This guy and I have been having sex since July. He just left for basic training for the Air Force this past Monday. Since he left, I can't stop thinking about him and I think I might be in love. But he doesn't believe in relationships and he thinks love is a bunch of bull shit. He's also said that he wants to get as much pussy as he can before he settles down and that he knows that he'd cheat if he ever married. Should I tell him how I feel once he gets home in January, or should I try to forget about him and find someone else?

Gee. That's a tough one.

Do you want a guy who screws around on you? Or do you just like the idea of a challenge?

I'm used to guys that say that they don't do relationships, but this is the first time that I've acutally fallen for one; ussually I'm the same way as the guys are

I'd wait until he's out of basic training. That sometimes will change a man. Sometimes...it makes them worse.

I dated a guy who didn't want a relationship. Then he went into the military, and during basic training he changed his mind.

So did I.

[This message has been edited by oc6 (edited 12-10-2006).]

Thanks, I guess I'll just have to hope for the best and keep missing him

Oh damn, that's a shitty situation. I would say just to try and forget about him because that's definitely not something anyone should be married to. But love is a VERY tough thing to just walk away from.

Besides walking away I think your only other option would be to tell him how you feel. Couldn't really hurt could it?

I think you'd be better off forgetting about him. You're probably just easily attached. If you haven't been messing around with anybody else you've become infatuated with him, probably. Perhaps sex has become boring to you and you want more, a relationship, and you know he doesn't so creating an even stronger tie may work.

You'll find somebody else. He's emotionally immature and obviously not ready to settle down. The only thing you're going to gain from this is depression and having a dark shadow following you because he will cheat on you. Don't do it to yourself.

quote:Originally posted by sylph:

...He's emotionally immature...

So telling a girl outiright how you genuinely feel, despite what she may think, means you are emotionally immature?

Well, don't hope for any miracles, but hope nonetheless. As previously stated, the army could change him. It's unlikely you will, however.

quote:Originally posted by Byss:

So telling a girl outiright how you genuinely feel, despite what she may think, means you are emotionally immature?

No, I didn't mean in in a bad way. I'm simply being realistic. He's still adventurous and hasn't experienced all that he feels is necessary. He doesn't want a mature relationship, he just wants to mess around. Perhaps inexperienced or unfulfilled would be better terminology, but that's what I meant.

Why on earth are you having sex with a boy who admits he has no feelings for you? A vibrator would be the better choice.