so, uh... when me and my boyfriend have sex, i can't have an orgasm.

he gets me right there and i feel like i'm going to, then it just goes away. it's really pissing me off because i just can't do it!

i've given myself an orgasm before, but nobody else has ever given me one. and now he constantly makes fun of me about being 'right there' all the time. it's not cool.

totse, how can i actually have an orgasm and stop getting 'right there' and losing it?

Scream, "HARDER, HARDER! NOW, I WANT TO COME, DAMNIT!"

:3

If he stops again while you're in the 'zone', just have a sword or something near by and hit him with it - eventually he'll learn.

quote:Originally posted by Influx:

If he stops again while you're in the 'zone', just have a sword or something near by and hit him with it - eventually he'll learn.

Wonderful advice! =P You don't want me to use this on you, do you?

That's when you take things into your own hands. You force that orgasm out..Grind into him harder, make him go faster. Just make yourself force it out.. If you want it bad enough..it'll come.

quote:Originally posted by Hardly There:

That's when you take things into your own hands. You force that orgasm out..Grind into him harder, make him go faster. Just make yourself force it out.. If you want it bad enough..it'll come.

Yeah. If you leave it up to the male to do most of the work, you'll be sorely disappointed..

quote:Originally posted by Hardly There:

That's when you take things into your own hands. You force that orgasm out..Grind into him harder, make him go faster. Just make yourself force it out.. If you want it bad enough..it'll come.



I agree. Except that won't work for me...specifically.

What works better for me is to clinch my vagina as hard as possible, for as long as possible.

Although...I'd definately rethink the boyfriend.

quote:Originally posted by Influx:

If he stops again while you're in the 'zone', just have a sword or something near by and hit him with it - eventually he'll learn.

that's the thing... he doesn't stop. he'll get me there then i lose it. grrr...

quote:Originally posted by oc6:

Although...I'd definately rethink the boyfriend.

It's like I don't even need to post...

quote:Originally posted by oc6:

Although...I'd definately rethink the boyfriend.

Jeez, why is it automatically his fault? Read her posts. He doesn't stop. No one except herself can get her off. I doubt it's just him.

Of course it's not just him twisted. Although, my first boyfriend gave me my first orgasm...I had never even masturbated before.

It's this that is not very helpful:

quote:Originally posted by xilikeeggs0:

and now he constantly makes fun of me about being 'right there' all the time. it's not cool.

It's one thing if it's shared humour...but, it doesn't sound as though it is by the way she wrote it.

I'm sure he's somewhat frustrated and might be using that kind of humour to express that, but I doubt that it is helpful.

[This message has been edited by oc6 (edited 12-05-2006).]

Maybe it's more of a mental thing than a physical one?