We all know about sexuality, personality, conflict resolution, and trust. These things create infatuation in a compatible partner...but what turns infatuation into love?

It is many things, but what I have noticed most is this: Being apart.

When apart, many thoughts can enter one's head...but what clues me in that it might just be love is along these lines:

'If they need time alone on occasion to be happy then that's what must be done, but I'd really prefer to be them.'

It's the fusing of a selfless and selfish state into one...and for some reason, the selfless state overpowers the selfish one. I think this thought arises out of a total respect for both partner's wishes, yet setting the happiness of your adored one above your own desire.

Who knows though? I could be entirely wrong.

Time apart gives you a chance to breath, and to be yourself.

It also gives you a time to want to be back together.

It really is vital for a lasting relationship.

But too much time apart leads to distress usually.

quote:Originally posted by Gus:

Time apart gives you a chance to breath, and to be yourself.

It also gives you a time to want to be back together.

It really is vital for a lasting relationship.

But too much time apart leads to distress usually.

I understand the application of time apart in the art of romance, but it wasn't until a few weeks ago that I saw how important it was to the spiritual aspect of a relationship. Time apart bonds two people together just as well as time together.

and this....is why i might consider you one of the more intelligent posters in this forum.

quote:Originally posted by lauren7249:

and this....is why i might consider you one of the more intelligent posters in this forum.

You don't have any comments on it? None at all? :\

The simple effect of putting the other's well being a step ahead of your own.

It's an amazing thing.

Hex and I see eye to eye far too often.

Now go get a job and start rebuilding your life.

"Absense is to the heart what wind is to flame; it extinguishes the weak, and invigorates the strong"

quote:Originally posted by Gus:

You don't have any comments on it? None at all? :\

That was a needy statement. You should make open ended statements more, not needy questions