So yesterday I had sex for the first time..

Basicaly I didn't feel a thing, I couldn't really tell I was inside her tbh. I have no basis for comparison, but I don't think she's particularly loose or anything. She's half japanese and really slim and shit, probably not shit. I'd say I'm wider than average, infact I quote her "God, youre wide!". So I don't think its an issue to do with our proportions. But yet I really felt fuck all.

Possible reasons are the condom, and that I was actually not very horny at all, unfortunately. I have fuck all sex drive. I don't feel much recently, actually. If she gives me oral, I don't feel anything really.

It didn't used to be like that, iirc.

TBH sex seems like such an insignificant step. The first time she held my hand a couple of months ago, was WAY more exciting and relevant.

Do you think a condom takes an awful lot of sensitivity away?

Thanks dudes

Chances are it was because it was your first time. But the condom does lower sensitivity.

I'd pin most of it on the condom... we had the same problem until we found a different brand, i could feel it fine, but way better without

Are you circumsized? That plays a role in it too.

You had all kinds of ideas about what sex is supposed to be like. My first time I remember finishing and thinking.....is that it? The condom will have something to do with it, but know that it'll get much better with practice.

quote:Originally posted by Fanglekai:

You had all kinds of ideas about what sex is supposed to be like. My first time I remember finishing and thinking.....is that it? The condom will have something to do with it, but know that it'll get much better with practice.



yeah, i'd agree.

Try getting some lube and putting a little inside and outside the condom. I remember thinking the same thing as you until I figured that out, your sensation increases a lot with good lubrication.

If you don't like it, then don't do it. It's as obvious as that.

no, im not circumsised.

I think its mostly because I wasn't, and never am, horny. Im sure you can all agree that if youre not horny, no physical stimulation is useful. Its no more pleasureable than any other random part of your body.

quote:Originally posted by psychojoe:

no, im not circumsised.

I think its mostly because I wasn't, and never am, horny. Im sure you can all agree that if youre not horny, no physical stimulation is useful. Its no more pleasureable than any other random part of your body.

That's not true, actually. If I'm not horny, a sexy girl rubbing my cock will make me horny rather fast.

The penis also happens to be a spot on the body that is extra-sensitive to sensations like that, commonly known as erroneous zones.

Sounds to me, though, like you're broken.

Well, you lost. =/

yea Gus, im broken. My testosterone is rock-bottom but the doc doesnt give a fuck. I might start juicing or something.

quote:Originally posted by psychojoe:

yea Gus, im broken. My testosterone is rock-bottom but the doc doesnt give a fuck. I might start juicing or something.

Do you care, though?

If you don't care about it, then DON'T WORRY ABOUT IT.

Seriously, give it time and you'll either grow into wanting it, or you just won't. That's the hand life dealt you.

yea I care a lot, partly because I want a high sex drive like I used to have, because it would be fun now that I have a girl who wants it too. But I dont mind about that too much, because when you dont want it, you dont want it. So it isnt such a big deal.

But mainly because of what the hormonal problem means for my main/only interest which is various physical training aims. I absolutely can not make progress with my hormones so fucked as this. I've been stuck for so long, and it really really upsets me.

That post was a swirling vortex of circle logic.

Just go get her to suck your cock. Problem solved.

somone need's to try

"Teh Buttsex" !!!

quote:Originally posted by psychojoe:

I don't feel much recently, actually. If she gives me oral, I don't feel anything really.



quote:Originally posted by Gus:

Just go get her to suck your cock. Problem solved.

great plan.

quote:Originally posted by Fanglekai:

You had all kinds of ideas about what sex is supposed to be like. My first time I remember finishing and thinking.....is that it? The condom will have something to do with it, but know that it'll get much better with practice.

Word. Same thing with first kiss. It was a lot of nothingness. Except good nothingness. I dunno, hard to explain.

Mebbe you are a wufter?

It felt the same way for me the first time. I think it's the whole expectations factor. Also when I'm not that horny and I'm forced to have sex the orgasm is usually lackluster. (btw, I'm a guy, it happens albeit rarely)

Same here, the condom made my dick shrink after 2 hours of pointless painful sex for her . we lost it to eachouther. how sweet?

Fucking girls is for Puffs.

It's almost certainly the condom. I can't feel anything when I wear them.

quote:Originally posted by southernsun:

Fucking girls is for Puffs.

valid. Its gay

quote:Originally posted by southernsun:

Fucking girls is for Puffs.

What the hell are Puffs? That's a brand of facial tissue here. Please explain.

quote:Originally posted by Fanglekai:

What the hell are Puffs? That's a brand of facial tissue here. Please explain.

As in "pouf" (spelling?) - slang for a gay.

I have the same problem. Stop jacking off for a good uh, year or 10. That might horny you up.

quote:Originally posted by Looking Forward:

I have the same problem. Stop jacking off for a good uh, year or 10. That might horny you up.

hmm, well when I was horny I used to jack off every day without fail. Now I still do it but not as ofton, and usually only to get to sleep. Maybe I'll try not doing so for a while. It isnt the cause of the problem, but it might help

Dont jerk off. Ever again. It will fix your problem.

That's weird man. It was almost the exact same with me. I lost my virginity a couple years ago. I was also on coke though for my first time so I think that probably had a lot to do with it. I remember her having an orgasm while I was pumping away at god knows what. But I still really have no fucking clue if I cummed or not.

Kinda shitty. I only remember about a minute total of losing my virginity but I know it was longer than that because I remember having 4 play until it got light out.

quote:Originally posted by Gus:



The penis also happens to be a spot on the body that is extra-sensitive to sensations like that, commonly known as erroneous zones.



That's an erroneous comment.