*sigh* Enough is enough eh Totse? I have finally had to turn to other people to try and help me. Me and my girlfriend have been together for a long time. We had the "love at first sight, knew we wanted to be together forever" type thing. Everything has been perfect up until recently.

We have started fighting almost other day at some point, even if its only for a few minutes. Tonight she finally broke down and started sobbing on my bed, and played "our song" real loud on her ipod while crying. I asked why she was crying and all she could say before breaking down again was "we're falling apart."

Neither one of us want to take a break, I think a break is the same thing as ending a relationship, it just causes problems in the long run. She thinks I will go and fool around with other girls whislt on this break. I think she would do the same with guys lol...

I just don't know what to do anymore totse...I try talking to her but she tells me she can't help but bottle everything up inside and NOT talk to me about things...I end feeling horrible because she can't even talk to her own boyfriend about problems she is facing. I know I probably shouldn't push it and risk losing her, but I can't just sit and watch her cry or get mad and not know why.

So totse what do you think I should do, please only serious advice, none of thise murder/suicide etc shit

the constant fighting is a sign you guys need to cool it.. even if you guys don't take a break (which wouldn't be a bad idea), at least give eachother some more space.

I hate the idea of a break...to me it feels like everything you had worked for has ended and to get back together means starting everything over. A break constitutes a time frame for which you can do shit with other people and not have it called cheating.

But the space away from eachother could help..I don't know...I'm so scared to lose her

Well, if you don't like the space idea, try going the other direction. Try to build up your trust with eachother, open up more then is confortable to her, and maybe she'll do the same. I've been in a similar position, and all it really takes is one night of complete openness, where you both just spill everything, and then you're even closer then you were before. i guess that has to be spontaneous, but if you just try to slowly open up with eachother, it might bring the two of you closer together. worth a try at least, right?

try hitting her.

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Yea it's worth a try, and about the space thing, it's not that I don't like space away from her, it's the "break" thing I hate the idea of. We had one night together a month or so ago and it brought us so close...and now we are falling apart again...maybe just spending that night together was good?? I don't know, but tomorrow she had plans to hang out with her friends...but then cancled them to hang out with me..

I keep telling her to go hang out with her friends..but I don't know..thanks for your advice to everyone who helped