Ok, heres the deal.

Me and my girlfriend have been going out... about a month and a half, two months so far.

We always go to her house after school, where we play video games & watch anime, then proceed to make out and cuddle. We get along good at her house, we can talk and everything, she sits on top of me and stare at me. When she does cute stuff, I tell her i like it, and then she'll do it more often for me, We'll cuddle and she'll breathe deeper.

now heres the problem. This kind of thing ONLY happens at her house, or when we're completely alone. At school, it's totally different. At school, it seems like she avoids me sometimes. And when we talk, she cuts it quick and gets to her class when we still have time. Sometimes she "doesn't see me" in the hallway.

When I ask her to write me, she puts it off ALL day, lies about e-mailing me, then doesn't write me again.

On the game we play (online) I can see when she logs on. I sent her a message, and she didn't reply. She also took me off her profile.

When she does write me, it's some quick message like "Steven how are you, see you soon" so when I ask her why she's acting that way, she'll give me a new message saying "I don't mean to be that way on purpose, I miss you, see you tomorrow, you're hot"

So i'm thinking, maybe she's just nervous at school or something. But that doesn't explain why she doesn't write me for two days in a row. and sometimes it's almost obvious she's ignoring me.

I'm going over to her house today. I guess I'll find out when I go, But what do you think? Trying to tell me something, or just lazy and nervous?

i think shes a fucking goddamn slut

i think you should go over there and ASS FUCK her without lube

She never really talks to anyone else though, just her friend (female) and that's about it...

I ask her what I mean to her, she says she really loves me and she'll really miss me when I go, and that I'm everything to her.

Yeah I'd be kind of pissed off at her behaiviour, too.

If you're going out with someone, you dont just 'not see them' if you walk past them. That's fucked up.

I think you need to have a talk with her.

There's nothing wrong with having time apart from each other and it's probably good thing so that you dont get bored of each other.

But discussing that would be good, rather than her simply try to avoid you when you dont understand what's going on.

Maybe she just doesn't like public displays of affection; maybe she doesn't want to talk to you every single fucking time she goes online.

You want to change things? I suggest you try being the distant one, always look like you have something else to do. Try not messaging her at all till she does it first, and end the conversation first.

I agree with Forgotten. Just switch it around for a few weeks and see what happens.

quote:Originally posted by Forgotten:

Maybe she just doesn't like public displays of affection; maybe she doesn't want to talk to you every single fucking time she goes online.

You want to change things? I suggest you try being the distant one, always look like you have something else to do. Try not messaging her at all till she does it first, and end the conversation first.

This is probably your best bet. Just stop panicking.

I've been trying this, a little bit.

I'll throw it on heavier now and see how it goes.

Yeah, it's a good idea. But don't make your relationship just this 'game'

quote:Originally posted by BluryVision:

Yeah, it's a good idea. But don't make your relationship just this 'game'

exactly! I shouldn't even have to worry about this, it shouldn't even be an issue.

I've brought her behavior up twice now, but she assures me she's just nervous at school, or afraid to be late to class.

I guess I should just give her some space. Like Forgotton said, maybe she doesn't want to message me every single time she gets online. She only gets on like twice a day though.

I wish she was a little more... Not clingy, but into me a little more. When we meet at school she's like "Oh hey..." When I'd like it to be "Steven! hey!!" and gives me a hug. Just a little more... Into me. We hug when we see eachother, and she usually initiates it, but she'll cut it quick asap.

I'll see how things go if I go over today, and I'll definetly start acting the way she does to expirement a little.

Maybe I'm just worrying too much about it.

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quote:Originally posted by Its steven:

exactly! I shouldn't even have to worry about this, it shouldn't even be an issue.

I've brought her behavior up twice now, but she assures me she's just nervous at school, or afraid to be late to class.

I guess I should just give her some space. Like Forgotton said, maybe she doesn't want to message me every single time she gets online. She only gets on like twice a day though.

I wish she was a little more... Not clingy, but into me a little more. When we meet at school she's like "Oh hey..." When I'd like it to be "Steven! hey!!" and gives me a hug. Just a little more... Into me. We hug when we see eachother, and she usually initiates it, but she'll cut it quick asap.

I'll see how things go if I go over today, and I'll definetly start acting the way she does to expirement a little.

Maybe I'm just worrying too much about it.



Mm, still 2 months is still pretty hard to grasp someones personality, so it's a hard call. Best bet would be to sit down for about 10 minutes and imagine looking through her eyes, maybe you'll get some insight.

There are thoughtless people and there are people afraid of expressing their emotions in public. It sounds like she possesses one of these two characteristics. Shy, the word that was escaping me is shy.

There is also the chance, and I'm not insulting you, that she is ashamed to associate herself with you.

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Maybe her parents are riding her ass and she actually likes you.

Or you are being an overbearing grasping-for-straws cuntrag.

Perhaps it is possible shes done with you but doesn't want to break your feeble heart.

Or shes playing games with you.

Holy shit.

That would be a first for a broad.

maybe she likes the affection more than she likes u

I went over to her house today.

She was all over me and stuff.

She says she just feels bad at school and stuff.

It was an accident that she took me off her profile, and she proved it to me that she can't get me back on for some reason.

She said she just feels shy at school.

Tonight was bad-ass. No worries.

Rofl I like the 'and stuff' subtle.

She also said she can't write me half the time because she's caught up with homework and other stuff.

I also agreed to give her a little more space, and not bug her to write me all the time. I brought it up, not her. She just said ok.

So I think things are going fine now. I was just being too clingy I guess.

All is well now (and stuff)