ok it all starts out like i say i love you and tell him not to say it back unless he really means it, he says hes scared but he does love me, no sex has happened yet, the "love of his life" and him are talking everynow and then shes really not but he used to head over heals for her and he says that he isnt now, but they talk all the time and shes posted some pics of them together that have titles underneath like i love him, and him and i going to his "spot" then she leaves him a comment saying shes sorry she hasnt called him back yet? so yeah, i do have grounds to be jealous right? because she knows were together and ive even tried to be her friend since they're friends and he told me she wanted to be, but she just blows me off everytime.....to me it doesnt seem like shes wanting to be friends but wanting to get with my boyfriend........what do i do?

I think you all need to grow up to be honest.

You need to get off of a forum and go have a conversation with your boyfriend about it, tell him that him seeing his ex girlfriend he used to really like is bothering you.

If he wants to be with her then why is he still with you? and why aren't they together?...perhaps cause he likes you.

They will (i think?) have known eachother longer and are perhaps friends and he feels comfortable around her in a different way to the comfort he feels with you, everyone has it.

Talk to him!!!!

i have talked to him thats the thing, every time he tells me its nothing and they dont talk much, but they talk alot it seems...

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i have talked to him thats the thing, every time he tells me its nothing and they dont talk much, but they talk alot it seems...

Perhaps.....because of your position in all of this it feels like they do, or perhaps he is trying to spare your feelings.

If they are good friends, then obviously he doesnt want his girlfriend thinking as you are doing now, so he says "nahhhh we arent that close, hardly talk " it is a warped round about way of sparing your feelings...but im sure it is meant well.

You need to properly sit down and discuss it, you bringing it up and then him rebuking it and it ending will not solve anything, and, in the end i guess it will come down to whether you think he is worth it.

Do you like him enough to understand he has to keep certain friends, or does he understand that his girlfriend is jealous and he should do something about it....or, do you come to a compromise.

Only you two can work this out, totse shouldnt be a proxy in the relationship.

thanks youve really helped alot! i just really needed the advice on it since all my friends would say oh he shouldnt and all his friends would say just dont worry about it kinda thing ya know? its just that im nice i really am and i wouldnt mind them talking if she'd like talk to me to a lil bit too. but yeah i guess its time i make him talk it out with me instead of just brushing it off.....i just dont want to start an argument.... i hate fights