So I recently started seeing this guy.

He seems(ed) cool as hell, very smart, very motived, and quite successful for his age.

Things were fine... up until... the first time I spent the night at his house.

Well, so there we are, hooking up, having what I considered a bit of fun,

(LET ME ADD: This is technically like the third date, but I've been seeing him about 2 weeks..)

And there we are, both butt naked, I just finished going down on him and he says

"you know what?"

"what"

"*something I can't understand*"

"come again?"

"I love you."

"wait.. one more time?"

"I love you."

"......"

"what?"

"That is incredibly weird."

Needless to say the session ended right then. And he seemed to feel quite awkward, but hell if I care after hearing THAT.

Not only did we just start seeing each other, we're in the middle of hooking up too.

Last I checked, you don't decide you love someone while you're hooking up, and you sure as hell don't tell them when you're doing so.

Like, what could this guy's issue(s) be?

What I gathered was the obvious, he doesn't know what love is.

Should I be afraid? heh

Uhg, he seemed freaking amazing up until he went crazy on me.

...God, cut him some slack...

You'd be surprised what stupid things guys say after girls go down.

You should know by now, saying 'I love you' directly before, during, or after sex doesnt count.

quote:Originally posted by SilentMind:

...God, cut him some slack...

You'd be surprised what stupid things guys say after girls go down.

You should know by now, saying 'I love you' directly before, during, or after sex doesnt count.

QFT

During sex, certain chemicals are released that basically triggers the feeling of love. Oxytocin being one of them.

[This message has been edited by Rizzo in a box (edited 11-29-2006).]

Eh you both make valid points, and some people have a hard time distinguishing (wow did I slaughter that word) between infatuation and love.

I'm trying to push it out of my mind. I mean, he's freaking cool as hell.

Let's just hope he doesn't end up stalking or murdering me. ^_^ (hah)

I love any girl who's suckin' my dick.

quote:Originally posted by Docta?:

I love any girl who's suckin' my dick.



Your contribution reeks of intelligence and wisdom. I think you should go live on a mountain somewhere so that all who are willing to make the pilgrimage can learn from your infallible knowledge.

I wasn't there (well...I'll post the pics of your shortened session...later ) but the way he said it was just a 'thexxth thing'? I took it that he meant he 'loved the whole situation'?

You really are quite attractive sans coverings!

He didn't say, "I'm in love with you!" Thus yer overreacting...

ps j/k

Nah, don't be a afraid. He's alright.

It sounds like he's really in tune with his emotions. Which is a good thing. But you're right in that he doesn't really know what love is. You went down on him, the whole time he's thinking about you, what you are doing, how awesome you are, coupled with the massive amounts of chemicals that are flowing through his brain because you're sucking his cock. What do you expect? (Hehe)

I think it's harmless. You should be able to handle something like this. Keep seeing him, if he brings it up again, tell him how you feel. He might like you a LOT, which is why he's misconstruing these emotions. Liking you is what you want, right? Just tell him that, tell him that you like him too, and when he's really in love, he'll really know it.

quote:Originally posted by SilentMind:



Your contribution reeks of intelligence and wisdom. I think you should go live on a mountain somewhere so that all who are willing to make the pilgrimage can learn from your infallible knowledge.

There is a point to my pointless contribution, asshole. Read into it.

The mindset a man is in during/after sex/fellatio is competely different of that he would normally be in. The very use of the word "love" would be different in this situation compared to another.

oh my....I should thank god every day that Im not you. not crazy, just incredibly wierd.

Relax. He doesnt really love you, he just wanted you to bend over.

That is strange, then again, I said I love you to my soulmate/bf about a week in after we started talking on the phone before we got to meet and we're eachother's love of a life.

Things like these don't happen often, so most of the time it's bullshit.

It's for you to decide.

*Hands ShouldTrip a card*

When you ditch the nutjob, call me. I promise i wont blurt out ridiculous nonsense about love after you finish going down on me.

Maybe you were just that good? Maybe it was a, "Damn that was good head" i love you and not a, "lets make babies now," type of i love you.

Nah he's just feeling intense feelings for you right now. As someone pointed out, he didn't say he was in love with you.

So chill. He's a cool guy, and he's obviously got compassion. So don't run away because of one silly sentence. That would make you crazy!

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OR maybe he does love you?

what is so wrong with that?

quote:Originally posted by NiGhT PrOwLeR:

OR maybe he does love you?

what is so wrong with that?

What's wrong with that is he hardly knows me =P

I know for a fact he hardly knows me haha, which would make his love for me wrong, because he doesn't love ME, but the ideas he has formed about me.

Thanks everyone for the advice, it makes sense.

I dunno, I'll keep seeing him and try to push it out of my mind. If it keeps bothering me there's not much I can do about it.

But yeah, thanks again. =)

I'll keep you in mind Hunter.

Well...there's always the chance he's hoping to move you in to take care of his needs/housework? You know some guys are never without a woman living with them? It's prob not like that?

It would be totally different if you were all covered up at a movie or walking down the street & he said he was in love with you.

If you like...you can post pics here & have complete & total strangers tell you of their luuuuvvvv. ps You can photoshop them first if you like? Should magazine girls have that advantage & not ewe?

My pics are on the Totse pic site

plz gv me luv internetz ppls.

And about the dependancy.

He may end up being emotionly dependant down the road, but he's doesn't seem the type to need a mommy, if so though, he's out of luck.

It's a pretty cruel woman makes a man do his own laundry & sweep his own floors!

What you rather hear?

"I love you"

Or

"Wow...That was the worst hummer I ever got...Want a beer?!"

mmk. i am stupid as hell. what is the totse pic site.

quote:Originally posted by SnoKannon:

mmk. i am stupid as hell. what is the totse pic site.

http://ajare.org/photos/

Maybe you have a point psycho, maybe I was so freaking horrible, that he found it better to lie about loving me, than my doing well =P

I'll have to practice then I suppose.

We hooked up again, this time he didn't confess any sort of love for me. Thank god haha

quote:Originally posted by Docta?:

I love any girl who's suckin' my dick.

Some people are just meant to die alone.