New halfassed game I decided to start all of sudden here.

Going off of my latest thread ('Totse, my ramblings'), I figure I've got little to nothing to lose, so here we go.

I'm 18, about 5'8", well built (everyone thinks I'm very into football/hockey due to my physical appearance. Been told I'm cute/hot/etc. so not exactly a bucket of crap, I suppose, but I never see it. I ha somewhat of a preppy (American Eagle/Mecca/etc.) style, but meh. I mountainbike like it's a religion, and eat, breathe and sleep snowboarding in the winter. I walk the line of the law, and cross it a lot, I lack a consience in any way.

She's also 18, about 5'4", nice body (thin, into snowboarding/etc. More of a metal/etc. fan, as in the screamo stuff, I can listen to some just fine and find it catchy/alright, so meh. Also kinda preppy in style, AE/similar. Also not opposed to anything on the other side of the law, we're actually setting to exchange her broken camera with a new one, from a display case, tomorrow. It's been planned and is solid, consider it a 'bonding' experience.

We work together (electronics store), and we've had about 4 shifts together so far. I decided to go for it, and flirted with her. She did it back, and it's every-time thing, but I know I've gotta keep it from looking like that's all it is. I've been asked by a few co-workers if I plan to ask her out, etc. etc.

Now, this is where you guys can step in. Past this, I'm a bit shy for some reason. Very confident/etc. out of the gate, but much past this point I back off a lot :\

Not a fear of her (er..duh), but perhaps one of messing it up myself. Now, I'll give totse the controls here, almost. I'm planning to ask her to lunch tomorrow, as a start, and see how that goes.

Past this, you guys can decide/advise on what to say/do, within sane reason. Any and all idea considered, so get cracking. Whether it be funny/crazy/etc. I'll consider and likely do it, and since we share pretty much the same sense of humour, it can pretty much just go well, or at least somewhere funny. So, type away, S&A!

*suicides*

You can do all that crazy shit outdoors, but you have the hardest time just asking a girl if she would like to hangout this weekend?

Ask her if you can call her to hang out, ask her if she would like to hang out, be honest. Be upfront and you will reap the rewards of that pussy in no time. When I say honest, let me point out that I mean logical honest, don't tell her you want to fuck her in the ass and then cum on her face after she sucks the shit off your dick.

Well... with the sports and all (going for rugby team in the spring as well, actually), it's the more the better/more fun. The speed/danger of it is an adrenaline rush, and I never about getting hurt. Now, relationships on the other hand..

The simple step of asking her to lunch is easy and straightforward enough, I know, but somehow finding a time/etc. for it (to ask) is somehow tricky. Randomly is alright, or if in a small conversation already, that I know, but I'll see how it goes. The where of lunch is a different story entirely, though, I know the restaurants around the store/etc. pretty well but as to which.. *shrug* Meh, we'll see.

At the end of a conversation as you are both walking away, turn around and say, "Hey, I was wondering if you would like to hangout this weekend?".

That is all it takes, if she says no, move on. If she says yes, then you ask for her number, right it down. Wait till Saturday or Friday afternoon, depending on your schedule.

You have to give her enough notice so she doesn't make plans, and can get ready. Calling at night is a bad idea, calling too early in the afternoon shows neediness. Call at around 3 - 6.

here's the way that i ask people out. (note: i am a female, so my strategies might be different.) i find it helpful to gently guide the conversation towards doing something together outside of the regular stuff. usually if you do this you get some cues about if the person wants to go out with you. here's a rough model of a progression you can aim for (not verbatim, of course):

how's life?

(beginning to conversation)

what have you been doing lately?

(figure out what she likes to do, availability.)

where in your life can i fit in?

(make plans)

here's an example of how this might play out, if she likes you:

you: how's life?

her: it's good. i'm going snowboarding in 2 weeks. but work's getting to me.

you: cool, i love snowboarding, but yeah, i'm totally looking forward to the end of this shift.

her: yeah, oh my god, me too.

you: so what are you doing after this?

her: uh, i dunno. i have an errand at 7 but before that i'll just be hanging out, maybe go get dinner.

you: cool. i'm going to be pretty free tonight. you want to do something, maybe get dinner together?

i chose dinner, but you can choose anything you like or anything that seems natural. be an opportunist, but create opportunities. if she likes you, she'll allow those opportunities to happen, rather than blocking them.

^Yea, I can tell that you are a girl from reading that. Since a lot of girls try to lead conversations to manipulate you into saying something, or asking them something.

Guys, I don't know, it depends on how girls like it, would you rather a guy be upfront and ask you out with boldness, or kind of beat around a bush in a sly, but slick/flirty manner?

Or does it all depend on the girl?

Lunch is bad, i go to lunch with my female FRIENDS, not with girls i want to hook up with.

Ask her to dinner and a movie, or ask her if she wants to spend a weekend snowboarding with you, rent a room, etc.

Anything but lunch.

I'll clear it up a bit: We've talked before, obviously, so I know I can toss it into random conversation easily enough.

Lunch was chosen since we both work that day, and pretty much take lunch at about the same time. Convenience is about the only reason now, dinner works too (sort of, we get off at 6 or so PM, so movie is possible, but I know how 'great' movies are for dates. :\

I tend to be pretty bold with things like this if I can, beating around it seems too un-confident, and that's not what I typically seem like, or at least I like to think so. :\ haha

Dinner/etc. would work better, I know, but I'm going on simple/convenient/etc. I've got enough common sense show my intent (read: not just a friend) in conversation/etc.

As a note, any other time I've asked her to go somewhere (just take a break together or something)/for something (phone #, msn) it was more or less at the end of the day, walking away, etc. generally seems more spontaneous and so on, but meh, it works. Keep the ideas/etc. coming here, I'm listening.

UPDATE:

*drags up from bottom of page*

So yeah, we went to lunch today, pushed the car out of a ditch (93' chrysler, pretty light as far as cars go), sat and talked for about 30 min in the car/etc.

Haven't asked her out yet, might get to it either monday or thursday *shrug* I know i've got nothing to lose by trying, and oh-so-much to gain, but somehow it's still nerve-racking. :\ Bah.

quote:Originally posted by CarbonB:

You can do all that crazy shit outdoors, but you have the hardest time just asking a girl if she would like to hangout this weekend?

Ask her if you can call her to hang out, ask her if she would like to hang out, be honest. Be upfront and you will reap the rewards of that pussy in no time. When I say honest, let me point out that I mean logical honest, don't tell her you want to fuck her in the ass and then cum on her face after she sucks the shit off your dick.



Beautiful advice...you don't say shit like that unless you're already in the bedroom.

Well duh, I'm not that dumb haha.. a)that tends to just turn girls away like crazy, except the hookers b)during work/common daily stuff, not everyone's mind is always on that, so it's one of those '...wtf?' type things, crosses the line, I think. In bedroom depending on what she/you're into, but yeah, 100% duh there, I've never seen anyone get anywhere with a girl using that. Mostly just laughed out of the room/house, but that's about it.

Apparently I give the image of being very laid-back a lot of the time, and a serious side of me (in personal stuff, not work, or I'd get fired) is something a lot of people don't see a lot of the time, or at all. Not that I don't get taken seriously by others, but I'm wondering if this is an advantage or disadvantage with girls and this type of thing, seems to be an advantage at face value, but *shrug* everything has its downside.

Alright, any unique/etc. ideas to asking her out, beyond just after work/at an empty time during the day. Dinner and likely a movie are ideas right now. I know movies tend to suck, but there's little else around here, so any ideas on this are welcome. I'd love to go snowboarding with her, but there's barely 3cm (a bit over an inch) of snow on the ground, so no go on that for a few weeks at least, so that's definetly a future date/etc.