I have been trying to figure this out for the longest time. Does it work both ways? When you are opposites, you have so much to learn from each other and a lot to talk about, but there is also much much more to argue and fight about which can split you apart.

Although, when you are equals, you can relate to each other quite well and once again there is a lot to talk about and you can relate to each other better. On the other hand, when you are equals, it becomes quite easy to become bored with one another because it is almost like your dating yourself after a while.

[This message has been edited by voodoonirvana (edited 11-25-2006).]

Well...if you stay with someone long enough a part of them "rubs off" on you. So, if you're opposites, I would say you will become more alike.

If you're already alike, it will be smoother sailing.

As far as "boring" goes, being opposites does not eliminate the potential to become bored either. I've dated opposites, and even the arguments became "boring" after awhile.



[I am, however, confused by how you're using the word "equals". ]

[This message has been edited by oc6 (edited 11-25-2006).]

It doesnt matter... ... ...

people are far to vain to care about peoples minds...

quote:Originally posted by oc6:

Well...if you stay with someone long enough a part of them "rubs off" on you. So, if you're opposites, I would say you will become more alike.

If you're already alike, it will be smoother sailing.

As far as "boring" goes, being opposites does not eliminate the potential to become bored either. I've dated opposites, and even the arguments became "boring" after awhile.



[I am, however, confused by how you're using the word "equals". ]



Well, what I mean by "equals" is....not opposite. I can't really think of anything else to describe it. But obviously, there are people who are complete opposites of one another, and then there are those who already have a lot in common, making them more equal to each other.

quote:Originally posted by voodoonirvana:

Well, what I mean by "equals" is....not opposite. I can't really think of anything else to describe it. But obviously, there are people who are complete opposites of one another, and then there are those who already have a lot in common, making them more equal to each other.

Ah...that kind of equal. I have a different way of thinking about equality, is all.

Interesting thread there.

I would say opposites can definitely attract. Take a look at couples you know - especially older ones. Your parents for example... Your uncles/aunties. In a duo, often there will be one very open, outgoing and chatty person, and in contrast, their partner will be more quiet and subdued.

At the same time, some couples are very similar. It can work both ways, I guess is what I'm trying to say.

I think so. Like in milky's example, I am very quiet and subdued whereas my love is outgoing and extroverted. She's good at math and biology - the two subjects I dislike. Etc. And yet we mesh perfectly.

well i would kinda say yes and no. my current girlfriend is an innocent little church girl to everyone. im a horny jock guy. i wanted to date a good girl for a change but it turns out she is hornier than me and she is a freak in the bed. so there is my example

my boyfriend and i are incredibly different, but it's true, we have rubbed off on each other. i think as long as you have some base similarities or morals or whatever then it will work out.

My gf was the exact opposite but now shes like me and it's kinda cool.

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Of course not. Then I'd attract all the fat, ugly, short, bitchy, annoying, and un-humble bitches.

....whaa? how can you tell he's a jock?

and now i'm confused because you just edited your post and now it looks like i'm a nutcase.

*gets all deep

aren't people like jigsaw pieces really?

so that way opposites must attract.

but in an evolutional aspect wouldn't it be more logical if opposites did attract.

I remember discussing this with a therapist who said that some people need an opposite personality type, whilst other people need someone similar.

She strongly recommended that I seek an opposite personality type, I think mostly because of the degree of my introversion.

To be honest people, there ain't no 'rules'. Why someone is attracted to another is a mystery. All this talk of 'do opposites attract?' is crap.

Sometimes an 'opposite' will be attractive and sometimes they won't.

Nor can you say that a relationship will work better or worse depending on wether your partner has an 'equal' or 'opposite' personality.

In my experience I find that opposites attract strongly for a short while while simmilar people have steady bonds for a longer time.

quote:Originally posted by jackketch:

To be honest people, there ain't no 'rules'. Why someone is attracted to another is a mystery. All this talk of 'do opposites attract?' is crap.

Sometimes an 'opposite' will be attractive and sometimes they won't.

Nor can you say that a relationship will work better or worse depending on wether your partner has an 'equal' or 'opposite' personality.



QFT

Plus, if i found someone who was basically the same as me we wouldnt get on, two amazingly shy quiet socially anxious people in a relationship = train wreck

quote:Originally posted by jackketch:

Nor can you say that a relationship will work better or worse depending on wether your partner has an 'equal' or 'opposite' personality.



That is true, other factors come into play in order to make a relationship work, but I think that most people gravitate toward certain types of people, be it a friendship or a love interest. I do, however, like people who are more outgoing than myself. People who can take the attention away from me whilst also drawing me out, instead of making me virtually invisible.

I also, think that as people age their personality can change a bit according to their life experiences. You can't really put people into a box because of that. You can only base any analysis on current knowledge and experiences. What the future holds is too unpredictable. For instance, twenty years ago my personality type came out INFP, today it comes out INFJ. So I wonder, in the future, what other aspects might also change.

Well...I'm rambling now...

Interesting topic.

Of course opposites attract. Haven't you noticed that all the darkest niggers have the palest white bitches?

There is no accounting for taste. I mean, people are attracted to me. That says it all, in my opinion.

quote:Originally posted by Euda:

There is no accounting for taste. I mean, people are attracted to me. That says it all, in my opinion.



*checks Euda's pockets for magnets.*

quote:Originally posted by oc6:

That is true, other factors come into play in order to make a relationship work, but I think that most people gravitate toward certain types of people, be it a friendship or a love interest. I do, however, like people who are more outgoing than myself. People who can take the attention away from me whilst also drawing me out, instead of making me virtually invisible.

I also, think that as people age their personality can change a bit according to their life experiences. You can't really put people into a box because of that. You can only base any analysis on current knowledge and experiences. What the future holds is too unpredictable. For instance, twenty years ago my personality type came out INFP, today it comes out INFJ. So I wonder, in the future, what other aspects might also change.

Well...I'm rambling now...

Interesting topic.



True.

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Also, I have noticed that it can work both ways. One person can be attracted to an opposite personality type, while one person can be attracted to a similar personality type. For example, there is this girl in my school that likes me and she is a very conservative catholic, very moral, all you would expect from that type of stereotype. While I am more of the weird stoner type. I am more attracted to the weird stoner types, but it seems she's attracted to ust the opposite.

IMHO, complimentary personality traits, often 'different', attract people to each other.