Please give me fucking ideas. It's been bloody four years. Nature calls.

I Have been thinking hard about this for awhile. I guess I would need to go to a club but its not my thing.

1.Mail order bride.

2.Internet personals.

3.Go outside

I'm a fan of letting things happen naturally...Although I can see how this will present a problem if you are a loner...

Have you tried internet dating? I think that would be a good way to start.

if clubbing isnt ur thing, find a class with your favorite hobby, like cooking, or u could try internet, like personals, my bf and i met on yahoo, hehe. you could try blind dates, providing you trust your friend's judgement.

I'd recommend internet dating as well. It's a fun way to meet new people and you're often more comfortable behind a computer to say whatever and these women will be on your level.

I was reading stumble upon one day and some guy went to a psychologist for help and they told him to stand in the mall and ask 100 women if they'd like to get Coffee. He was scared shitless. He did it. It worked, he got lots of confidence and dated several women that day and future relationships were a lot more common. Anyways, I'm not telling you to do that but you should try asking random women to lunch or something. You don't know them, it won't hurt anything if you're turned down, which you probably will be.

You can do this in any environment, although I wouldn't recommend a bar. Bars are generally one-night-standers and if you hook up with a women there you'll have a bigger tendency to become attached to her than she will, when all you're both looking for is sex. If you want just sex, then bars are great! But try a public place like a mall if you prefer real life experiences while choosing your mate. And finally, good luck!

Find a loner girl at places loners hang out. You know where they are.

quote:Originally posted by stab:

Find a loner girl at places loners hang out. You know where they are.

Where?

Loners by defition hang out in there rooms... failing that the amateur radio club.

quote:Originally posted by SilentMind:

1.Mail order bride.

2.Internet personals.

3.Go outside

i lolled @ 3.Go outside.

Do you have any friends at all?

If so, just go out to the pub together, find a girl that catches your eye, offer to buy her a drink and get chatting.

If it all goes tits up, it doesn't matter all that much as chances are you'll never see the girl again. Just use Dutch courage if you're worried.

realdoll love u long time

No i dont have any friends. I go outside alot, but just for walks.

quote:Originally posted by Dr. Sodomy:

Where?

The library for one.

Just talk to girls. Listen when she talks, and be confident in everything you say. Don't studder, and don't lie. Be yourself at all costs. If she likes you, it will be easy. Dont pretend to be what you think she wants you to be, just be yourself, be confident, and don't allow silence in conversation.

I guarantee this works.

quote:Originally posted by jark0:

No i dont have any friends. I go outside alot, but just for walks.

Don't have friends because you don't want them or they don't want you?

sorry to say it probably wont happen.

this may be depressing, but i am depressed.

quote:Originally posted by dontdrinkbleach:

Don't have friends because you don't want them or they don't want you?

i know this wasnt directed at me, but ill answer anyway.

i am universally hated wherever i go. ive been trying so hard to get friends but it doesnt happen, so fuck.

so they dont want me.

Even though no one wants to know about my situation, I'll post it, as it is very related. Like jark0 I'm a loner and I got no friends. It is my own fault and stuff, but I do regret feeling lonely at times. Thing is, I can't find people worth spending time with, so I'm kinda the one not wanting friends. I'm not that bad at social situations, so that is not the problem. I'd go out, but I got nowhere to go and internet dating probably wouldn't do it for me. Anyone got suggestions for how I am to get a less depressing lovelife?

I suck at communication, yay. my life is pretty much a solid brick of bore, and I spend far too much time on the internet. There's nobody worth talking to for miles, everyone I know sucks, and I've been dropped too many times.

Thank Goodness for Hardcore Pornography and The Blues.

quote:Originally posted by MomentaryActOfTreason:

Even though no one wants to know about my situation, I'll post it, as it is very related. Like jark0 I'm a loner and I got no friends. It is my own fault and stuff, but I do regret feeling lonely at times. Thing is, I can't find people worth spending time with, so I'm kinda the one not wanting friends. I'm not that bad at social situations, so that is not the problem. I'd go out, but I got nowhere to go and internet dating probably wouldn't do it for me. Anyone got suggestions for how I am to get a less depressing lovelife?

Me to.

in all honesty I think your best bet is to start playing a musical instrument...no joke. girls are SO turned on by a guy who can play guitar or drums.

hey i'm a chick and the reason i have definitely been initially intrigued by my last 3 boyfriends is because of their guitar skills/musical knowledge. all sorts of girls (and particularly the more educated/opinionated ones..haha no bias) REALLY dig the muso guy thing. all u have to do is start teaching yourself at home. just drop the fact that u play to a few girls that u meet on the net or maybe just accidentally at the bus stop or something that u play and BINGO they'll b interested. promise.

If youre in school/college/uni try round the campus, other than that im not sure, im pretty much in the same boat.

Im sure i replied to this, im sure someone is deleting my posts :S

quote:Originally posted by among_the_living:

Im sure i replied to this, im sure someone is deleting my posts :S

*Shifty Eyes*

I just talk to girls when I'm going to work, at work, coming back from work, getting to my classes, uh well yeah you get the point.

Talk to people. And you might want to find stuff to do outside the computer since you say you're a loner I presume this is all you do.

Go to Thailand or Cambodia.

quote:Originally posted by Sick_Boy:

I'm a fan of letting things happen naturally..

Me too, my friends don't understand it tho.

quote:Originally posted by among_the_living:



Im sure i replied to this, im sure someone is deleting my posts :S

Uhm ...not me.

On a seperate note...either I've spent far too long on this board or it is just far too fucking early in the morning but i read this thread as "How can a ultimate boner get a GF?"

prey on a girl with a lower self esteem then you

Hello. I too, am lonely with very few friends...

If anybody wants to stay immersed in the vicious cycle of chatting on msn as opposed to having a real social life, talk to me on msn at:

calm_beneath_castles@hotmail.com

YAY

If you've done it before, you can do it again.

Talk to your friends? They might be able to atleast set you up with someone, whether this be as a friend or something. Preferebly over AIM or MSN messenger. Start it off as internet dating? Then eventually meet up with her, start talkign more in person... hopefully conversation will be decent enough, therefore boosting your confidence.

Anyway, just a suggestion.

MySpace. It's a shit hole but there are some good people on it. Just message them and start conversation from there. Don't tell them you're a weirdo right away, though.

Internet if you really can't be bothered making an effort (which you should.

Ah drink some liquid courage and go to a fucking party? its not that hard

a word of advice, you may be lonely but don't jump on the first thing that comes your way as it may be the worst thing to happen in a long time, from personal experience if your mates/associates think its a bad idea then it is so you better run and run quickly

and don't get pussy whipped either, you either man up and take control of the relationship or have an 'equal' relationhip don't let her be the dominent one because that normally ends up you doing stuff that you hate and missing out on doing stuff you like cause the girlfriend wants to go shopping just remember wear the pants

quote:Originally posted by Dr. Sodomy:

Where?

I wouldn't know. I'm not a loner



but anyway, it's really not that hard. don't put any pressure on yourself. how old are you?

just getting off the computer and going outside will help a great deal. I honestly wouldn't recommend online dating as it's pretty much full with either

a) psychopaths

b) obsessive-compulsive people

c) ugly girls that try to pass as hot

d) old girls that try to pass as young

e) creeps.

edit: the thread title would be a lot better if it read "how can an ultimate loner get a boner"

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Join the Navy, you'll confidence will go up, and you will have to work with women, and you will have to deal with people all the time. I am a loner still, and I get along with everyone, and my social skills skyrocketed.