Seriously, haha, every week i have about 3-4 guys interested in me and you know, i go on dates, all is well and then i just never hear from them again, or they talk to me on msn in 3-4 word responses. Im not unattractive so i dont think its the way i look, i dont talk too much, i dont talk too little, im not stupid, i can hold an intelligent conversation together, i dress well, i wear expensive perfume and makeup, i spend an hour getting my hair to look the way it does. Im sweet and nice and just ignore anything that a guy does that gets on my nerves, im not a prude but im also not slutty, you know,ill be the first to admit i like sex but its not like i advertise it or anything, i always look for the good side in them and let them know im keen on them and yet, here i am, not in a relationship? haha. Its like theres some big bad secret about me, not even i know that they get told 2 days after we meet haha. Whats wrong with me?

quote:Originally posted by Lala:

Whats wrong with me?

Nothing.

As predictable an answer as this reads, it's them and not you.

And you're definately not retarded if you do all those things you said you do. Stop being hard on yourself.

quote:Originally posted by Trousersnake:

Nothing.

As predictable an answer as this reads, it's them and not you.

And you're definately not retarded if you do all those things you said you do. Stop being hard on yourself.

hmm i dont know? how can they be interested in me and then all of a sudden not be? If it is them, then theyre fucked in the head haha

quote:Originally posted by Lala:

how can they be interested in me and then all of a sudden not be? If it is them, then theyre fucked in the head haha



Who knows? You sounded really good with looking good, acting really cool and nice (or should I say...being yourself?) and putting in the effort - They might think you're too good for them. I'm not joking.

quote:Originally posted by Lala:

If it is them, then theyre fucked in the head haha

Distinct possibility.

Why do you care? Fuck 'em. As already stated, it's them, not you.

quote:Originally posted by stab:

Why do you care? Fuck 'em. As already stated, it's them, not you.

You wouldn't care if you were in her shoes? I've been there and still would be if I didn't learn to not care what others think - A weight has been lifted

quote:Originally posted by Lala:

i wear expensive perfume and makeup, i spend an hour getting my hair to look the way it does.

Maybe you seem Stepford-wife type perfection, and intimidate them!

quote:Originally posted by stab:

Why do you care? Fuck 'em. As already stated, it's them, not you.

Because i have shit self confidence when it comes to guys, i always put them before me haha i have this retarded way of thinking, that if im not seen as relationship material then im a shit person? haha kind of a wierd 50's housewife way of looking at it i guess ha. im just so sick of being single.

Hm, too bad I don't know you in real life. You actually sound interesting from the few posts here.

quote:Originally posted by Flock:

Originally posted by Lala:

i wear expensive perfume and makeup, i spend an hour getting my hair to look the way it does.

Maybe you seem Stepford-wife type perfection, and intimidate them!



ahh no not quite haha, im a bit alternative, and you know, have my own views and stuff, im not the average jo blow girl. i dont know ha. maybe im not stupid enough for them? haha

quote:Originally posted by Lala:

Because i have shit self confidence when it comes to guys, i always put them before me haha i have this retarded way of thinking, that if im not seen as relationship material then im a shit person? haha kind of a wierd 50's housewife way of looking at it i guess ha. im just so sick of being single.

Us together would be a sight to behold, me trying to put you ahead of me and you trying to put me ahead of you.

Sounds like a comedy routine.

quote:Originally posted by Trapped In A Box:

Hm, too bad I don't know you in real life. You actually sound interesting from the few posts here.

haha thats always the way of the internet isnt it? :P

quote:Originally posted by Trousersnake:

Us together would be a sight to behold, me trying to put you ahead of me and you trying to put me ahead of you.

Sounds like a comedy routine.

haha, definately.

Stop looking in the same places for men. Stop letting a man think that you don't care about his faults. And stop buying expensive perfume.

Perhaps also spend less time on your hair, and more time not worrying about men. If you stop looking and trying to get one, you'll seem less desperate and more attractive.

Just enjoy yourself, don't worry about finding a date, and have a blast. Your natural confidence will shine through and you'll snag yourself a good man soon enough.

...Unless you're in Australia... Then you're sort of screwed (not a single untaken good man on that entire lump of rock from what all the women I talk to from there tell me).

EDiT: Ah yeah, just took a look at your myspace. You've got a nice face, and you could dress worse (I've never been a big fan of the emo/goth/punk/whatever scene), but you have no confidence. Stop being such a push over, and start being entertaining to talk to.

You wouldn't believe how many girls I have to tell this same thing, and how many just don't understand why they're rejected over and over even though they're smart and beautiful.

Brains will help you find the right guy.

Beauty will help you land him and get laid.

But it's confidence that'll end up determining if you keep him.

Work on all of these things, and perhaps think about importing a Kiwi guy, or even better: exporting yourself to somewhere with more men that like a submissive girl.

[This message has been edited by Gus (edited 12-03-2006).]

quote:Originally posted by Gus:

Stop looking in the same places for men. Stop letting a man think that you don't care about his faults. And stop buying expensive perfume.

Perhaps also spend less time on your hair, and more time not worrying about men. If you stop looking and trying to get one, you'll seem less desperate and more attractive.

Just enjoy yourself, don't worry about finding a date, and have a blast. Your natural confidence will shine through and you'll snag yourself a good man soon enough.

...Unless you're in Australia... Then you're sort of screwed (not a single untaken good man on that entire lump of rock from what all the women I talk to from there tell me).

Yep and i would be living in....australia haha.

im not obsessive about the way i look, but i have pride in the way i look you know, like i dont buy expensive perfume for guys, i buy it for myself, i like to look good or otherwise i have no confidence.

quote:Originally posted by Lala:

Yep and i would be living in....australia haha.

im not obsessive about the way i look, but i have pride in the way i look you know, like i dont buy expensive perfume for guys, i buy it for myself, i like to look good or otherwise i have no confidence.



See my above revision. If you learn how to be yourself and not need confidence from a bottle or a can, you'll understand that you can look good with very little of that extra bullshit.

Of course, though, you might have to change your entire look to something more earthy, such as dealing with natural skin/hair tones... But really now...

quote:Originally posted by Gus:

...Unless you're in Australia... Then you're sort of screwed (not a single untaken good man on that entire lump of rock from what all the women I talk to from there tell me).

Is that because they think they have the only one in existance, or cause they can't find me...umm him

quote:Originally posted by Trousersnake:

Is that because they think they have the only one in existance, or cause they can't find me...umm him

You aren't taken? Hell man, I could hook you up with any number of women all over that bloody place... Although most are near Sydney... Heh...

Oh, but I'm keeping one special one for myself... Hehehe....

If you live in Adelaide I could hook you up.

I know exactly how you feel, but just relax. It's not a big deal.

quote:Originally posted by stab:

If you live in Adelaide I could hook you up.

I know exactly how you feel, but just relax. It's not a big deal.



no i dont live in adelaide haha but thanks for the thought anyway..

I live in Townsville, maybe thats my problem? haha

Are you a powerpuff girl?

Why do I think you won't get that? Hahaha...

quote:Originally posted by Gus:

Are you a powerpuff girl?

Why do I think you won't get that? Hahaha...

yeah i get, they live in townsville ha, i get it all the time. This place is a joke haha.

quote:Originally posted by Lala:

yeah i get, they live in townsville ha, i get it all the time. This place is a joke haha.



Awesome...

Move to America, California to be specific. You'll have a much better time, and won't have to deal with that joke (unless you find a Townsville here!).

Lots of good men to choose from, mainly because there aren't any good women... Too many beach whores... Ugh.

quote:Originally posted by Gus:

Awesome...

Move to America, California to be specific. You'll have a much better time, and won't have to deal with that joke (unless you find a Townsville here!).

Lots of good men to choose from, mainly because there aren't any good women... Too many beach whores... Ugh.

haha, i think america would be a cool place to live, only if i had alot of money, being poor in america doesnt sound like much fun, being poor here on the other hand is like being rich except you dont have to work and the governemtn gives you everything haha.

quote:Originally posted by Lala:

haha, i think america would be a cool place to live, only if i had alot of money, being poor in america doesnt sound like much fun, being poor here on the other hand is like being rich except you dont have to work and the governemtn gives you everything haha.



...So yeah, you got a place for me to stay? I can cook, clean, sew, love to cuddle... I enjoy long walks om the beach (just no jellyfish, please), and not having to work, oh, and sex.

quote:Originally posted by Gus:

...So yeah, you got a place for me to stay? I can cook, clean, sew, love to cuddle... I enjoy long walks om the beach (just no jellyfish, please), and not having to work, oh, and sex.



hahaha sounds good man, cept its jellyfish season now. so you know,you might get stung.

quote:Originally posted by Lala:

hahaha sounds good man, cept its jellyfish season now. so you know,you might get stung.

Ah bugger that, how about we just go out for a nice hike... Away from all them jelly fish... Ugh...

Seriously though, I was talking to a friend about how the government pays for poor people and whatnot... Hell, that sounds like a nice cushy situation.

So you got your own place, or am I gonna have to stake some outback land and build our own place? ;P

quote:Originally posted by Gus:



So you got your own place, or am I gonna have to stake some outback land and build our own place? ;P

Hahahahaha! I dont think you can live in the outback unless you're farming, most of inland..land is unlivable anyway.

quote:Originally posted by Lala:



no i dont live in adelaide haha but thanks for the thought anyway..

I live in Townsville, maybe thats my problem? haha

Hey, you should chat to bananas, she's living in Townsville. Found a nice hairy man, she did. They're there.

quote:Originally posted by Lala:

Hahahahaha! I dont think you can live in the outback unless you're farming, most of inland..land is unlivable anyway.



Hell, I'm sure that with the proper use of underground houses, specialized tro--- Wait... Little to no money...

Uh, yeah, fuck that.

So, about your place... How big is the bed? I'll bring my computer and screen, so we can route the TV and shit through that.

But we'll need a big bed, so we've got snuggle room! ;D

quote:Originally posted by stab:

Hey, you should chat to bananas, she's living in Townsville. Found a nice hairy man, she did. They're there.

Yeah so townsville is like a small version of brisbane these days, theres a large collection of all sorts of people, alot of alternative people now (lame alternative people) but still not hairy men.

quote:Originally posted by Gus:

Hell, I'm sure that with the proper use of underground houses, specialized tro--- Wait... Little to no money...

Uh, yeah, fuck that.

So, about your place... How big is the bed? I'll bring my computer and screen, so we can route the TV and shit through that.

But we'll need a big bed, so we've got snuggle room! ;D

hahaha, i dont think my mum would appreciate the idea haha

quote:Originally posted by Lala:

hahaha, i dont think my mum would appreciate the idea haha



Ah well, it was a plan doomed for failure as I've already got an Australian I'm planning on stay with when I do make it over there...

Where is that bloody angel anyways?

quote:Originally posted by Lala:

Yeah so townsville is like a small version of brisbane these days, theres a large collection of all sorts of people, alot of alternative people now (lame alternative people) but still not hairy men.

The hairy man is taken!

Uh well, the place looks pretty alive. Sounds it too. I think you should focus on just being yourself and enjoying yourself, and the right guy will find you... you'll stumble into each other.

You know how when you don't worry about something, and just go with the flow, it always works out better?

It applies to love too, m'dear.

quote:Originally posted by stab:

The hairy man is taken!

Uh well, the place looks pretty alive. Sounds it too. I think you should focus on just being yourself and enjoying yourself, and the right guy will find you... you'll stumble into each other.

You know how when you don't worry about something, and just go with the flow, it always works out better?

It applies to love too, m'dear.

yeah youve got a good point.

quote:Originally posted by Gus:

Ah well, it was a plan doomed for failure as I've already got an Australian I'm planning on stay with when I do make it over there...

Where is that bloody angel anyways?

haha gosh we're a welcoming bunch ha.

quote:Originally posted by Lala:

haha gosh we're a welcoming bunch ha.

I know! It's awesome. A lovely place and all that. Dual-citizenship there would actually really be something I'd want.

And being able to give someone else dual-citizenship with America would be a nice thing, too.

Ah well, perhaps after I get done with schooling. And find the right girl.

quote:Originally posted by Gus:

I know! It's awesome. A lovely place and all that. Dual-citizenship there would actually really be something I'd want.

And being able to give someone else dual-citizenship with America would be a nice thing, too.

Ah well, perhaps after I get done with schooling. And find the right girl.

ohh im so glad, i finished school about a month ago, phew. haha. now i have to get a fulltime job and work and save and be boring for a year haha.

quote:Originally posted by Lala:

ohh im so glad, i finished school about a month ago, phew. haha. now i have to get a fulltime job and work and save and be boring for a year haha.



Oh nice, I'm still deciding on what kinda classes I'm going to take (either computer classes, or law enforcement classes. If I take the law enforcement, though, I'll take the computer ones later), but I'm not even 21 yet (a few days) so I've got plenty of time!

quote:Originally posted by Gus:

Oh nice, I'm still deciding on what kinda classes I'm going to take (either computer classes, or law enforcement classes. If I take the law enforcement, though, I'll take the computer ones later), but I'm not even 21 yet (a few days) so I've got plenty of time!



ohhh youre in university? haha

i just finished highschool i mean, im 17 lol

quote:Originally posted by Lala:



ohhh youre in university? haha

i just finished highschool i mean, im 17 lol

Yeah, I noticed. And not really university... It's more like... "Junior University because I barely graduated high school because I was too busy reading in the back of the class" which I've been going on-off to for a few years while working.

I didn't do too well on the few classes I took at first, so I stopped going for a bit. Now, though, I really want to go back and get this down with.

quote:Originally posted by Gus:

Yeah, I noticed. And not really university... It's more like... "Junior University because I barely graduated high school because I was too busy reading in the back of the class" which I've been going on-off to for a few years while working.

I didn't do too well on the few classes I took at first, so I stopped going for a bit. Now, though, I really want to go back and get this down with.



yeh i failed two classes out of pure laziness, i got a very high in english, a high in fine arts and a pass in maths so i cant complain, im not worried though cause i dont want to go to uni.

quote:Originally posted by Lala:



yeh i failed two classes out of pure laziness, i got a very high in english, a high in fine arts and a pass in maths so i cant complain, im not worried though cause i dont want to go to uni.

I hope you find whatever path in life that's right for you.

And do take it to heart to stop trying to find someone, and let the winds of life do that for you. If you aren't looking, you'll find someone.

But you REALLY have to stop looking.

quote:Originally posted by Lala:

Im sweet and nice and just ignore anything that a guy does that gets on my nerves,

So am I, but a lot of men like a woman who freely speaks her mind. Don't hold back so much.

quote:Originally posted by oc6:

So am I, but a lot of men like a woman who freely speaks her mind. Don't hold back so much.

Exactly. Being yourself, and not letting a man get away with that crap will get you much further than otherwise...

And welcome back oc6. Hope you slept well. Speaking of which, read me a bedtime story so I'll fall asleep...

Actually, I might just stay up all day.

quote:Originally posted by Gus:

Exactly. Being yourself, and not letting a man get away with that crap will get you much further than otherwise...

And welcome back oc6. Hope you slept well. Speaking of which, read me a bedtime story so I'll fall asleep...

Actually, I might just stay up all day.



Well good morning...

I slept well.

Hmmm....Cat in the Hat? Or is that too stimulating? Oh...I know. Fox in Sox? Green Eggs & Ham? Yea. Good stories...good food.

quote:Originally posted by oc6:



Well good morning...

I slept well.

Hmmm....Cat in the Hat? Or is that too stimulating? Oh...I know. Fox in Sox? Green Eggs & Ham? Yea. Good stories...good food.

Ya know, as always the moment I typed/said (outloud as I was speaking while typing as I have a really bad habit of doing when I'm tired) that, I instantly knew that I don't want to stay up all day.

So, how about a story from Issac Asimov's Robot Visions? Plllllease? I won't even bite that hard while nursin' this time.

EDiT: Oh, and green eggs has NEVER been something I'd consider a good food hun. ;D



[This message has been edited by Gus (edited 12-03-2006).]

quote:Originally posted by Gus:

Ya know, as always the moment I typed/said (outloud as I was speaking while typing as I have a really bad habit of doing when I'm tired) that, I instantly knew that I don't want to stay up all day.

So, how about a story from Issac Asimov's Robot Visions? Plllllease? I won't even bite that hard while nursin' this time.

EDiT: Oh, and green eggs has NEVER been something I'd consider a good food hun. ;D





*Get out teething ring*

I don't have that one. It's a good one?

Can you tell me why, if I have two windows open on firefox, I can't use apostrophes?

quote:Originally posted by oc6:

*Get out teething ring*

I don't have that one. It's a good one?

Can you tell me why, if I have two windows open on firefox, I can't use apostrophes?

...I'd think because you're using firefox, love.

Oh, and I've yet to find a bad Asimov. I've looked, too! It's just his robot books have a lot of nice little stories in them...

*Bites the ring off and gets to work*