So this girl and I who work in the same building had been catching each others eye quite a lot. She's cute, and I started to make every opportunity I could to go talk to her, which ended up being quite often.

This afternoon, we swapped phone numbers. I knew, however, that she had a boyfriend. We always kinda flirt in work, but when we started sending text messages back and forth it was purely friendly... as I knew she was in a relationship.

Then she just came out with it, asked me straight out in a text message if I liked her. Me, being the perfect concoction of smooth and awkward, managed to answer without actually answering directly but a few messages later we had decided we were into each other... but she has a boyfriend.

So the communication continues, gets pretty kinky... but she has a boyfriend.

At a stage she basically tells me she would quite happily take me into a store room in work and suck my cock... but she has a boyfriend.

Numerous times she has told me she wants to fuck me... but she has a boyfriend.

So I asked about her relationship. They have been going out for a year, and when I asked if it was serious she replied "I wouldn't say that, exactly" so I replied with "Are you happy with him" and got "I dont want to talk about it" back, nice and blunt.

Since then, the blatant I want you deep inside me type messages have kept coming, but I dont know what to think... is she thinking of breaking up with him? Is she teasing me? Is she planning on cheating on him with me?

I guess Im just ranting... but she has a boyfriend!

don't pry about her relationship. take it for what it is and do what you like about it. she has a boyfriend but also likes you. i'm not here to moralize. if you want to do something with her regardless, that's your choice. just don't try to get her to break up with him because it will get you nothing. except maybe more of the cold shoulder.

You'll be man on the side, forever and ever and ever.

But yeah, if she doesn't want to leave him for you (as it seems), I'd keep my distance.

Yeah, Ive been trying to drum this into my head...

EDIT: I suppose I should be more clear on what I mean. Not breaking up her relationship, is what Ive been telling myself to avoid. Fucking her behind her boyfriend's back? Well, thats her wrong decision if she chooses to do it, I'm single...

[This message has been edited by Docta? (edited 11-20-2006).]

If you don't take advantage of the situation, you'll regret it for the rest of your life. Go for it!

Who gives a shit whether or not if she has a boyfriend. If she's into you and wants to fuck you then go for it. The boyfriend will never know. And it will be great having someone just to fuck and you never have to romance them or anything. Just fuck buddies are bad ass. It won't go any further than that if your lucky.

Ya know, theres a lot more to this...

Im friendly with this girl (let's call her 1)'s mother. I'm 22 and my potential fuck buddy is 17. Her mother (lets call her 2) is a supervisor at work.

When I first saw 1, I saw her with her boyfriend. He is a known small time, but well known, drug dealer. He's from the scummy end of the town, and the whole family are considered scum. A few friends and I once got a bag of MDMA pills from them at 6.30am on a Monday morning, from the mother of the family.

When I saw them together, I immediately thought that 1 could do better. I also thought that 2 should know what her young daughter is getting into.

I know, Im prying into other people's business without need, but if my daughter was in a serious relationship with a scummy drug dealer (he's the type that will sell drugs to anyone who knocks at the door) then I would want to know. So I talked to 2, letting her know as little as I could while letting her know that her daughter was dating someone who would probably be the worse possible candidate in the town, bar very few.

As expected, her mother was shocked and immediately wanted the whole thing finished between them, but told me she hadnt enough control over her 17 year old to do any difference by simply talking to her.

Since then, she has asked me an occasional question relating to him, obviously gathering imformation.

So the obvious mutual attraction between me and 1 has more behind the scenes baggage than hopefully she will ever realise.

...it does put a different perspective on things though.

She simply wants 2 bang, girls get tired of being in the relationship, it doesnt mean they want to get out of it.

Basically, she wants to fuck you, with no strings attached, and wants you 2 be fully aware of that.

So u wont get all emotional n shit afterwards. Its actually a tactic guys use. its strange when a bitch uses it. she must be heavy in the game.

Maybe it's just the over sensitive side of me that may root from me secretly being gay (fuck should I know) or something but I wouldn't get involved with her, if you can happily use and be used, then do it. That's what its going to be.

Think about it, do you really want a girl that would cheat on her boyfriend just to fuck you. If she's happy to do it with you, she'll be happy to do it later on down the road if you go out with her. She's probably not totally right in the head, going out with someone she probably knows full well is scum and kids herself into seeing the good side of him. Not worth it.

rat him out call the cops and get him busted... will you be labeled a douchebag probly but hey your keeping him from selling drugs to someones little kids right plus you get pussy till he gets out... then i would hide

quote:Originally posted by ZeroMalarki:

if you can happily use and be used, then do it. That's what its going to be.

I'm a red blooded, twenty two year old, heterosexual male.

That last guy, I'm not rattin' out a fuckin' drug dealer... obviously you've never been in said predicament, unless you're typing from a straw taped to your forehead.

I'm pretty fucking sure you could get anyone you wanted if all you wanted was a quick fuck. However, chances of getting anything other than that from this girl are so so low..

Doesent it feel at all icky to think that this girl has been fucking another guy (and still is) and that when you fuck her his still wet semen might well be still drying on her underpants?



Taken girls are taken. Dunno if you actually want to fuck around with a drug dealers girl or if you're frighteningly horny. Either way going out and getting pissed on friday night and pulling a single girl might well be a safer idea.

I want you and your accent.

quote:Originally posted by Docta?:

I'm a red blooded, twenty two year old, heterosexual male.

That last guy, I'm not rattin' out a fuckin' drug dealer... obviously you've never been in said predicament, unless you're typing from a straw taped to your forehead.

Hey it's called a unicorn stick you fucking dick head. :P

Anyway, she sounds shitty. Either get ass and get it now (which case you'll catch VD) or just forget about it.

I say don't bother with it. Although I'm sure there's a lot in your mind telling you to go for it, its a real messy fuckoff of a situation that's not going to work out nicely at all.

On a related topic of your area and mobile phones, someone in tech once showed me a girl from Ballymena being fucked with a pool cue by a few guys. She seemed to be having good fun, it was rather graphic. So in conclusion... stay in school kids.

why did you repeat "she has a boyfriend"?

I say tease the living shit out of her and make her want you really bad, but of course, it's teasing, wait till she does something, like BREAK UP. Don't make her cheat, it'll make shitloads of problems. Just let her do her thing.

Well, it's a new day and Ive sobered up. I passed out around 7am and when I awoke around 12.30 I had six messages and 8 missed calls from her, wondering what was wrong or why I wasnt talking to her.

She said she'll see me in work, but when I told her my shift would be finished before hers starts, she pleaded with me to either change shifts or stay extra.

I dont really just want casual sex. Im bored of sex being meanlingless... I'm real fuckin hungover.

...she has a boyfriend :-P

I'm simply worried about what the boyfriend might well do to you when, yes when he finds out you've been fucking his bitch.



Do you think on a subconcious level you're considering this because.. well, because it's just a really awesome feeling for someone to want you to that extent?

Beleive me, you dont need to nick another guys girl to find someone who really really wants you.



The ego boost may be great, but it's all going to get messy in the end. The fact that 'she's got a boyfriend' isnt the problem, the fact that she's got a drug dealing dodgy motherfucker of a boyfriend, might be.

Ive been talking to her again all day today, and Ive decided we're just to stay friends... she has basically said what her boyfriend doesnt know, wont hurt him. I told her it wasn't fair on him, she shouldnt lie and if she wants to be with other people then stay out of a steady relationship.

I know that the very fact she considered cheating on her boyfriend of a year means that she's not exactly trustworthy... I don't think I'm so good I literally change people. :-P

So I told her she was a mate, and Id talk to her in work but to stop leading me on. I feel all weird, Ive done the right thing...

Then I restraddled my high-horse, and galloped off into the sunset...

quote:Originally posted by Docta?:

Ive been talking to her again all day today, and Ive decided we're just to stay friends... she has basically said what her boyfriend doesnt know, wont hurt him. I told her it wasn't fair on him, she shouldnt lie and if she wants to be with other people then stay out of a steady relationship.

I know that the very fact she considered cheating on her boyfriend of a year means that she's not exactly trustworthy... I don't think I'm so good I literally change people. :-P

So I told her she was a mate, and Id talk to her in work but to stop leading me on. I feel all weird, Ive done the right thing...

Then I restraddled my high-horse, and galloped off into the sunset...



Good on ya man, i probably would have let her suck my dick at least once first then told her all that shit. hahahahah

after reading the addendum, here's what i think will happen if you hook up with her.

eventually her boyfriend is going to do something stupid, and she is going to get hurt and come crying to you. she sounds like she's the type of girl who is very dependent. if you have slept with her, you while suddenly have a bunch of problems to deal with.

i recommend not getting with her for this simple reason. she's not going to be a "quick fuck." she's going to come with a lot of drama.

edit - i read your last post. good decision.





[This message has been edited by lauren7249 (edited 11-20-2006).]

I've only read the opening post, but here's the rule I live by when it comes to girls who are already taken:

If she can do it with you, she could do it TO you later on.

That helps me keep a balanced perspective on things.

Unless there are either serious feelings involved, or it's purely an opportunity to get laid and you aren't troubled by the morality of the situation, you're just asking for trouble.

[This message has been edited by fullcircle (edited 11-20-2006).]

quote:Originally posted by Docta?:

So I asked about her relationship. They have been going out for a year, and when I asked if it was serious she replied "I wouldn't say that, exactly" so I replied with "Are you happy with him" and got "I dont want to talk about it" back, nice and blunt.



Spoken like a true slut.

They always do have boyfriends

the sides we take divide us from our faith in human kind.

Well played sun, now I have to say that to my flatmate when she's not lying ontop of me stroking my penis.

No dont treat her like a lady, treat her like a slut, if its not ur dick it will be someone elses she will suck on.

thats life man, her bf is probably fucking around also and she knows it.

The thing is, what u see in public isnt what really happens behind closed doors. So if u see them thogether all happy and shit, they are obviously not. Or shes a big time slut and her bf must have known this from the beginning.

whatever the case man take advantage of this bitch. its good 2 find hoes like that, just bang n go, no need for explanations.

the fact she has a respectable bf means she doesnt go around fucking around with everyone she sees.



[This message has been edited by H34T533K3R (edited 11-21-2006).]

quote:Originally posted by heisler2:

If you don't take advantage of the situation, you'll regret it for the rest of your life. Go for it!

Don't play that game man. Just treat her like any other person. It will piss her the fuck off and make you feel superior, maybe. Fuck sex. Mental pleasure > physical stimulation.

Ya know, she's fuckin persistant...

Any time Im talking to her, Ive spent the majority of the time commenting on other girls or telling her stories of past lays. It's obviously annoying her, but she's not giving up.

As long as Im sober, Ill be safe... Id probably be best joining the IRA and drinking in specialist pubs from now on.

Mature decision. Thumbs up!

quote:Originally posted by fullcircle:

I've only read the opening post, but here's the rule I live by when it comes to girls who are already taken:

If she can do it with you, she could do it TO you later on.

That helps me keep a balanced perspective on things.

Unless there are either serious feelings involved, or it's purely an opportunity to get laid and you aren't troubled by the morality of the situation, you're just asking for trouble.

i wouldnt do it. Karmas a bitch, and if i ever found out my girl cheated on me and weve been going out for a year...shed just better hope i dont find out who the guy is she fucked..if i find out at all that is.

Fuck morality.

You only get so much sex in your lifetime. You dont get that many shots at happyness, so go for them all.

The guy should have better taste in women if he doesnt want her fucking around.

If i sell a man a knife, and he stabs a man, its NOT my fault.

If she fucks you, you aren't doing anything wrong, she is, and thats up to her.