boobs or something.

I like small boobs depending on the girl. They go good on a girl that is small/petite. However if a tall, big girl has small tits then that just looks odd/stupid.

for OP

Read the guide on here about eating girls out a couple times, then try to do that to her. If she still doesn't want to do it, tell her theres no pressure and that you will wait if she wants to. Remind her you want to pleasure her, and make her happy, and theres no reason to be nervous. If you give her a few orgasms she will probably want to go further with you, because she realizes how fun it is. Anyway, good luck, and don't try to rush things too much. Especially if she really doesn't want to. Some girls are nervous (for some reason) and need time to get used to the idea.

If you get really desperate, you could aways get her drunk and eat her out. She will probably thank you later. Shes probably either nervous about sex, or like prettypoems said about her looks.

Your just gonna have to live with it. Or mention Global Orgasm Day. December 22nd. www.globalorgasm.org (http://www.globalorgasm.org)

quote:Originally posted by Cosmo Memory:

Your just gonna have to live with it. Or mention Global Orgasm Day. December 22nd. www.globalorgasm.org (http://www.globalorgasm.org)



That is a fucking great idea. i love it!

quote:Originally posted by prettypoems:

I think that's the best idea. It's only been 3 months, and she'll decide she wants to go further soon enough. Just work on showing her that you love how she looks, no matter if she's a little pudgy or has small boobs or something. I'm thinking part of the reason she won't let you go any further is that she's self conscious about how she looks. Correct me if I'm wrong on that.

No i don't think its that at all, i think she's jusy nervous about taking that one step further with a guy as she's never done so before. I'm just going to make sure she knows im here for here and that i love her and am happy with her so don't need/mind that she doesn't want to just yet.

Things always work out, she obviously just wants more time over it and that's cool with me

quote:Originally posted by The Poet Chemist:

No i don't think its that at all, i think she's jusy nervous about taking that one step further with a guy as she's never done so before. I'm just going to make sure she knows im here for here and that i love her and am happy with her so don't need/mind that she doesn't want to just yet.

Things always work out, she obviously just wants more time over it and that's cool with me

Good for you, your girlfriend's a lucky girl.

Just to update this.

Well we had a really uplifting and informative talk a few weeks ago and she told me that her fears and anxieties stemmed from a bad experience she had on holiday the summer before where some guy kept groping her after she told him not to. We talked some more and i just told her to relax and that if at any point she wanted to stop all she would have to do is tell me.

So i got down there and gave her her first time which she said was one of the best moments of her life. So yay for me. And her obviously.

We;ve talked about sex and agreed mutually that we;re not ready for it yet so we're going to wait a while before going the whole way. Not that that stopped us doing stuff on New Year's btw

yay