ok so i have always thought that i simply do not orgasm. but i am starting to think that i do but they are just incredibly mild. because i get an increase in pleasure, then it just goes away and i really am not interested anymore..or at least as much as i was prior.

this doesnt happened everytime so that is what makes me think that maybe it is an orgasm. i was just curious if this is even possible.

thank you for your input or flames

I would need pictures to examine your vagina for a clear cut prescription to your problem.

Anyway I could get those forwarded to my office?

Input: Could be. That's the way I've been. I can feel my orgasms, and I know when they happen, but I barely get any pleasure out of them.

Flame: You're sexually defective.

Input: My penis

Flame: See Above

Sorry i have nothing to contribute please enjoy this free bump.

That might be the case. It's been so long since that has happened to me. I just assumed that they were "near orgasms" and that I was just having trouble that day.

Interesting question.

*is blinded*

Take what you can get, I'd say. Although I do know if I stop right after I get over the hill of blowing it, it's not nearly as good as if I keep going...

And when ya keep going, you usually stay rather hard and can go again and again.

quote:Originally posted by Gus:

And when ya keep going, you usually stay rather hard and can go again and again.

umm...i'm a girl...i dont get, nor need to stay, hard.

but...thanks

quote:Originally posted by oral fixation:

umm...i'm a girl...i dont get, nor need to stay, hard.

but...thanks

I know that silly woman, but not EVERYTHING is about you...

But yeah, the point still stands...: Keep on going through the initial feelings and see if it gets better... I thought that was obvious as to what I was saying...

idk...whenever that does happen to me i loose all interest. things just dont even feel good anymore. usually it happens when i masturbate, but every once in a blue moon when i have sex. so thats annoying when i have to fake enthusiasm. :/

Then I'd guess you shouldn't keep going? I mean, if you don't care that much aboutt he guy to do it for him, then you should just tell him to get the fuck off.

You should keep going. Sometimes I get almost 'flutters' and I get a lot, before I get an orgasm.. Other times it just skips to the finale

quote:Originally posted by kAtE-:

You should keep going. Sometimes I get almost 'flutters' and I get a lot, before I get an orgasm.. Other times it just skips to the finale

This might be the first time she's ever agreed with me!

*Takes a picture*

quote:Originally posted by Gus:

Then I'd guess you shouldn't keep going? I mean, if you don't care that much aboutt he guy to do it for him, then you should just tell him to get the fuck off.



i do care that's why i fake it.



and to kate- i stop going because i don't get anything more out of it. i try for a few more minutes and then im just..bored. which still doesnt make sense cause women are usually able to keep going after they orgasm. ugh, i hate my malfunctioning body.

quote:Originally posted by oral fixation:



i do care that's why i fake it.



and to kate- i stop going because i don't get anything more out of it. i try for a few more minutes and then im just..bored. which still doesnt make sense cause women are usually able to keep going after they orgasm. ugh, i hate my malfunctioning body.

Yea, can keep going. Doesn't mean we always want to.

There's nothing wrong with not really wanting to after an orgasm. You probably just feel content, happy and satisfied. At least you can orgasm without loads of trouble though.

quote:Originally posted by oral fixation:

....cause women are usually able to keep going after they orgasm.

I have to stop for a while if my clit is stimulated after having an orgasm. Plus, sometimes I lose interest after I have too.

Have you figured out how to build up to that "almost" point? Or, is it so subtle that you can't tell if you're close?

My experience is that there are several different levels of orgasm for women, There is the earth shattering screaming and kicking clawing my back type. There is also the wow that felt good lets do it again orgasm and then there is I think I cum which happens a little to often for my liking

quote:Originally posted by oc6:

I have to stop for a while if my clit is stimulated after having an orgasm. Plus, sometimes I lose interest after I have too.

Have you figured out how to build up to that "almost" point? Or, is it so subtle that you can't tell if you're close?

it really is that subtle. i am actaully wondering if it is that almost point or an orgasm.

and duck in the fog i don't really feel content or satified. i just feel..done. that's why i made this thread; don't even know if i am orgasming. and if i am it deffinatly does not deserve the title the BIG o.

quote:Originally posted by oral fixation:

it really is that subtle. i am actaully wondering if it is that almost point or an orgasm.



Don't underestimate yourself. It was decades before I had a vaginal orgasm. It was after a nine month period of self-imposed celebacy. I had had other orgasms before, but none strictly thru intercourse. I remember thinking to myself, "This is what the fuss is all about". It was better than anything I had ever known before...and was years until it happened again too.

I now know how to make it happen, after quite a bit of experimentation. Try experimenting with reaching a certain pleasure point, then stopping for a bit and bring yourself to that point again. You'll probably begin to be able to control and predict your response after a while and it will happen for you.

I have noticed that there is a point where my vulva begins to feel a bit numb...and it is after that point...with increased stimulation that I will go over that peak.

Enjoy what you do have right now though. It sounds promising to me.

Theres nothing wrong with you oral fixation, Its actually pretty impressive imo that you can orgasm from masterbation with fingers.

My girlfriend has the same problem, she has really mild orgasms that are exactly pleasurable, more like just there, like you're finished but it wasnt some huge peak of pleasure.

Orgasms will change over time, as you age, theoretically it should only get better untill you're about 30, and i'm sure you have a long way to go untill then.

Keep trying?

quote:Originally posted by pulsera:

Orgasms will change over time, as you age, theoretically it should only get better untill you're about 30, and i'm sure you have a long way to go untill then.



Nope. Go higher.

See a sex therapist? Like you may be subconsciously shutting down the orgasm becuase you feel guilty somehow that you are enjoying yourself. I somehow doubt the problem is one of stimulation or anything physical.

quote:Originally posted by oc6:

Nope. Go higher.

Deeper! DEEPER! YES YEEEES YYYESSSSSSSSSSSS!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Ok, who wants to clean up this mess?

quote:Originally posted by pulsera:

Theres nothing wrong with you oral fixation, Its actually pretty impressive imo that you can orgasm from masterbation with fingers.

i don't use my fingers.

and outcast/oc6 i don't really know when i should stop. its like a build up and it just randomly diminishes. and i'm afraid that if i stop i wont even get to the point where i do.

i hate it tho, it isnt even satisfying, its just completion.

quote:Originally posted by oral fixation:

...and i'm afraid that if i stop i wont even get to the point where i do.

i hate it tho, it isnt even satisfying, its just completion.

Conquer your fears then. I mean, what have you got to lose if it's not even satisfying?

Oh, If you don't use your fingers...learn how to.

[This message has been edited by oc6 (edited 12-04-2006).]

quote:Originally posted by oc6:

Oh, If you don't use your fingers...learn how to.

meh....i can use my fingers on my clit, but i REALLY enjoy vaginal stimulation when i masturbate...kinda hard to do on your own.

Simple fix:

Call The Dan. ;D

quote:Originally posted by oral fixation:

meh....i can use my fingers on my clit, but i REALLY enjoy vaginal stimulation when i masturbate...kinda hard to do on your own.

You have two hands...I don't see the problem....

Try one hand from behind....the other from the front.

quote:Originally posted by oc6:

You have two hands...I don't see the problem....

Try one hand from behind....the other from the front.

ok...i like DEEP vaginal penetration. infact i only get to the point i am talking about if penetration is involved.

and i have short fingers

^Shut the fuck up........

I have huge hands and extremely long fingers. 8" or so (although 3-4" of that is palm). Ja? Ja?

But seriously, try a vibrator?

i just use a didlo...gets the job done.



but mind you i can achieve that state from intercourse as well, so i am not dependent on sex toys.

Then you're fucked. There, happy?

Ugh, there isn't much else that can be done.

Well....maybe just move this to b&m then???

Hey....if you are satisfied with being unsatisified....then....don't try anything different....

How does she masturbate if not with her fingers? I mean...Is there another way to stimulate the clitoris that I don't know about? (I mean when one is alone.:P)

And Oral Fixation: It seems to me like you're just determined to be unsatisfied with your sex life. You're like me with EAS in that I'm pretty much determined to hate it because I think it's gross and evil. I know this is irrational, but let's face it I don't go to therapy 3 times a week for nothing!:P

I think maybe you don't think you deserve to feel sexual pleasure...I mean in your subconsious.

quote:Originally posted by Xiao Mei:

I think maybe you don't think you deserve to feel sexual pleasure...I mean in your subconsious.



It could be as much a mental block as it is physical.

Light orgasm... That sounds like what happens with your flip that switch on the wall too many times... Or you pull that cord hardddd and fastttt and then... BAM! All over the place...

A light orgasm.

idk, i wish i knew if i was doing that or not. its a shame we don't know what our minds are doing half the time/what makes us tick.

i am actually happy that there is some change tho. it isnt completely satisfying, but at least there is something going on.