How exactly does one avoid sex? I'm not used to saying "no", so I need some advice. I think you all know by now that I may (although it is a very vague possibility) be HIV+. Due to that fact, I want to abstain from sex, at least for the next bit and until after I get a few tests done...

So what can I do to get out of having sex? I can only make excuses for so long... I met this girl last night and I'm considering asking her out.

I don't want her to think I'm gay or some kind of pussy or something...

Just do it with the lights out. The lights go out, you leave, I come in, bang her, show her a good time, and then I leave. You sneak back in before the lights come back on. Problem solved.

Tell her you may be HIV positive. You won't have to make up any excuse

quote:Originally posted by Fanglekai:

Tell her you may be HIV positive. You won't have to make up any excuse

That will scare her away though. As long as I make sure I'm clean first, then why would that even concern her?

I don't know Mr Silly Billy? Are they using the new Saliva Test for HIV yet? Do you have to wait the 3 > 6 months for that too?

Tell her you don't want to have sex for awhile.

quote:Originally posted by moonmeister:

I don't know Mr Silly Billy? Are they using the new Saliva Test for HIV yet? Do you have to wait the 3 > 6 months for that too?

I don't know. I'm in the process of doing all the research I can into this whole HIV thing. Just to be on the safe side...

Never heard of the saliva test though but I will definitely look into it.

quote:Originally posted by firekitty751:

Tell her you don't want to have sex for awhile.

You don't think she'll assume there's something wrong with me?

It would be so incongruent with my personality and flirting style. I like to tease a lot and use sexual innuendo and basically exude sexuality quite a lot.

Tell her you want to wait until you have developed asecure mental and emotional bond before you get distracted by physical intimacy.

quote:Originally posted by Sanity0verRated:

Tell her you want to wait until you have developed asecure mental and emotional bond before you get distracted by physical intimacy.

Lol, that's not really my style unfortunately.

I don't really want to have to completely change myself. I'm just looking for a quick fix for a temporary problem.

Normally I go for sex before I officially start dating a girl. Obviously though, I now might have to do things a bit differently.

Ever think maybe you need to change your style?

I believe that is how you got in this situation to begin with.

You could always just use a condom...

quote:Originally posted by Sanity0verRated:

Ever think maybe you need to change your style?

I believe that is how you got in this situation to begin with.

I'm sorry but I really don't see that as a possibility. I like to live my life in the fast lane. I need constant change. I hate waiting for things.

Yes, this has caused me some problems in the past, but I've tried being patient, and it drives me insane. I need instant gratification.

quote:Originally posted by SilentMind:

You could always just use a condom...

I definitely will anyway.

Actually come to think of it, the chances of me being HIV+ are so slim. That, combined with the fact that I would be using a condom with any new girl I have sex with, combined also with the fact that HIV has a very low transmission rate even *with* a condom...

I probably have nothing to worry about anyway.

quote:Originally posted by gadzooks:

I need instant gratification.

Then I doubt there is anything that anyone can say or do to help you.

Truth is always good, if she doesn't stay with you when you tell her the truth then she isn't worth keeping anyway.

Just wait till you're not positive before you ask her out. Easy.

quote:Originally posted by gadzooks:

That will scare her away though. As long as I make sure I'm clean first, then why would that even concern her?

That was my point that it would scare her away. You don't need to be getting on anyone if you might have HIV. You need to know for sure before you fuck anyone else. Quit flirting. It's not that hard to abstain for a couple months, especially for shit this serious. You never listen to anyone's advice, though, especially not mine. I try to give you practical, effective advice. However, you're far more concerned about fucking her than you are about possibly having HIV. Quit trying to get on anyone for a while. It won't kill you to stop being so promiscuous. If it ends up that you're HIV free, then good for you. You won't have given it to anyone. Don't go fucking girls with a guilty conscience.

four words

lol i have aids

you wont have to worry about it

quote:Originally posted by gadzooks:



Normally I go for sex before I officially start dating a girl.

*cough*man-whore*cough*



I was only kidding, please don't gut me. As for your situation, I would avoid girls altogether for a while. However I kind of get this feeling that you can't lead a happy, spiritually fulfilling life without the fairer sex, so here's what I suggest.

You tell the girl that you wish to wait till you are married. That way she won't think there's something wrong with you for not agressively pursuing a sexual relationship with her; plus she might even have a new-found sense of respect for you (it's possible). Unless your reputation (of being a sexual predator, lol!) preceeds you, this should work for you pretty well.

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quote:Originally posted by gadzooks:

Lol, that's not really my style unfortunately.

I don't really want to have to completely change myself. I'm just looking for a quick fix for a temporary problem.

Normally I go for sex before I officially start dating a girl. Obviously though, I now might have to do things a bit differently.

No, this can work you're just lookin at it wrong. Tell her you don't want to have sex because "you want to wait a little, going to fast has ruined prior relationship."

She'll respect it, maybe a little turned off but just change subject and make her laugh. She'll also think you're sincere, honest and committed.

quote:Originally posted by Defekt:

four words

lol i have aids

you wont have to worry about it

This is solid advice tbh.

if i slept with a guy who thought that he might be HIV+ and didn't tell me, even if he used a condom, i'd want to kill him.



what could happen if the condom breaks? that's not a risk i would want to take. of course, i'm super safe, take all possible precautions etc.

seriously though, tell her. she might be more understanding than you predict.

quote:Originally posted by gadzooks:



I probably have nothing to worry about anyway.

That's not fucking good enough.

Live that way yourself if you must, but it's pretty fucking evil to drag another person in.

quote:Originally posted by yoyobek:

That's not fucking good enough.

Live that way yourself if you must, but it's pretty fucking evil to drag another person in.

Sure, but people livin the fastlane are most of the time egoists. Not meant to flame you gadzooks. Pretty selfish myself



And how to avoid sex? I dunno..i used to be good at it but nowadays....

Meditate, take psychedelic drugs, and transcende physical, carnal pleasure. Delight more in a person than a person's body.

Alternatively, take the short-cut and cut off your penis.

You haven't been tested yet? What the fuck are you waiting for?

You're fucking crazy. And the way to avoid sex is say no.

quote:Originally posted by MrMojoRisin:



You're fucking crazy. And the way to avoid sex is say no.

in theory yes. In practice any clue how hard that can be for a still breathing man?

I have thought several times i'm not gonna let me be used as a luxury vibrator today... and then you see the girl, hee beautifull eyes, her brilliant body, then you think i'll survive, and then she either undresses or starts touchin you.....and then you fail

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quote:Originally posted by dark-easterbunny:

in theory yes. In practice any clue how hard that can be for a still breathing man?

I have thought several times i'm not gonna let me be used as a luxury vibrator today... and then you see the girl, hee beautifull eyes, her brilliant body, then you think i'll survive, and then she either undresses or starts touchin you.....and then you fail



Weak. Saying no is not that hard.

What about the classic line.. "no sex tonight honey, I have a migraine!" Then all you do is roll over and go to sleep.

quote:Originally posted by Fanglekai:

Weak. Saying no is not that hard.

you must only know ugly females

Alright, I know it's hard. But really, the possibility of spreading HIV to someone else is not enough of a support to back your decision?

..That's what I thought.

Tell her you have that "not so fresh" feeling...

You could also tell her that you zipped your dick up in your pants and that it's too painful for sex at the moment. This may make you look like kind of a doofus but it's a damn sight better than saying "I MAY HAVE THE AIDS LOL!"

quote:Originally posted by MrMojoRisin:

Alright, I know it's hard. But really, the possibility of spreading HIV to someone else is not enough of a support to back your decision?

..That's what I thought.

I agree with this. The thought of doing permanent harm to any living creature....well. But in general, it's hard.

Anyways, if i thought i would have been infected i would have been so damn stressed out i couldn't get it up anyways

"Are you from Surrey and have you engaged in any sort of sexual congress with someone from Surrey within the past six to eight weeks?"

Consider this a necessary screening process with gadzooks on the loose.

One thing - just don't lie, it might come back to bite you later. But that might be stating the damn obvious.

DRUG HER

RAPE HER

WRITE WITH HER MAKEUP ON HER BATHROOM MIRROR

"Welcome to the world of Aids"

quote:Originally posted by dark-easterbunny:

you must only know ugly females

Hah, apparently you didn't see my post in the "significant others" thread. It's not hard to turn girls down. Sex is not the end all be all of life. Sure it's fun, but there are more important things. I prefer to focus on the things that bring more than fleeting gratification. Best of luck to you.