I'm 19 and my brother is 15.

His girlfriend is a big time smut. She cheats on him all the time. It's pretty bad that I even hear about it being I am in college 50 miles away.

The problem is that he refuses to hear any ill about her. I even had one of my friends tell him that he had sex with her and he still didn't budge.

I know that people have to go through their own experiences, but I can foresee two things happening. One, she gets knocked up. Second, he catches something.

Any advice?

Keep doing what you are, eventually he may either listen or learn the hardway.

quote:Originally posted by Mindless Xyzzyean:

Keep doing what you are, eventually he may either listen or learn the hardway.

Yeah, sounds like it'll be the hard way if he's refusing to listen still...

quote:Originally posted by AnAsTaSiO:



Any advice?

Yeah, how about you stay the fuck outta it,kid?

Ain't none of your buisness nor concern. You've told him your opinion and that you are worried and that is all you can do.

Getting a friend to tell him that he had slept with her is real low.

With any luck your brother will realise what a shit you are and break off all contact with you.



[This message has been edited by jackketch (edited 11-14-2006).]

quote:Originally posted by jackketch:

Yeah, how about you stay the fuck outta it,kid?

Ain't none of your buisness nor concern. You've told him your opinion and that you are worried and that is all you can do.

Getting a friend to tell him that he had slept with her is real low.

With any luck your brother will realise what a shit you are and break off all contact with you.





Firstly, the reason I am even involved is because I am afraid that he will either get her pregnant or catch something.

Secondly, I phrased my sentence wrong. My friend did indeed sleep with her.

Thirdly, you're not that bright.

quote:Originally posted by jackketch:

Yeah, how about you stay the fuck outta it,kid?

Ain't none of your buisness nor concern. You've told him your opinion and that you are worried and that is all you can do.

Getting a friend to tell him that he had slept with her is real low.

With any luck your brother will realise what a shit you are and break off all contact with you.





That was really harsh and surprising.

[This message has been edited by Forgotten (edited 11-14-2006).]

Tell your brother to use condoms. That's about all you can do to help him now

I'm not the type of person to get into someone's personal business, however, I've been through a similar situation and it can get really bad.

I'm just going to let him play it out though and just see what happens.

quote:Originally posted by AnAsTaSiO:

Firstly, the reason I am even involved is because I am afraid that he will either get her pregnant or catch something.

Secondly, I phrased my sentence wrong. My friend did indeed sleep with her.

Thirdly, you're not that bright.

My lack of intelligence is well known and oft cited. Although what that has to do with you being a self righteous over bearing arsehole to your brother is , frankly, beyond me.

Keep your nose out of your brothers business, you do not have the right to break up his relationship, however undesirable it might seem to your conceited way of thinking.

The only thing you will succeed in doing his driving him deeper into her arms or anothers (who will be even worse in your eyes).

You DO not mess with other peoples relationships, however much you think you may be justified.

When you lose your virginity and fall in love with some girl/boy whom all your friends think is 'unsuitable' then you will understand.

quote:Originally posted by AnAsTaSiO:

I'm not the type of person to get into someone's personal business, .

quote:I even had one of my friends tell him that he had sex with her and he still didn't budge.



I think that says everything.

I agree with jackie-boy, what an asshole.

My conceited way of thinking?

So not wanting him to have a disease is conceited?

Did you have bad relationships as a teenager?

quote:Originally posted by Aseren:

I agree with jackie-boy, what an asshole.

I'm in the middle ground here. Yes we need to learn from our mistakes (as I'm sure your brother will), but sometimes it is useful and necessary for others to offer help and advice (just think what would of happened if Hitler's mother had told him to carry on with painting instead of getting involved in politics...

However, you have given your advice. whether he takes it or not, that is now no concern of yours. I understand it is harder because he is your own blood, and young too. But we must live our own lives. The best thing to do now is be there for him when it all fails, but without the 'I told you so' attitude.

quote:Originally posted by AnAsTaSiO:

My conceited way of thinking?

So not wanting him to have a disease is conceited?

Did you have bad relationships as a teenager?



So press a packet of Durex into his hand. Thats being a big brother.

Trying to break him and her up is 'conceited' (Who the hell are you to think you know who is right for HIM?!)

Understandably I never want my kids to date gingers but even if they did *shudders at thought* I wouldn't think it my business to try and break them up.

Bad relationships when i was a teen? Kiddo, my whole life has been a bad relationship by most people's reckoning.

quote:Originally posted by jackketch:

So press a packet of Durex into his hand. Thats being a big brother.

Trying to break him and her up is 'conceited' (Who the hell are you to think you know who is right for HIM?!)

Understandably I never want my kids to date gingers but even if they did *shudders at thought* I wouldn't think it my business to try and break them up.

Bad relationships when i was a teen? Kiddo, my whole life has been a bad relationship by most people's reckoning.

I mean I see where you are coming from, and you're probably right. It's just a difficult situation.

Thank you for your advice.

quote:Originally posted by jackketch:

Trying to break him and her up is 'conceited' (Who the hell are you to think you know who is right for HIM?!)

Who are you to think you know what's right for this guy?

quote:Originally posted by jackketch:

Who the hell are you to think you know who is right for HIM?!

I would say that being his older brother makes him pretty qualified.

You've done the right thing so far, but this is probably a lesson he'll have to learn on his own.

End of the day, I agree with what Jack is saying, in essence.

He's right no matter how harsh he is coming across.

Having said that, I can see your point...You're trying to protect your brother from a piece of shit woman but you've done all you can.

Telling him to break up with her is not your concern no matter how terrible you believe the relationship to be.

The best you can do is support his decision to learn his own way, which is rather admirable in a sense, and insist that he look after himself from the two outcomes you forsee by way of always using a condom.

Apart from that there's little you can do other than give him a beer, a brotherly hug and not gloat whatsoever when he finds out that you were right.

Hope it all works out well, mate.

EDIT: Come to think of it, why the fuck is your friend STILL your friend if he slept with your brother's girlfriend?!?!

If a friend of mine slept with my brother's girlfriend, I'd string him up and let my brother take the first crack at him!

[This message has been edited by psycho_8b (edited 11-14-2006).]

quote:Originally posted by psycho_8b:

End of the day, I agree with what Jack is saying, in essence.

He's right no matter how harsh he is coming across.

Having said that, I can see your point...You're trying to protect your brother from a piece of shit woman but you've done all you can.

Telling him to break up with her is not your concern no matter how terrible you believe the relationship to be.

The best you can do is support his decision to learn his own way, which is rather admirable in a sense, and insist that he look after himself from the two outcomes you forsee by way of always using a condom.

Apart from that there's little you can do other than give him a beer, a brotherly hug and not gloat whatsoever when he finds out that you were right.

Hope it all works out well, mate.

EDIT: Come to think of it, why the fuck is your friend STILL your friend if he slept with your brother's girlfriend?!?!

If a friend of mine slept with my brother's girlfriend, I'd string him up and let my brother take the first crack at him!



My friend did not know that they were together. The girl is very sneaky.

You're right though, I just have to let him experience things like this on his own.

arrange pictures, he can't get around those

and no, jackketch, it's low and not nice, but so is life

Although Jack did come across a bit harsh I agree with him. You gave your brother advice which was probably correct, he didn't listen, but it's his mistake to make. He's still young, he will learn.

I'd have been really thankfull if my brother came up to me say, two years ago and said

'Look sis, that guy you're with is shit. It's known by everyone except the most stupid and clueless, ie you, that he's been fucking everything with a cunt and a pulse, and will continue to do so regardless. Get those thoughts of love and happiness out of your fucking head now.'



I think jackketch is being a prick here, he's probably had a bad day and one of his sons has probably yet again done some stupid shit to fuck him off.



I think having some concern for your brother is decent. Tell him that this girl is a whore. Dont advise him to leave her because he wont. Just tell him. That's the best you can do.

What is with all this "conceited" bullshit? Pull your head out of your ass, junior - no chick who fucks around behind your back is "right" for you.

quote:Originally posted by yoyobek:



I think jackketch is being a prick here, he's probably had a bad day and one of his sons has probably yet again done some stupid shit to fuck him off.





Actually for once they haven't..although the evening is still young and youngest has just somehow managed to persaude me to pay for the coach ticket so he can go up to geordie land and see his bint (the one who can't make hot chocolate).

Anyways, I really really hate it when friends/family think they have some god given right to decide who may date whom.

Advise me , yes.

Try and split me and her up? Not if you want me to remain nice and filial.

Didn't speak to my own mother for 7 years for a similar reason.

I still don't speak to brother..again for a similar reason.

You DO NOT mess with a man's car, his box or his bint.

Your brother should know the reality of what's happenning around him; what he does with the information is his call.

quote:Originally posted by jackketch:

You DO NOT mess with a man's car, his box or his bint.

ESPECIALLY HIS CAR. And honestly you can tell him she is a whore, but until you come up with pictures of somebody else's dick in her mouth, it wont mean shit to him. He thinks he knows whats right for him, and im sure has some skewed view of everybody trying to take his love away from him.

Just let it go, he's going to have to learn the hard way, and the best you can do is be there for him when it falls apart, and hope he comes out alright.

Meh, if he'd rather side with the chick over you, his own brother, then you really should step back and let him learn it the hard way.

He might catch something, yes, but that might just be what he needs to learn. Let him figure it out for himself, and be happy that he isn't doing something much much worse.

Who knows, maybe he likes it like this? To each their own, really. Put a pack of condoms wouldn't hurt, as a big brother.

On one hand I agree with Jack, you don't try to break someone up.

On the other hand, I'd really appreciate it if someone told me my girlfriend was sleeping around.

I was never close with my family, especially my brother, so this would never come up. I do know some families that are extremely tight-knit, and things like this have come up before with them. It's never ended in a family break-up.

Jack: Do you think it's better for him to leave his brother go when it is a possible threat to him? For example, what if he DOES get a disease. Or perhaps someone else gets her pregnant and she blames it on him.

Where do you draw the line between trying to protect someone and being overbearing?

quote:Originally posted by XHippie HunterX:

but until you come up with pictures of somebody else's dick in her mouth,

Now there's an idea..

Well you can make a set up and catch her in the act or. Take your brother to college, find him a slut and get him revenge.

quit agreeing with jacketch, hes right. and hes wrong.

I recently met a girl like this, and I can say, even after she told me herself that she constantly cheats on her boyfriends, I still madly want to date her.

She probably makes him feel insanely good about himself when they are together.

If all she does is cheat on him, thats really not the worst thing in the world.

Its bad because YOU view it as a bad thing. You think she should only be with your brother.

If he was unhappy with her, and she cheated, he probably would care, but as long as he and her are both happy, they will stay together.

I think people really need to be in this situation in order to understand what it is like. Some girls are worth it.

Yeah, beat his fucking brains out and make him see logic. Burst of pain now is easier to deal with than emo-nomical "mental" pain later.