Me and my best friend M have been best friends since 6th grade or 6 years ago, hes one of the few friends that I have and one of the people who knows me best; somehow me and have have etched out some vestige of what i guess could be called a friendship, how I don't know and i really don't care.

Well now for the issue, It all started with a girl, me and her had been friends for about a year then i introduced her to my best friend, they were pretty cool with eachother, so i go away for about 4 months at the end of last year and when i get back he tells me that J(the girl) is always talking about me and asking about me, so naturally i do the friendly thing i should have done during those 4 months and talk to her. At first its a bit ackward because i had been gone for 4 months and i didn't think it was going anywhere.

Soon we start to regain the closeness we had and more, my best friend begins to feel alienated from her at my return and starts doing really sadistic shit(mentally) to her. He starts insulting her, making her feel guilty for even talking to me when i didn't talk to anyone for the 4 months that I was away and all this other sick shit, at one point i think he even threatened his life; and said that if she told me anything he said to her he'd take his life.

Of course she told me, and I let her tell me the things he does to her just because i believe what he was doing was really cowardly; and no one should have to deal with that alone, till this day I'm sure my best friend doesnt' know what she told me all those things he did, and i wonder what he would do if he did know. So naturally she starts to grow away from him because who wants to be told they're shit? Anyways for some reason she still tries to befriend him after his first verbal attack and he just does it again until i tell her to stand up for herself and not to just take it; worst part was she blamed herself for HIS attacks. For some reason my best friend thought that he and her were in some type of relationship when all it really was, was friendship. I never did think me and her had anything other than a friendship and somehow it became more.

Although we didn't tell him this because he had just threatened with suicide and we didn't need anything to push him over the edge, but he started acting somewhat normal so we told him and he doesn't really seem to care.

Lately hes been telling me how he hates me and wants to tear out my eyes and harm me becuase "the deleterious ones must suffer" or some bullshit, you'd really think the oldest of us would have grown some fucking nuts and learned to accept that he can't have everything in life. Worst hes started to blame just about everyone but himself for his situation in life which is unhappy. He blames me for depriving him of something he never really had, and has recently started telling me that he hates me soooo much and that he wants to deface me , then we turn around and talk about some random stuff like normal so i'm really not sure wtf to think of it and really don't care just thought it was interesting and even funny.

You need to distance yourself from this clown. It may sound obvious but people sometimes cling onto the last shreds of dying relationships for no reason whatsoever.

To give you really sound advice, I would need to know more about your situation, but I'm not going to probe. Ultimately the guy must see you and her for what you are; hiding things will only make it worse.

Goodnight.

Well he already knows that me and her are together, no matter how much time he claims he spent, no matter how much he got fucked over by fate, no matter how much he thinks she is his soulmate. They still talk sometimes, which I don't give a damn about because shes mine and i'm not some insecure prick, not sure why he still talks to her at all but thats her choice who she befriends, i'm not trying to control her life.

I don't mine being his best friend but tonight we spoke about the whole thing and he goes on this long rant about how he always has to lose and how he spent so much time giving to her and how he got nothing and how i got her heart. My absolute honest opinion is that he wasn't open with her and maybe he tried to hard IDK.

He is clinging i agree, why? because he sees more than there is and he is a bit bipolar too, IDk but hes threatened my life jokingly which i only see as a joke cuz i give him the benefit of the doubt being my best friend but J thinks its strange , to be honest if he took my life it would REALLY FUNNY.