Last year I met this girl, she was a year older than me, and we both hooked up at a gig. We were a bit drunk and got quite close.

Things were going great we were getting really close. We were going out and we were starting to know each other really well.

Come February, I had exams coming up (5 highers, my results would determine if I would go to university that year) and I was really stressed. I think it is due to the stress that I lost all interest in her, it was instantaneous, over night. I broke up with her and she was completely destroyed.

From February(my prelim exams) through to may (my finals) I never said a word to her. It wasn't until the day of my final exam, when things changed. I got out of the exam at midday and got extremely drunk with some friends, that evening (still pissed) we met up with a bunch of folk and one of them was my ex, I was all over her to say the least. About 11pm/12pm I sobered up and then realized how much I liked her.

I told her a couple of weeks later after deciding it wasn’t going to pass. She had sort of moved on and was seeing someone.

The other guy sort of gradually faded out of the picture and we started talking more. We went away for a weekend together and ended up kissing. A week later we had sex. (It wasn’t nearly that simple, there was a lot very emotional convo’s. She didn’t know if she could trust me to go back out with me because I upset her so much)

A week later I moved 3 hours away to uni... we meet up to see each other when we can, she is in full time employment(gap year) and I am a student.

I go home at the weekend for xmas and I think I want to have a serious relationship with her, (she will be moving closer to me in September) but I cant decide because the sex isn’t that great, (I am going to see if I can get it any better in the next month). The reason this bothers me is because if I start going out with her again, I don’t see it ever ending, we will probably end up married. Like we get on so well, it is incredible. She can chill me out so much just with her presence (I get stressed very easily) to such an extent you would think I am stoned out of my face. The other aspect is, say I get my self into a high stress job and say what happened before happens again, I couldn’t live with myself if I broke up with her again.

A little bit of me wants to move on and just play around for a bit, but this girl is the world to me. Plus will I ever find someone I click with so much?

(Sorry about the length, it is a year of my life…)

you can either keep banging her..get married and continue. or you can slide into her "best friend" spot, then get yourself another girl..maybe better sex

sadly...Im in a situation where Im only the best friend

Edit: spelling

[This message has been edited by vazilizaitsev89 (edited 12-15-2006).]

cheers.

Yeah that is shit, my best mate is like amazing and i have always wanted something to happen, but it never will.

Can you know someone too well to have a relationship with?!

Tell her how you feel?

If two people are good friends it is for a specific reason, and if they try something more and it fucks up, there is no reason for them not to be friends! Afterall the initial reason for being friends is still there...

You don't think the sex will ever get better? If not, then why?