Alright, so last night me and a friend both got our girlfriends over...my gf got a little tipsy i think, i was high/ drunk but not super gone..anyways im a virgin right so me and my girl start making out on my brothers bed im super erect right now, but she leaves to go do something cant rememember right now, but i lose my erection. Now this happened a couple times mind you, well we are laying there shes on bottom and all we kissing a little bit im licking on her neck and take off her shirt...weve done this before just never sexed, remember im a virgin. So she got into the mood but my dick wasnt getting erect..i was getting mad as hell like why the fuck isnt this working, how can my dick just be limp...so this is where i start getting angry. i know this is killin the mood, shes had sex before so i know she had the patience to wait..im guessin she would of wanted it as bad as i did.. So shes laying down on the bed legs spread apart wit her jeans on while i take off my jeans and my shirt and i start trying to get my dick erect, will after playin with it for a moment or two im able to get him erect but not fully, it was definatley no where close to the hardest ive had it be before..so my dick is not as hard as i would want it to be but i decide i want to lose my fucking virginity hoping i could make it work so the condom goes on and since its dark as hell in the room she guides me (of course her clothes came of a before this stuff happened)in. She told me i was going to fast at first so i slow down, i know im not as hard as i could be but im hard enough to do what im doing..so i start speeding up a little but i guess i was breathin to hard so she told me to slow down again I probally stopped for a couple seconds then she wants me to put her leg up for some deeper penetration, im guessing at this point my dick was probally getting limp already, so while i put her leg up my dick falls out, we reinsert but its to limp to continue...i was depressed as hell..i didnt come i knew she didnt come even though when we first started im pretty sure i got her pussy wet.

Now im wondering how the fuck can this be normal, im guessing i was to fucking nervous and i wasnt getting horny or something. If i tried making excuses i would say because my little bothers and there friends were running around a little bit while this happened (2:00 am i wanted to whoop there asses, all under age 10) that kinda stopped me i think... and the fact it was my brother bed...yeah..and it was my first time to..so that could add to it.

well she said it was ok, but im pretty sure it wasnt.

So i guess this is where i ask the questions..

Was this normal, how could i not get a perfect erection the ONE fucking time i need one?

Any tips on staying erect or getting erect easier when your put on the moment like that?



any help appreciated...by the way i dont really count this as losing virginity..god damn that shit was horrible, i didnt even come...yeah im depressed as hell about it to feel free to flame only a little bit, but add some advice in there to..

The whole story maybe missing some details because i did that pretty fast, but you guys can get the jist of what im saying...alright go ahead

First, maybe you shouldn't drink or get stoned beforehand until you have had some experience sober.

Second, don't worry about it so much because it will make it worse.

Oh, and third, find a place where you won't feel stressed.



And yea...it matters...but probably not as much as you think it matters.

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I've been there. in fact, most people have. I know, it sucks.

when I was about to sleep with my gf for the first time, my erection went to about an 85%. not completely gone, but not enough to work with. very frustrating. I wasn't consciouly nervous, but it was the nervosity for sure.

another time I was just very drunk.



don't worry too much about it. and be sober the next time.

Happened to me a few times mate.

quote:Originally posted by Argus:

I've been there. in fact, most people have. I know, it sucks.

when I was about to sleep with my gf for the first time, my erection went to about an 85%. not completely gone, but not enough to work with. very frustrating. I wasn't consciouly nervous, but it was the nervosity for sure.

another time I was just very drunk.



don't worry too much about it. and be sober the next time.

Yeah, well im pretty sure i was coming down when this happened, but im not 100% sure. Thing is everyone was drinkin so i didnt want to be completley straight and fuck her while she was messed up, i just dont beleive it doing it that way.

Yeah thanks for the information so far guys.

She's probably calling you "Limp Dick" behind your back as I'm typing this.

quote:Originally posted by Lolo_Ferrari:

She's probably calling you "Limp Dick" behind your back as I'm typing this.

yeah...

but i dint feel to depressed because my friend made it sound as if he has a simmiliar problem..so i didnt feel as bad i could of.

something like this happened to me a few days ago it was weird. Me and my girl were getting ready to get it on, and we were doing the whole foreplay thing and then finally when the time came for us to get undressed i think she went to the bathroom or something and i completely lost my hard on, and i couldn't get the fucking condom on. So i had her play with my dick for a lil' till it got hard again then all was well. Afterwards when we were done my dick would NOT go limp it was weird i think i stayed hard for like a good 30 min. after i had already orgasmed..

you got the whiskey dick

dont drink before next time, maybe not even smoke

Happened to me last month after I'd had way too much to drink. It just didn't work. I couldn't even feel it. If it happens again, just switch to oral and make damn sure she enjoys it.

I had this exact same problem when I lost my virginity and the next four times after that.

Alcohol was not involved, so I can't really advise on that, but I had some psychological things going on that I hadn't really identified which prevented me from getting an erection. Same problem. Hard as hell in the foreplay, but when she went to get a condom I lost it.

I think my problem was a combination of being too nervous about whether or not I would impress her, a lack of stimulation due to the condom, and the fact that I look at way too much porn of chicks hotter than my gf.

I overcame all this by not looking at porn other than of my gf anymore, practicing jacking off with a condom on so I get more used to it, and thoroughly analyzing how I felt about myself and my penis and sex in general and then trying to make all that better. "Reconnecting with my cock" in short. Also, you might try focusing less of getting her off and more on just getting yourself off. Doing this actually helped my gf get off.

Sorry for long post.

I gotta say, maybe it was cause it was your first time and you were nervous. I hear no guy is ever really good their first time.

don't feel bad. She probably knew you weren't gonna be great.

quote:Originally posted by albinoblacksheep:

I gotta say, maybe it was cause it was your first time and you were nervous. I hear no guy is ever really good their first time.

don't feel bad. She probably knew you weren't gonna be great.

Yeah thats what i was thinking to.

quote:Originally posted by Kah:

I had this exact same problem when I lost my virginity and the next four times after that.

Alcohol was not involved, so I can't really advise on that, but I had some psychological things going on that I hadn't really identified which prevented me from getting an erection. Same problem. Hard as hell in the foreplay, but when she went to get a condom I lost it.

I think my problem was a combination of being too nervous about whether or not I would impress her, a lack of stimulation due to the condom, and the fact that I look at way too much porn of chicks hotter than my gf.

I overcame all this by not looking at porn other than of my gf anymore, practicing jacking off with a condom on so I get more used to it, and thoroughly analyzing how I felt about myself and my penis and sex in general and then trying to make all that better. "Reconnecting with my cock" in short. Also, you might try focusing less of getting her off and more on just getting yourself off. Doing this actually helped my gf get off.

Sorry for long post.

Yeah and the fact it was in a dark ass room i couldnt see nothing closing my eyes was the same thing as having them open, i think it would of been better for some type of soft light so i could see her.

yeah i understand what your saying

but it makes sense to concentrate on you getting off rather then her atleast for you first times and your comfortable with yourself. Thanks.

quote:Originally posted by slaytanicwhermacht_89:

you got the whiskey dick

dont drink before next time, maybe not even smoke

Exactly what I was going to say.

Fuuuckk, man...i was just going to start a new post, of this exact same topic.

Im 17, been going out with the most amazing girl ever for while, we're both naked on my bed, she gives me the ok, but says i have to get a condom. I go get one, during that time, i go limp, and it stays that way.

I'm going to blame this on the weed smoked beforehand, and the cold medicine i took earlier.

But damn, man what a disappointment, not only to her but to me too...the ONE time i need it, it wont go up.

No, I've never been limp, and my bf has only been limp when we were both scared shitless and he's 24, haha, we were both scared shitless about some of my family issues and shit, we were in the middle of it and he was inside of me, and we just stopped and he was ontop, so he just lay in me and we tried to relax and he had his cheek on mine and we just listened to eachother breathe...anywho, a failed erection can result of anxiety, nervousness, insecurity, drugs&liquer,medication, stress, thinking too much about something...unreadiness.

I dont understand why everyone's so anxious to lose their virginity, it's a big deal but noone seems to care in this country lol.

If I didn't meet this guy, who's the love of my life, i would still be a virgin, and proud of it.

Sex is a big thing, and if you don't know yourself enough to be comfortable, confident and reassured that you're doing the right thing, it will not go right, or the way you want it, you cannot force your body to do what it's not ready to do.

Be true to yourself.

Eil>

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yeah i know what your saying. The reason i did it is i truley do love the girl im with right now.

but an update...

got put in the same situation last night, but all went good, i came a little faster then i wanted to because i havent 'masterbated' in about 5 days. Last Night was good though, im just wandering why the hell i cant get in a horny ass mood like i use to, but im happy last night went off good. Thanks to anyone that replied

When I drink I cant get it up. The first time I had sex it was exactly like your situation. I just couldn't keep it hard for more then 150 pumps. It kept falling out and it was just plain bad. I ended up getting head for an hour and a half tho. I was finally able to cum after that hour and a half of head.

well if you said that you were drunk and high that deffintly can effect it.

so the next time you want to have sex, dont drink and do drugs that will help keep it up

Yesterday.

i too have suffered from this but mine was bc she decided to come in not 30 mins after i had fired off a round of knuckle childeren pluss i didnt feel right about it in the first place bc she hadnt been laid in a while and was just using me for a one night stand normally this wouldnt bother me but she was a good friend and i somehow knew friendship wouldnt last after we went at it

anyway it seems the thing you all have in comon is the condom next time tell her to try bc and skip the shrink wrap even if only just once try the pull out method just remember to pull out

I've had this problem, bro.

Sometimes I can get hard just fine by myself. Probably 1/4 of the time I can't. You just need to feel comfortable talking to your girl. Whenever I can't get it going, I just tell her I'm having a little trouble down south and ask her to give me a little help.

I've dated girls that wouldn't give me a blowjob but would suck my dick long enough to get it hard.

quote:Originally posted by squeegee:

I've had this problem, bro.

Sometimes I can get hard just fine by myself. Probably 1/4 of the time I can't. You just need to feel comfortable talking to your girl. Whenever I can't get it going, I just tell her I'm having a little trouble down south and ask her to give me a little help.

I've dated girls that wouldn't give me a blowjob but would suck my dick long enough to get it hard.

yeah i was thinking about the whole situation again on sunday. I dont thinking about it that whole weekend felt fucked up i just didnt get into tha "unlimited" hornyness mood that guys are spose to beable to get in.

I have that prob all the time, whoever it was that said they were 75% hard and couldn't do it... wow... Get some lube and get her on the pill. Sometime I'll go for like 2 or 3 in a row and it just wont want to get up so ill put it in completly soft and it hardens up a little itself, sometimes not even getting past like 40% the whole time.

Ive got this same bloody issue.

Ive had sex a good few times before, but only when I was fucked out of my head on something...

but the girl Im with now, ive known for a year and we've been dating a while, and its just that I dont want to be fucked up when Im with her. but when we try to have sex, my little buddy just stands there half mast...

does getting head before hand really make that much of a difference?

we've tried on 2 different occasions, the first one was an utter failure, 45 minutes of half a penis...the second time 3 hours of half a penis... any help?

Fucking the left of a pumpkin sounded good last night, but in hindsight would have ruined the party. Thank you whiskey dick!

I didn't read the whole thread, mainly just skimmed the OP and some of the following posts, but trust me, I'm sure I have it worse.

I don't think I have EVER had sex ONCE where I maintained an erection all the way throughout.

Seriously... I think I left alot of girls very unimpressed.

I'm considering going on viagra or something, although I don't know if they'll prescribe it to a 22 year old. Plus, I'll have to plan ahead a few hours every time I expect to have sex.

Lol, I just noticed that it says "erecection".

quote:Originally posted by gadzooks:

I didn't read the whole thread, mainly just skimmed the OP and some of the following posts, but trust me, I'm sure I have it worse.

I don't think I have EVER had sex ONCE where I maintained an erection all the way throughout.

Seriously... I think I left alot of girls very unimpressed.

I'm considering going on viagra or something, although I don't know if they'll prescribe it to a 22 year old. Plus, I'll have to plan ahead a few hours every time I expect to have sex.

Let me know how it goes if you pursue this. I've seriously thought about talking to my doctor, but I somehow think he'll just think I'm trying to trick him.

quote:Originally posted by squeegee:

Let me know how it goes if you pursue this. I've seriously thought about talking to my doctor, but I somehow think he'll just think I'm trying to trick him.

I think I might bring it up next time I see my doctor, just to see what she suggests.

I have to see my doctor soon anyway, so it might be soon. I'll either update this thread or make a new thread about it. If I do bring it up with my doctor, it will be within the next week most likely.

How did it "fail you" if you're the one who decided to get drunk then try to get your virgin ass laid? Sounds to me like you just set yourself up for it.

FAIL.

Once, but it was because i just hopped out of a hottub with these two chicks and down to the bedroom.

It happens...its nerves. Don't worry, it goes away.

CaspeR

its happened to me but i dont dwell on it any more. i say easy come easy go.

its still happens (rarely) and its mostly when im drunk on goon,other alcohol never seems toaffect me unless im wasted, and when im nervious. my first time getting head i couldnt get it up .... but i was fucking terrified that she would look at it a laugh for some reson