Okay...so my now ex told me "When sex is fulfilling, I only like to have one round". This was her answer to "Why do we only ever have one round of sex?"

Also, a long time ago when we were just mates, she told me she'd go for up to 5 rounds with her boyfriend of the time.

This just makes me think I was a shitty root. Her excuse sounds like suuuuuuch bullshit. But the thing that confuses me is that she was always the more willing one to get sex started. I was just the one who wanted to keep going, and going, and going...

So, yeah, she'd sometimes rape me...but that doesn't explain the one round with me, and multiple rounds with the ex.

If some one satisfied you, and fulfilled you, you'd want to fuck them nonstop. ie how I was with her.

So, S&A, do you think she was just full of shit?

...I do. That's why I ended it. My ego felt shattered.

*edit*

She'd tell me that with her ex (the only other person she's slept with), that they'd 'ravage' each other, and sometimes see each other purely for sex, then sometimes go home afterwards. But with me it always had to be love making, that'd start late in the night, that slowly progressed to fucking, then she'd ALWAYSstay the night and we'd cuddle afterwards.

It's fucked...

*2nd edit*

lauren, I know you've already given me your opinion, but I want multiple answers.

[This message has been edited by arquin (edited 12-13-2006).]

It sounds like she just broke loose when she lost her virginity and her fiery young passion out of the way with, which explains the whole 'meeting just for sex' thing. She probably figured out just how empty/unfufilling that can be and with you she wanted a little more then just a plain fuck. She wanted the emotional attachment which comes with making love and cuddling all night.

Are you my boyfriend? Seriously, ever thread you post, it's like "holy crap that's happened to me!!"

I like getting sex started too, but then I get bored, or it hurts, or countless other reasons. I don't think it's anything to be concerned about. She stuck around to cuddle didn't she? It wasn't all about the sex. A relationship isn't supposed to be all about sex. Right? Hmm, I think I need to make a thread...

Anyway, she's your ex now, forget about her.

quote:Originally posted by Demoiselle:

Anyway, she's your ex now, forget about her.

If you love some one, and dedicate years to them, it's hard to just 'forget them'. But yeah, I'm trying, and doing a pretty good job.

I just wanted to get some things cleared up, with out having to start communicating with her again. Peace of mind is what I'm after...

In all honestly, I'm looking for an aswer that will let me hate her.

quote:Originally posted by arquin:

If you love some one, and dedicate years to them, it's hard to just 'forget them'. But yeah, I'm trying, and doing a pretty good job.



Wow, you're more of an asshole then I thought. You love her. You spent years dedicated to her. And then decided you couldnt deal with your own sexual inadequacies so you kick her to the curb? Good call, man.

quote:Originally posted by SilentMind:

Wow, you're more of an asshole then I thought. You love her. You spent years dedicated to her. And then decided you couldnt deal with your own sexual inadequacies so you kick her to the curb? Good call, man.

Dude, fuck you. You only know the part of the story I'm telling. My sexual inadequacies were the final straw adding up on the slow wind down our relationship has had. Seriously, go fuck your self. You don't know how much I tried to make this work.

Look at it like this man. Say you just went out for dinner at an amazing resturaunt and had the best meal of your life. You go home and are completely satiated and full. Would you go right back out the door and go back just because it was so amazing? No lol, your full. She could just be totally satisfied with your sex life, I think if you were bad she would want to go more then once or do something besides cuddle.

quote:Originally posted by arquin:

In all honestly, I'm looking for an aswer that will let me hate her.

I could definitely give you that, but I'm not sure if it'd just make you hate her, or if you'd go on some crazy rampage.

quote:Originally posted by arquin:



So, S&A, do you think she was just full of shit?

...I do. That's why I ended it. My ego felt shattered.



I know what you posted. And now you're contradicting yourself. And you can flame me all you want, but it doesnt change the fact that you're alone, and you're going to have to get over yourself if you want to keep any manner of serious relationship. So deal with it.

And just while we're at it...'Go fuck yourself' is neither original nor witty. I've heard more intelligent remarks in elementary school lunchrooms.

quote:Originally posted by Demoiselle:

I could definitely give you that, but I'm not sure if it'd just make you hate her, or if you'd go on some crazy rampage.



Please do. You'll be helping me once and for all move on. God knows that's what needs to happen...

quote:Originally posted by SilentMind:

I know what you posted. And now you're contradicting yourself. And you can flame me all you want, but it doesnt change the fact that you're alone, and you're going to have to get over yourself if you want to keep any manner of serious relationship. So deal with it.

And just while we're at it...'Go fuck yourself' is neither original nor witty. I've heard more intelligent remarks in elementary school lunchrooms.

How am I contradicting my self? I ENDED IT because of my sexual inadequacies. That's not to say that things weren't over because of other reasons. I just used it as a scapegoat.

I'm alone, yes. It's not hard to change that. Why do you act like being alone is an insult? It's what I want. "Me time". Cliche, I know.

Lastly, I told you to go fuck your self because my normal means of insults, taking harsh stabs at facts about the persons shortcomings wouldn't work. Seeing as I have no idea who the fuck you are, nor have I ever paid attention to your posts. Only thing that pops to mind is "20 year old pedo going out with a 16 year old", but I'm sure that's not you and I have you mixed up with some one else.

quote:Originally posted by arquin:

Please do. You'll be helping me once and for all move on. God knows that's what needs to happen...

Okee. There are 2 possibilities to begin with: you're either sexually incompatible, or you're bad in bed. Let's say, you're bad in bed. Those times she got urges and pretty much raped you, that was her sex drive going nuts and making her hope it would override how bad you are and make it decent. Once you started, she realized it still sucks. So she keeps going, just to get it over with, just to keep you happy, because you're her emotional tampon.

She and her ex went at it like rabbits because it was either satisfying, or it was the only link they had in their relationship. Either way, it was better than your relationship.





[This message has been edited by Demoiselle (edited 12-13-2006).]

Maybe with her ex, it took five rounds to be satisfied. Maybe you're better, so it only took one.

Maybe she likes you for more than sex.

On the other hand, maybe you guys had an extremely unhealthy relationship. No, not maybe. You don't live near her right? You'll move on.