hm....long story relatively short.

i have this girl i spend alllll my time with, but we're starting to not really be able to stand eachother.

we used to have this mutual friend. then he decided to come out of the closet and he became my fuck buddy.

said best friend does not enjoy this. she talks constant shit about him (we always used to talk shit, but she gets more passionate about it), gets pissy and mean at me, and starts several fights over the fact that 'i dont care about how she feels'. i decide that having a fuck buddy is less important than maintaining a friendship, so i start completely ignoring this guys phone calls/texts. he gets angry with me, calling me flakey and what not, and calls whatever relationship we had off. ( "being anything more than your friend is just to frustrating for me" says he).

so its been two weeks since, im not really talking to this guy anymore. and suddenly, my best friend is talking about him again! suddenly, shes not talking shit about him anymore. suddenly, she wants to HANG OUTwith him...after i stopped hanging out with im for her?! i can't help but feel that she's the most selfish bitch alive.

so totse, what are the rules on friendships and relationships? if a friend is unhappy with who you're fucking, who do you try to please? any experiences to share?

i personally believe it is not a friends place to say what you can and cannot do, or try to influence it in any way. (unless it is harmful for the friend). when i try to get this across to my friend, she just uses this as an argument for how i 'dont really care about her', just cuz i dont wanna tell her what do do!?

uhhh pisssssed.