At kissing, which isint really surpising seeing as im 18 and had my first kiss even 2 days ago with my first girlfriend, and after the second time she was like, wow you really suck at that. Cant really blame her for saying that, I havnt exactly had much practice. So do you have any tips or anything that might help me out?

I bet you go all over the place in her mouth. Honestly what do you want us to say to help you? ask her.

I've never been called a bad kisser, and been dating since I was 12.

Be gentle and make sure you're not too slobbery. Don't just shove your tongue down her throat, be more subtle. And make sure your breath is fresh, so always brush you teeth before you get together and after you eat. And keep sugar free mints on hand.

Ask her what specifically you're doing wrong and it'll be easy to fix it.

I think the most important thing is to not make your kisses too wet. That is the underlying theme to all of my bad kisses: he drooled all over my face.

Get her to teach you man. That's what the more experienced partner is supposed to do.

I don't even understand WTF you're supposed to do in a kiss. I know it involves mouths, and that's about it. And apparently, tongues touch and might even exchange mouth-spaces for a bit.

That makes me want to throw up, actually.

I got yelled at so many times by my first girlfriend for not closing my eyes when we'd kiss. Of course this begs the question of how she knew this if her eyes were "closed."

Kissing really is gross when you think about it. But fun.

Don't be too forceful.

My worst kiss ever was like two years ago, when this guy took me and like, threw me up against the wall of my barn and pretty much shoved his tounge down my throat. That was the guy that backhanded his girlfriend recently. I'm glad nothing came of it.

quote:Originally posted by firekitty751:

Kissing really is gross when you think about it. But fun.

Don't be too forceful.

My worst kiss ever was like two years ago, when this guy took me and like, threw me up against the wall of my barn and pretty much shoved his tounge down my throat. That was the guy that backhanded his girlfriend recently. I'm glad nothing came of it.

You were wicked turned on at the time tho.

quote:Originally posted by firekitty751:

Kissing really is gross when you think about it.

Hooray! It's not just me! I'm a real person after all!

im a guy, but girls do this to me way to much. They open their mouth like theyre trying to devour my entire head. Dont open your mouth more than she opens hers, which shouldnt be too much. If you find your jaw stretching out, close your mouth a little. Maybe even go for some close mouth kissing to start and finish.

I think the main thing is that it's the lip contact, not the tongue contact, that matters most.

Get yourself a peach, a slightly over-ripe peach. Set your kitchen timer for twenty minutes. Eat the peach in no less than twenty minutes without getting a single drop of juice on your hand.

Dont try to be dominating, let her take lead considering it seems she thinks she is good at it, the more and more practice you two have the better you will pick it up. There arent' really any tips we can give you; seeings though you haven't told us what you think you do wrongly.

But, like I said; Dont try to be dominating, dont try using too much tongue, you don't need to kiss very hard/slow or whatever, be careful with your teeth (might clash), dont be jerky or anything and thats about all I can think of. I'm guessing you have mastered 'going in for the kiss'?

You dont have to go hard out with tongue either, just lightly nudge her tongue with yours and see how she responds to that. But yeah, try learning off of her.

To be honest, I think she's a fucking bitch for saying something that harsh.

Especially if you only had your first kiss (with her?) a couple of days before.

Fair enough if she'd had gently pointed you in the right direction, but not to be all "Yea, you're really shit at that" becuase that would be a huge confidence killer. I'm surprised you're not toally put off her, I would be.

Yeah, main things are no slobber (FUCKIN GROSS) and don't ever let your mouth get over top of hers. As far as tounge, use sparingly, do not shove your tounge down her throat or really do anything with more then the tip of it.

As with all things not related to staying young, you'll get better with it in time!

quote:Originally posted by Duck In Fog:

To be honest, I think she's a fucking bitch for saying something that harsh.

Especially if you only had your first kiss (with her?) a couple of days before.

Fair enough if she'd had gently pointed you in the right direction, but not to be all "Yea, you're really shit at that" becuase that would be a huge confidence killer. I'm surprised you're not toally put off her, I would be.

well I cant really blame her I bet I do really suck. When I did it I just like kissed her on the mouth like I would on the cheek, then she was like, no like this and she opened her mouth and was using her tounge and shit, it was pretty good but I had no idea what was going on.

quote:Originally posted by roll2daspot:

well I cant really blame her I bet I do really suck. When I did it I just like kissed her on the mouth like I would on the cheek, then she was like, no like this and she opened her mouth and was using her tounge and shit, it was pretty good but I had no idea what was going on.

Well that's still hardly a reason to be that harsh.

You're probably not the best, but that's still no need to say something that could potentially to fuck up your confidence. Just think she could have used a bit more tact.

But yea, just be slow and gentler until you've more of an idea what's going on.

quote:Originally posted by Twisted_Ferret:

I don't even understand WTF you're supposed to do in a kiss. I know it involves mouths, and that's about it. And apparently, tongues touch and might even exchange mouth-spaces for a bit.



Yeah, thats pretty much the same for me

As to the OP, this might help http://tinyurl.com/yabsh5

Question, how do you prepare your lips for a kiss? Do you lick them first? I personally lick my lips real quick, then pucker them a bit so they're not all slobbery, but still moist.

quote:Originally posted by 73cv:

Question, how do you prepare your lips for a kiss? Do you lick them first? I personally lick my lips real quick, then pucker them a bit so they're not all slobbery, but still moist.

Obviously, your lips need to be wet, but not teh insides of teh mouth, lawl. Girls get scared by sipping on yo water.

I asked about lips. How wet?

Go slow. That's important!

I used to gobble women's faces (and it's not a nice sensation). Hold back on the tongue. Just soft kisses with the lips, maybe dart round a bit, play on her neck.

Once you're well and ready, you can french kiss, which involves small flicks and retreats with your tongue.

Gl, hf.

Ask your girlfriend to teach you how to kiss properly. . And the first time she gives you a blowjob, tell her she sucks. Pun intended.

Peace

quote:Originally posted by 73cv:

I asked about lips. How wet?

Don't lick your lips. Licking them will just make them dryer.

Use a moisturising lip balm. I do. Seriously, there's no way to make your lips softer and more moist, with out being 'wet'.

The one I use is scentless and called "Blistex".

Also, I have no idea why licking lips makes them dry, but it just does.

^because the moisture evaporates from your lips leaving them parched. Lip balm works by blocking that moisture loss.

Also, I must say I appreciate the fact that you use lip chap, arquin. I have to force my boyfriend to put lip chap on, which usually involves me putting a shitload on and then pretending like I'm going to kiss him but I really just mash my lips on his...lol. He seems to think it's gay to put stuff on his lips. *sigh*

Steps:

1) Swallow any excess spit in your mouth.

2) Give your lips a quick lick (but not too wet).

3) Give her a quick peck on the lips.

4) 1-2 second pause for effect.

5) Give another quick kiss, but this time let it linger.

6) Gently give her lips a quick little lick.

7) At this point she should feel your tongue and if she wants more she'll respond.

8) Keep it neat and slow. Slowly explore areas of her mouth (roof, under her tongue, her gums, etc.)

9) Avoid foods that leave a long odor. ie milk, onions, garlic, coffee, etc.)

10) Carry chewing gum (preferably mint or the toothpaste flavored kind) and take a few over the course of the date as refreshers.

When all else fails, http://tinyurl.com/2c9np

It's totally gonna suck when you try and remember steps of "what to do". Just go with the flow.

the whole goal when you are making out si to see how far back your tounge can reach. chicks also like it when u bite their teeth. tooth on tooth sensations > orgasms for girls. assuming girls really do in fact, have actaul orgasms.

^cluntoris^

How rude to tell you something like that when you've had 2 days to learn. Really, that's rude. You'll figure out how to kiss, but my advice is to focus on lips and avoid sticking your tongue down her throat. It's more sensual this way, in my opinion, and you can progress. Try to make out with her for an hour or so at a time, and you'll learn what you need to do to be good.

It's definately something you gotta figure out yourself. Personally every girlfriend i've had said i was a great kisser and these guys have basically told you everything they possibly can.

quote:Originally posted by cluntoris:

the whole goal when you are making out si to see how far back your tounge can reach. chicks also like it when u bite their teeth. tooth on tooth sensations > orgasms for girls. assuming girls really do in fact, have actaul orgasms.

^cluntoris^

Yeah, if they were that stupid, I doubt they could even find a girl cluntoris.

All the girls I've kissed have said that I am a really good kisser. Just don't be all sloppy and all over the place, small and with a little tongue. If you are using tongue though just use a little and rub hers with it. It all really depends on the girl though, some like tongue and some don't, each girl is different.

If she won't offer any helpful hints but will spend time making you feel bad you should probably reconsider the whole deal.

quote:Originally posted by Spiphel Rike:

If she won't offer any helpful hints but will spend time making you feel bad you should probably reconsider the whole deal.

Exactly. That or binge/purge.

quote:Originally posted by roll2daspot:

At kissing, which isint really surpising seeing as im 18 and had my first kiss even 2 days ago with my first girlfriend, and after the second time she was like, wow you really suck at that. Cant really blame her for saying that, I havnt exactly had much practice. So do you have any tips or anything that might help me out?

Honestly, for just about every different person out there, you're gonna get a different way of kissing and stuff.. Just some basics though:

1: FRESH BREATH.. it honestly doesn't matter how good of a kisser ANYONE is, if you have bad breath, I wont kiss you.

2: FRESH BREATH.. this is here to REMIND YOU.. most important thing!

3: Not slobbery.. there should be as LITTLE fluid in your mouth when the kiss starts, and as little as possible when you finish. NO DROOL!

4: Don't be to forceful, FORCE in a kiss is more of a mastery thing.. for the learning process being forceful will prolly come off as sucking at kissing

5: one of the POINTS of "french kissing" isn't to try to dig out her tonsils with your tongue.. KISSING is alot like FLIRTING too much comes off as creepy or down right bad. think of kissing as a game, you're there to basicly *play* with eachother's tongues.

6: Have fun, and don't be nervous.. If you're nervous your kiss is gonna be nervous, and nervous isn't good, nervous kisses are BAD kisses.

7: FLOW.. a good kiss flows, It has a beginning a middle and an end... or maybe that end is really just a TO BE CONTINUED... ending.. but still! It's there. Flow.. don't be sudden about anything.. everything should flow.

8: FRESH BREATH! You didn't forget right? sugar free mints, maybe some spray breath freshener..



EDIT: this is really, just the tip of a much larger iceberg.. but this should get you started.. and don't forget the rest of each other's bodies, kissing is more than just a lips thing.. if you kiss with your hands in your pockets.. you're gonna suck. REMEMBER. FLOW.. and the breath thing

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You know what else is fun to do, usually you'll be stronger and have stronger lungs than her... When your kissing if your mouths lock for a sec like airtight breath in really hard and suck all the air out of her lungs, its hilarious, they never see it coming and it feels REALLY wierd.

^^Haha, my boyfriend always does that to me. But not when we're kissing, only after I've taken a bong hit...He steals it from me, lol!

quote:Originally posted by Sick_Boy:

^^Haha, my boyfriend always does that to me. But not when we're kissing, only after I've taken a bong hit...He steals it from me, lol!

Yea that works too, girls dont have strong enough lungs to stop us! I just do it as a joke when kissing

quote:Originally posted by Twisted_Ferret:

I don't even understand WTF you're supposed to do in a kiss. I know it involves mouths, and that's about it. And apparently, tongues touch and might even exchange mouth-spaces for a bit.

That makes me want to throw up, actually.

...what the hell? How old are you, 10?

quote:Originally posted by Rattrap51:

You know what else is fun to do, usually you'll be stronger and have stronger lungs than her... When your kissing if your mouths lock for a sec like airtight breath in really hard and suck all the air out of her lungs, its hilarious, they never see it coming and it feels REALLY wierd.

haha, yeah, my ex and i used to do that as a joke, except we used to blow/suck air so we never really knew what was coming..pretty funny..

But yeah, get her to teach you! i had no idea either until my ex taught me, but then again people have different expectations of kissing, so her style might be crap for someone else to...

This is it...

People can give you tips and hints all day and it won't mean shit because you don't kiss a computer screen. (Side note: at least I don't kiss computer screens) Anyway, just try different things and get the girl to physically show you, and you'll get better.

Posting on TOTSE will not make you a better kisser, that's one thing I can guarantee you.

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quote:Originally posted by Aimrehtopyh:

Get yourself a peach, a slightly over-ripe peach. Set your kitchen timer for twenty minutes. Eat the peach in no less than twenty minutes without getting a single drop of juice on your hand.

HAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHA!

Best advice ever! Archive!

Also, another important thing is timing and rythm. The kiss needs to be perfectly timed and the rythm needs to either be consistant or recognisable at very least. Keep it nice and steady, you dont want to wave your tongue around her mouth or anything because that could be bad.

For doing this, I suggest having a bit of slow background music going, this will help create a mood and also help keep some sort of timing or something like that. Not to mention it's kinda fun.