I'v been with this guy for 1 year and 6 months, and i really thought we would spend the rest of our lives together, he would always say how he couldn't wait to make me his forever.

Well the other day he decided that we should break up. I was shocked as you would be, i asked him why and the reason was that he's moving out of my house and we wouldn't get too see each other every often. the fact nither of us have our licence is a problem..

The thing is we still love each other, he misses me and i miss him, nither of us want to be away from the other and he keeps sending me messages saying he wants a hug and i keep replying and calling each other.

What do i do?

quote:Originally posted by Synical:

I'v been with this guy for 1 year and 6 months, and i really thought we would spend the rest of our lives together, he would always say how he couldn't wait to make me his forever.

Well the other day he decided that we should break up. I was shocked as you would be, i asked him why and the reason was that he's moving out of my house and we wouldn't get too see each other every often. the fact nither of us have our licence is a problem..

The thing is we still love each other, he misses me and i miss him, nither of us want to be away from the other and he keeps sending me messages saying he wants a hug and i keep replying and calling each other.

What do i do?

Well, it sounds like this dude is playing with you a bit. I would recommend either:

1) Trying to get back with him if that's what you want

2) Tell him to take a runnning jump.

Personally from the sound of it, I'd go for number two.

nither of us wanted to break up he just thought it would be best as im 3 years younger than him. i want him back but i dont want to push him away

sorry to hear that ur having problems, but i think my love life is fucking pathetic...but, do you really think hes the guy for you? he might just be fucking around...sorry...

-Kman101

quote:Originally posted by Synical:

nither of us wanted to break up he just thought it would be best as im 3 years younger than him. i want him back but i dont want to push him away



Well, if he's broken up with you have you thought it may be time to move on. I know it's not as easy as all that but, it may be the best thing for you. What do you think?

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wait...3 years? what, was he like 15, you 12? naw, jk, it has to be like...you 15, him 18?

i'v told him stuff that i was going to take to the grave, i dont even trust my family o tell them the things i told him not even my best friend nows.

he said to me that when were both established (both got jobs n doing well, lived a bit more) that we might get back together.

all i really want is for him to hug me n tell me that he hever forget me if our friendship doens't work out..

haha.i'm 17 he's 20

quote:Originally posted by Synical:

i'v told him stuff that i was going to take to the grave, i dont even trust my family o tell them the things i told him not even my best friend nows.

he said to me that when were both established (both got jobs n doing well, lived a bit more) that we might get back together.

all i really want is for him to hug me n tell me that he hever forget me if our friendship doens't work out..



I can understand the way you're feeling - I've been there myself on more than a few occasions. The best thing may be to let him go though. Are you prepared to do that?

Sorry girl but it sounds like your relationship is based on what each other says, not what each other does.

Concentrate on yourself for a while. He wants to break up... sounds like he IS playing you a bit. Detach, and depend less.

Although im not perpard to let him go i know i have too, and that ova time i'll be fine..

i know im not being played, i'v been played befor and it was nothing like this.

should i keep calling when he asks me to and messagehim when he asks?

quote:Originally posted by Synical:

Although im not perpard to let him go i know i have too, and that ova time i'll be fine..

i know im not being played, i'v been played befor and it was nothing like this.

should i keep calling when he asks me to and messagehim when he asks?

I think the best thing for you (and him) is to make it a clean break. If you call and message each other it'll just remind you of what you once had. Which will hurt you both in the long run (or at least you) In short: No.



[This message has been edited by Winston_smith (edited 12-09-2006).]

i'm friends with some of his friends and his friend with some of mine and now were just really good friends. he's staying at my housein my bed on sunday as he still needs to get his stuff out, but i want him to come back tonights as if we were still together it would be our anniversary today. which makes it even harder

quote:Originally posted by Synical:

i'm friends with some of his friends and his friend with some of mine and now were just really good friends. he's staying at my housein my bed on sunday as he still needs to get his stuff out, but i want him to come back tonights as if we were still together it would be our anniversary today. which makes it even harder



That's a bad situation. Do you think there's a chance of you getting back together? If so, invite him over. If not then don't let yourself be drawn into anything. You wouldn't want to end up just on booty call (I'm sorry, but it needed to be said)

there is a chance of us getting back together i mean i droped him off the day after we broke up and he look devistated. haha booty call.

i'm not comfortable with one night stands so i think i'd be fine with just being a fuck buddy.

although very down grading. i want him. and i know that he wants me

quote:Originally posted by Synical:

there is a chance of us getting back together i mean i droped him off the day after we broke up and he look devistated. haha booty call.

i'm not comfortable with one night stands so i think i'd be fine with just being a fuck buddy.

although very down grading. i want him. and i know that he wants me

Being a fuck buddy is all good and everything but would you be happy with that. Sounds like you were pretty into each other. Could you go from a meanigful relationship to one just focussed on fucking? If not don't do it, it will only hurt you.

a very haed decision and i believe that the state of mindim in right now is uncapable of makeing such a hard decision. i think i should leave that bit till i am able to think about him and not cry

quote:Originally posted by Synical:

a very haed decision and i believe that the state of mindim in right now is uncapable of makeing such a hard decision. i think i should leave that bit till i am able to think about him and not cry

Hey look, just be strong. You WILL feel better eventually whether you get back together or not.

thank you very much, this has really really helped

quote:Originally posted by Synical:

thank you very much, this has really really helped



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