is it possible for me to tell if I still have my hymen without fingering myself?

Not really. And you aren't fingering yourself, you're checking to see if your hymen is in tack.

Although, you could always just get a large man to fuck you, then you'd know you didn't have it.

what would be the aversion to fingering yourself?

You better post pics.

I really don't want to finger myself and i don't really know exactly know how to check to see if its there, and my boyfriend and I are getting to that stage of the relationship where we are going to start to do sexual things and he wants me to see if i still have it so he knows if he is going to hurt me or not.

My cock has hymen detection.

Really now, you best bet would be to finger yourself to not only find out if you still have it, but to stretch and maybe even break it.

That way, you'll be able to enjoy the first time with him all that much more dear. If you can get a dildo to do it, but otherwise it could very well hurt.

Whether you have a hymen or not doesn't determine whether its going to hurt or not. I can tell you right now it probably will hurt. Sex with my ex hurt her EVERY time(unless we had sex, then 10-20minitues later fucked again) in the begging for the first 15-20 times. I mean after the first 30 seconds of penetration and her vagina getting used to my dick the sex was able to commence and no problem but it hurt her at the begging and im not exactly big im average. So if you guys are worried about whether you still have a hymen its probably going to hurt you unless hes a fucking small dick.

If you dont want to finger your self I assume you've never masturbated and by your post your a virgin and therefore im 95% sure you still have it.

quote:Originally posted by bain surgeon:

If you dont want to finger your self I assume you've never masturbated and by your post your a virgin and therefore im 95% sure you still have it.

mmm nah. girls can easily lose it without having sex, just from doing sports and the like. i definitely didn't have mine when my boyfriend and i started fooling around. then again i also wasn't used to having a penis in me so it still hurt a little.

just stick your finger in. if it can go in all the way, your hymen's not there. or have him do it. trust me, you'll be able to tell.

quote:Originally posted by bain surgeon:

If you dont want to finger your self I assume you've never masturbated and by your post your a virgin and therefore im 95% sure you still have it.

yea but theres alot of other ways you can loose it, like horseback riding which i do every week.

and I do expect it to hurt, I'm not really too worried about that for some reason

MAKE Him go slow don't let him be a dick, from the way some guys talk they could care less about the virgin girl and have their way and don't take the time to let her ease into the sex. So make him, I did this with my ex and the sex was pretty good, and she enjoyed it and it reduced the pain.

just an added note to this post. Just how deep is the hymen anyway? Some of you may remember about my previous post on lying about my virginity. Well, i tried to see how far a dildo will go and suprisingly about little less than 5 inches went in but then it stopped completely. It wouldnt go any more and it hurt like a bitch if i tried to push it in any further. Well im not sure what the hell is up with that but if anyone has any idea, it'd be great to enlighten me on it. thanks.

quote:Originally posted by AprenticeChemistBITCHS:

Whether you have a hymen or not doesn't determine whether its going to hurt or not.

At last, some sense!

The hymen isn't usually a barrier!

It's round the edge near the opening, and unless you have an uncommon formation of hymen, it shouldn't obstruct much, which is why most girls can insert tampons trouble free, even before sex.

Virginity and the hymen is related far less than people think. And remnants of the hymen are often present in sexually active women.

I didn't bleed till AFTER my first time, and it was only a drop.. I probably still have some hymen left.

Yes it might be gone, just naturally?

All that might remain is the scent?

"Hi Men!"

quote:Originally posted by moonmeister:

Yes it might be gone, just naturally?

All that might remain is the scent?

"Hi Men!"

damn it u stole the joke that i was just going to make.

but i digress, actually no i dont

quote:Originally posted by rdmix:

just an added note to this post. Just how deep is the hymen anyway? Some of you may remember about my previous post on lying about my virginity. Well, i tried to see how far a dildo will go and suprisingly about little less than 5 inches went in but then it stopped completely. It wouldnt go any more and it hurt like a bitch if i tried to push it in any further. Well im not sure what the hell is up with that but if anyone has any idea, it'd be great to enlighten me on it. thanks.

cervix

cervix? somehow i doubt that, the cervix should be deeper...right?

quote:Originally posted by rdmix:

cervix? somehow i doubt that, the cervix should be deeper...right?

Nope. I can touch my cervix with my middle finger.

quote:Originally posted by oc6:

Nope. I can touch my cervix with my middle finger.

Yet you could prob take an 8"-er?

How does that work anyways?

quote:Originally posted by moonmeister:

Yet you could prob take an 8"-er?

How does that work anyways?

REALLY long fingers, especially good for... Finger-things.

Nope, that dude was right. When a woman's body is preparing her for sex, through getting aroused and wet etc, the vagina expands and elongates ready for intercourse. The cervix actually isn't that far from the opening.

When you finger your own cervix? Is that called "self_cervix"?

quote:Originally posted by moonmeister:

When you finger your own cervix? Is that called "self_cervix"?

Self Serviexing!

quote:Originally posted by moonmeister:

Yet you could prob take an 8"-er?

How does that work anyways?



You know...I just never have that tape measure out to take measurements. So, I don't know.

I hear it elongates when aroused. But that just might be rumour.

quote:Originally posted by AprenticeChemistBITCHS:

....no problem but it hurt her at the begging and im not exactly big im average. So if you guys are worried about whether you still have a hymen its probably going to hurt you unless hes a fucking small dick.

duuuude yeeah

me and my girlfriend did it for the first time last week. it was both our first time. sticking it in wasnt easy. it was extremely painful for her. i blame the evil hymen. she described it as a "cutting" feeling of pain. there was a little blood too. meanwhile im like wtf wtf wtf. and let her do the up and down cus if i did it she'd be like ow! and ill be like srry.

the funniest part tho, was the phone rang

and she picked up and she started talking to the person and going up and down on me at the same time. bwahhaah! it was so funny.



overall it was very slow. we didnt cum. looking forward to round 2. hoping itd be way better next time.

*pounds head against wall*

So many people think the hymen is a complete barrier deep inside the vagina. Flock's the only person who seems to know what she's talking about, it's at the entrance and doesn't cover it completely. If it did, what the hell would a girl do when she started to menstruate?

Incidentally, asking someone about the hymen is the best way to find out who's lying about sleeping with a virgin. "Yeah dude it was about three or four inches in I had to push through it but it broke and I got the rest of the way in". Heh.

Saphi, if you regularly ride horses, I very very much doubt you'll still have an intact hymen.

And yes, rdmix, that's definitely your cervix.

just straddle him (you on top) and sit on his dick.

if it hurts you can sit up,and if it doesnt go down on it slowly until its all in .

problem solved.

I strongly suggest that you Google "hymen" in Google Images. You're getting a lot of misinformation here. A picture's worth 1,000 words...or some sh*t like that. I also know for certain that a petite female may have a cervix located within 5-6" of the entrance to the vagina, and can't accept deep penetration. I'm not clear on why you are so reluctant to manually explore yourself. You will truly be better off if you masturbate through to a orgasm at least once before you attempt to have sex. Whilst you up to that, you can certainly check for your hymen.

if you have fallen and landed sitting down hard, it might have torn, splits tears it, landing on a bar does too. any rigerous activity will tear it, but it wont be torn like you have had sex, there are diff type of tears. your not fingering yourself to check, your checking...BIG difference.

I find it odd that someone who isn't comfortable enough with their sexuality to touch themselves is willing to make the transition to intercourse...

quote:Originally posted by Byss:

I find it odd that someone who isn't comfortable enough with their sexuality to touch themselves is willing to make the transition to intercourse...

Agreed.