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 #1 
Old 2006-11-10, 08:04
CaSp3R88 CaSp3R88 is offline
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Default Is she CHEATING on me?

I'll try to make this short...it's just so much shit is running through my head and I'm so pissed off I want to scream my head off into her voicemail. But I know that'd do nothing and only end up making me feel worse off.

So the deal is, my girlfriend met some guy at her work. They hang out a lot. She says they're "OMG totally just friends", but lately she's been "falling asleep" till like 3:00 in the morning at his friend's house after getting stoned and "watching a movie". That and the fact that today she left until Saturday to go fucking CAMPING with him and his friends.

I'm fucking pissed off. Does she think this is okay? She trips out whenever I so much as talk to another girl, but THIS is okay? I told her I don't think its even possible for a guy to be "friends" with a girl without at least some degree of attraction. Am I wrong? I asked what if he tried to make a move and she said "He won't."

She promisd me that she would never ever cheat on me, but she also confessed early on that she cheated on her last boyfriend, but only becasue he did first.

I really fucking hate to ask, but should I be suspicious? We've been kind of off and on angry at each other for the last month or so, but it seems to have gotten better over the last couple of weeks. Every time I'm really angry she just fucks me and I forget? Is she doing that on purpose? What should I say to her? Im just really fucking pissed right now that the first real relationship I've had might end with her cheating on me. Help. Please.

CaspeR
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Old 2006-11-10, 08:06
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Even if she's not cheating, it's still inappropriate. I wouldn't stand for it.
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Old 2006-11-10, 08:07
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Uh, yeah, be worried.

Falling asleep after getting high and watching a movie ONCE is believable. But all the time? When she KNOWS you're uncomfortable with it?

Don't interrogate her, or confront her. Just be completely ambivalous. Nothing drives ladies crazier than you guys acting like you don't give a damn.
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Old 2006-11-10, 08:10
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Yeah I agree with sickboy. It's not appropriate for your girlfriend to be sleeping at another guys house who isn't related to her bloodwise, let alone camping? That's bullshit, you need to call her on that because... well since I don't know her personality I can't say that she is definitely cheating on you but she is more prone to it because shes out camping with other guys.
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Old 2006-11-10, 08:11
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Tell her to cut out this bullshit behaviour and do as she's told, or it's over.

That, or let this drag out a few more weeks/months, whine on totse more, and leave this relationship with no dignity left whatsoever, which is frankly think is more likely.

Your choice.
 #6 
Old 2006-11-10, 08:13
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She's very likely cheating on you with this guy. If she cares about her relationship with you, she wouldn't be sleeping over and going on trips with this guy without having you there too. Even if it's innocent, an honest woman in a relationship should know that it pushes things too far.
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Old 2006-11-10, 08:16
CaSp3R88 CaSp3R88 is offline
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quote:Originally posted by Captain Asshat:

She's very likely cheating on you with this guy. If she cares about her relationship with you, she wouldn't be sleeping over and going on trips with this guy without having you there too. Even if it's innocent, an honest woman in a relationship should know that it pushes things too far.

Thats what I was thinking. If they're such good FRIENDS, then why didn't she invite me on the trip?...

This makes me feel icky in the most icky way. God this is where meth used to help. But that would be straight emo.

FUCK. And theres no fucking reception where she's staying, so I have to sleep on this for two more nights until she gets back.

CaspeR
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Old 2006-11-10, 08:21
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quote:Originally posted by CaSp3R88:

Thats what I was thinking. If they're such good FRIENDS, then why didn't she invite me on the trip?...

This makes me feel icky in the most icky way. God this is where meth used to help. But that would be straight emo.

FUCK. And theres no fucking reception where she's staying, so I have to sleep on this for two more nights until she gets back.

CaspeR



My suggestion is that you should level with her. Tell her the above actions make you question the relationship and her intentions. If by some chance she isn't cheating, you should be in for a decent, calm conversation about the matter. If she gets defensive right off the bat and tries to defend herself as if you attacked her, she's cheating and you should probably go your own way.
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Old 2006-11-10, 08:34
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trust your instincts.. most of the time they are right.. and yes I'd bet she's cheating. no doubt.
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Old 2006-11-10, 13:15
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Ask her about it. Don't let her dodge the conversation at all.

She's acting like a stupid bitch.
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Old 2006-11-10, 13:25
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I would have broken up so fast with her, that she wouldn't even know about it.
 #12 
Old 2006-11-10, 13:35
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Yes. Go with your instincts.
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Old 2006-11-10, 13:38
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quote:Originally posted by Captain Asshat:

My suggestion is that you should level with her. Tell her the above actions make you question the relationship and her intentions. If by some chance she isn't cheating, you should be in for a decent, calm conversation about the matter. If she gets defensive right off the bat and tries to defend herself as if you attacked her, she's cheating and you should probably go your own way.

Not always the case. The girl might flip just because of the accusation and him thinking she would cheat on him. BUT in this situation yes probably this is true.

How long have you guys been together? IF your girlfriend is like 14 or 15 then i understand why.(she is just a naive whore and doesnt know what relationship means) If she is like 17-18 she is cheating on you or having some sort of thing with this douche.

Talk it out before accusing. But you have to brign it up ASAP unless you want to feel like shit.
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Old 2006-11-10, 13:39
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Like Joe said, go with your instincts.

I think she is cheating on you bro.

So you now need to start the long process of getting over her. My advice would be to still go out with her, but distance yourself. Don't call her or anything, but let the relationship status hang in the air.

That way, you can get over her, and drive her crazy because girls hate it when guys don't care.
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Old 2006-11-10, 13:55
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I think you should get over her, but ingore her. Then say fuck you and your cheating fucking ways you fucking bitch. Then come out with Tesla and get whores
 #16 
Old 2006-11-10, 14:02
CaSp3R88 CaSp3R88 is offline
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Fuckin A. Im still fucking awake. Fuck this shit. Not even whiskey can put me to sleep, and I have class in 2 hours. *sigh* I feel like a bitch. Feel free to tell me so.

I sent her a text message though, which read:

"I take it back. Its not okay. I don't care even if you are friends, you have to know that its not right to be passing out at some guys house until 3 in the morning, or going camping with some guy I barely know, to do shrooms for 2 nights. I wouldve thought you'd have more sense than that.Think about how you'd feelif you were in my position. Either you're doing it on purpose or you don't care. Everyone thinks im crazy to believe you're watching a movie when you're out all night. I appreciate all you do for me, but even you have to admit this issketchy at best. Bottom line- there's a reason that Im still awake at 2 in the morning- I care about you. So you need to let me know whats going on because I don't feel like pretending that I'm cool with the way things are."

Long, I know. Thats what happens when alcohol's involved. Anyway, I think its pretty to-the-point. Yeah. Well...G'night...maybe.

CaspeR
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Old 2006-11-10, 14:04
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It's way too nice.
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Old 2006-11-10, 14:05
CaSp3R88 CaSp3R88 is offline
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What would you have me say in addition, short of sounding like a jealous, clingy, asshole?

CaspeR
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Old 2006-11-10, 14:14
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You should wait until she returns to have a conversation in hopes of rectifying this situation, if you approach with the sternness that this justifies with her at such a safe distance that she never has to tell you about what you fear will become truth, if it hasn't already.

Especially if shrooms are involved. She'll suddenly realize that her and this guy are kindred souls and you are the devil who wants to keep her in your satchel because you feast on her misery.

Or something like that, shrooms do weird things to people, especially stupid people. And if this girl is doing all of these things, and not cheating on you, and assumes that she's not going to be hit on, and doesn't think to invite you along then she's stupid.

really really stupid.

Sorry to say but at this point you'll have to pick between a dumb, naive, inconsiderate girlfriend, and a maniacal, manipulative whore of a girlfriend.

From what you're describing to me I've inferred that you're young, and with youth comes naivatte, so chances are you two can grown and learn together, since you are also dumb and naive, and that a healthy love life can sprout between the two of you as you approach each other honestly, lovingly, and authentically.

If you provoke her with drunk accusations as she lays miles away, on shrooms, in some guys tent, however, this can't happen.
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Old 2006-11-10, 14:15
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Punch her, right in the face.
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Old 2006-11-10, 14:16
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quote:Originally posted by CaSp3R88:

What would you have me say in addition, short of sounding like a jealous, clingy, asshole?

CaspeR

Its good, dont worry.

Got to the point without sounding like a dick.
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Old 2006-11-10, 14:21
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quote:Originally posted by jvm222:

Its good, dont worry.

Got to the point without sounding like a dick.

Wrong, she's fucking up YOUR relationship. You have every right to be a dick.
 #23 
Old 2006-11-10, 14:33
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quote:Originally posted by Aseren:

Wrong, she's fucking up YOUR relationship. You have every right to be a dick.

Yeah but he isnt sure. He apparently cares about her and isnt trying to fuck things up until he is sure she is fucking around.
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Old 2006-11-10, 14:47
CaSp3R88 CaSp3R88 is offline
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quote:Originally posted by jvm222:

Yeah but he isnt sure. He apparently cares about her and isnt trying to fuck things up until he is sure she is fucking around.



Yeah. I really wish I could be an asshole, but if I turn out to be wrong, this whole situation is just gonna be worse. If necessar (which I hope it won't be), there'll be a time for yelling and name-calling. I just don't know if that's the best for right now.

And for whoever was wondering, Im 18 and she's 19.

CaspeR
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Old 2006-11-10, 14:51
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quote:Originally posted by Toothlessjoe:

Punch her, right in the face.
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Old 2006-11-10, 18:34
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I just laughed so hard at your story. I'd say sorry, but I don't really feel bad.

You have to be nuts to stay with that girl, she's obviously into the other guy and he's probably into her in more than one way.
 #27 
Old 2006-11-10, 18:53
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Just keep on fucking her and do not give 2 shits about what she does.
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Old 2006-11-10, 18:56
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Standard Jackketch Response Nr.23

Put him on crutches and her over your knee.
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Old 2006-11-10, 18:58
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Well, I have a male friend, we've been to a few parties together and crashed at his place, we used to watch a lot of movies together etc, I've never done ANYTHING sexual with him, and wouldn't consider it, we're just friends, but apparently people think it's impossible.

If you don't trust her, sort it out!
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Old 2006-11-10, 20:01
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dude, double standards are total bullshit. be suspicious. i wouldn't let the "friend" within 10 feet of your girlfriend at this point. make sure she doesn't go on the camping trip. and if she does, go with.
 #31 
Old 2006-11-10, 21:33
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She's cheating on you. No doubt. Sleeping over at this guys house after getting high with him? And now she's going camping with him? It's not even worth telling her to stop because she's already cheating on you. Leave that bitch.
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Old 2006-11-10, 21:58
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Yeah obviously she is if shes going camping with him and his friends. What do you think they are gonna do in the tent late at night once everyones asleep? Yeah thats what I thought. So you just need to be a man and not stand for this bullshit and dump the bitch.
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Old 2006-11-10, 22:32
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casper man you need to up and leave this bitch.. 110% chance she's cheating or at least planning on cheating. just charge her to the game and focus on meeting some new females.

by the way becoming a BUGABOO to her (nonstop calls, texts..etc) is only gonna make things worse.
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Old 2006-11-10, 22:39
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Come out with Tesla and fuck some whores
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Old 2006-11-10, 22:42
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quote:Originally posted by CaSp3R88:

What would you have me say in addition, short of sounding like a jealous, clingy, asshole?

CaspeR



you should have simply said-- "I'm not stupid. I know what's goin on. I don't let females blatantly disrespect me or try and play me like some kind of fool. We're done." and don't call her/contact her.

and by the way ^ ^ that response would get you much more respect than what you're doing now.. what you said made you do come across as DESPERATE which is a huge turnoff to women.. you need to make it clear that she isn't doing YOU a favor by being in the picture. man up on this shit and just put her in line. stop being nice.. my god that was way too nice.. this bitch is blatantly slapping you in the face and disrespecting you. stop being a SIMP about it.. because you looked like a pussy in that text. your relationship with her is OVER. PEROID.



quote:there'll be a time for yelling and name-calling.

why the fuck would you waste that much time/energy on this bitch?? If you REALLY wanted to get to her act like she's not worth a DAMN.. going on a tantrum only makes you look even more pathetic and she would relish in the fact that she has that much power of you.. so no.. cut out that bullshit mentality.

[This message has been edited by DENKDAN (edited 11-10-2006).]
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Old 2006-11-11, 01:38
CaSp3R88 CaSp3R88 is offline
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She texted me back saying that she swears that they're just friends, and im trippin. I'll update once she gets back and we talk. But from the 15 people or so here, and all the people I've talked to outside of TOTSE, I can say with certainty that I have good fucking reason to be suspicious. If she doesn't have a damn spiffy explanation tomorrow, Im going to break up with her.

Otherwise, I don't know who's going to give me teh buttsecks.

CaspeR
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Old 2006-11-11, 02:04
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Out of experience, I'll say this.

It's never, ever the way it is, it's the way it feels/looks.

You've got every right to be suspcious and/or worried/etc. on this, that's plain as day. I'd have dumped her a long time ago (depending how long this has been going), I can't stand that. If she can't even sit through a calm conversation/etc. over it or something to ease your fears/etc. or avoid doing that to you, she isn't worth your time, plain and simple. IMO you've cut her way too much slack thus far, it's past overdue to pull that back in.
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Old 2006-11-11, 02:50
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quote:Originally posted by CaSp3R88:

She texted me back .....

What happened to her being out of service?
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Old 2006-11-11, 03:30
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The relationship is over or she would want you to go camping with them all regardless if her new friend is a woman or a man.
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Old 2006-11-11, 20:23
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that's a pretty long text message you sent....anyway, yeah she's getting cock from all those guys she went on the trip with, don't believe her lies.
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Old 2006-11-11, 20:35
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quote:Originally posted by I_Like_Traffic_Lights:

You should wait until she returns to have a conversation in hopes of rectifying this situation, if you approach with the sternness that this justifies with her at such a safe distance that she never has to tell you about what you fear will become truth, if it hasn't already.

Holy shit. I've read this sentence (or should I say paragraph? ) three times and it still doesn't make sense to me.

Edit: I think I understand.

quote:You should wait until she returns to confront her about this. If you are stern with her - and this situation does justify stern-ness, but not now (because she's so far away, in a tent with a bunch of probably available guys) - then she might be pushed into making what you fear (i.e. cheating) become not just a fear, but a truth (if it isn't a truth already.)

Close?

[This message has been edited by Twisted_Ferret (edited 11-11-2006).]
 #42 
Old 2006-11-11, 20:42
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Why can't you seem them as people, rather than as males and threats, and trust her? Is it so extreme?
 #43 
Old 2006-11-12, 01:22
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This bitch sounds like my ex.
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Old 2006-11-12, 01:45
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Open your eyes, idiot. Of course she's cheating on you...falling asleep? More like ''I fucked him.''
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Old 2006-11-12, 01:46
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Now.. cheating or not, ignoring the odds/way it looks, it's still very disrespectful, inconsiderate for someone in a lreationship to be doing, without discussing/etc. it first with him.
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Old 2006-11-12, 01:50
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Yes you should be suspicious because there's a 99% chance that there is something going on with your girlfriend and her "friend". To be honest I recently met a guy who I talk on the phone with all the time and I kinda have feelings for him, but that's because I don't really feel anything for my bf anymore (we're in a long distance relationship). I can't tell my bf that I wanna break up with him because if I did he would threaten to kill himself *sigh*. But anyways, when my bf gets all upset or whatever whenever I'm talking to this guy I tell him "we're just friends" or "he doesn't like me that way, he's not gonna do anything" which isn't true. I got mad at my bf whenever he hung out with girls and stuff but now I don't really care cuz I don't have feelings for him anymore. But um ya..
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Old 2006-11-12, 01:55
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quote:Originally posted by Kittie:

Yes you should be suspicious because there's a 99% chance that there is something going on with your girlfriend and her "friend". To be honest I recently met a guy who I talk on the phone with all the time and I kinda have feelings for him, but that's because I don't really feel anything for my bf anymore (we're in a long distance relationship). I can't tell my bf that I wanna break up with him because if I did he would threaten to kill himself *sigh*. But anyways, when my bf gets all upset or whatever whenever I'm talking to this guy I tell him "we're just friends" or "he doesn't like me that way, he's not gonna do anything" which isn't true. I got mad at my bf whenever he hung out with girls and stuff but now I don't really care cuz I don't have feelings for him anymore. But um ya..

Break up with him, quit dragging it out.
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Old 2006-11-12, 03:09
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quote:Originally posted by Fanglekai:

Break up with him, quit dragging it out.

QFT

Kittie you're a stupid lying whore.
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Old 2006-11-12, 05:00
CaSp3R88 CaSp3R88 is offline
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I still haven't seen her today, but I talked to her a bit and she apologized. She said she told the guy that she can't be staying out all night or anything anymore, and that she felt bad about the whole situation. SShe said she hopes I believe her and she loves me so much she doesn't want to lose me. Basically she apologized a lot and I didn't really tell her one way or another whether I forgave her. Basically she says she knows she fucked up, but nothing happened, and that she won't do this again. Whaddaya say S&A?

CaspeR
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Old 2006-11-12, 05:03
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quote:Originally posted by CaSp3R88:

I still haven't seen her today, but I talked to her a bit and she apologized. She said she told the guy that she can't be staying out all night or anything anymore, and that she felt bad about the whole situation. SShe said she hopes I believe her and she loves me so much she doesn't want to lose me. Basically she apologized a lot and I didn't really tell her one way or another whether I forgave her. Basically she says she knows she fucked up, but nothing happened, and that she won't do this again. Whaddaya say S&A?

CaspeR

If she has no history of lying to you, I say 'well done'.
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Old 2006-11-12, 08:10
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quote:Originally posted by Twisted_Ferret:

Originally posted by I_Like_Traffic_Lights:

You should wait until she returns to have a conversation in hopes of rectifying this situation, if you approach with the sternness that this justifies with her at such a safe distance that she never has to tell you about what you fear will become truth, if it hasn't already.

Holy shit. I've read this sentence (or should I say paragraph? ) three times and it still doesn't make sense to me.

Edit: I think I understand.

quote:You should wait until she returns to confront her about this. If you are stern with her - and this situation does justify stern-ness, but not now (because she's so far away, in a tent with a bunch of probably available guys) - then she might be pushed into making what you fear (i.e. cheating) become not just a fear, but a truth (if it isn't a truth already.)

Close?



My apologies, I sometimes forget that my meaning isn't always clear.

I've also been reading a lot of Philosophy lately; namely: Sartre, and he uses language in a way that obfuscates more than it elucidates.

But, yes, you are correct with your interpretation. Giving someone an ultimatum in a setting where they are free to do whatever they please without much fear of you ever finding out about it with the exception of what they tell you (especially while getting fucked up) is a real great way to guarantee that they'll do whatever they damn well please.

As for the original poster and his update:

quote:

She said she told the guy that she can't be staying out all night or anything anymore, and that she felt bad about the whole situation

Sounds like the conversation went more like "we've been caught, and I like the way my boyfriend makes me feel about myself in that I get to do whatever the fuck I want and I don't let him do anything, let's be smarter about this."

This could, of course, just me being cynical as I'm rather sleepy. It could be that she has had an epiphany, realized the errors of her ways, and somehow matured tremendously in the past 24 hours.

What is it....Occam's Razor?

And, yes, you probably would be invited on these outings. Girlfriend's usually like to have their friends like their boyfriends, or at least know them.
 #52 
Old 2006-11-12, 09:29
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quote:Originally posted by Toothlessjoe:

Punch her, right in the face.




is that what someone did to you? toothless joe?
 #53 
Old 2006-11-12, 10:56
CaSp3R88 CaSp3R88 is offline
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Okay so, we talked in person a lot more, and I somewhat believe her. What I think happened, at the most, is that she was looking for validation,like most women do, and tried to make friends with this guy. She didn't realize that it'd piss me off until it was done, and when I made that clear, she realized she fucked up.

So, we went to go see Borat, and she leaned her head on my chest the entire movie and was stroking my hand. We just got done fucking for the fourth time, and she's sleeping. I thing everythings good. I must say though, post-angry sex is the shit. Hahah she bit her lip until it bled.

Anyway, I feel a lot better about the whole situation now. Thanks, guys. I'll still be on the lookout in the future though...

CaspeR
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Old 2006-11-12, 11:58
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quote:Originally posted by Sick_Boy:

Even if she's not cheating, it's still inappropriate. I wouldn't stand for it.

yes. and I also agree with 'ketch.
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Old 2006-11-12, 15:55
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quote:Originally posted by CaSp3R88:

What I think happened, at the most, is that she was looking for validation,like most women do, and tried to make friends with this guy. She didn't realize that it'd piss me off until it was done, and when I made that clear, she realized she fucked up.

Yes, she knew it would piss you off. She did it to make you jealous of her. There would not have been any validation unless she knew you were jealous of what she was doing. Don't be naive.

However, you shouldn't really fault her for it too much. It's stupid and immature, but no one's perfect.
 #56 
Old 2006-11-13, 06:18
NutzOfThePheonix NutzOfThePheonix is offline
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hahaha he's got her out in the woods hitting it like a cave man.
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Old 2006-11-13, 06:39
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Your mind has been clouded by the pussy, consumed it has become!

Talk to this "friend", you must! Confront him, find the truth in his eyes you will, if you seek it! Ohoho! Yes, yes.
 #58 
Old 2006-11-13, 10:32
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You're losing this much sleep over this druggie slut?

Dump her and find a better one.
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Old 2006-11-13, 16:42
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http://img.photobucket.com/albums/v426/PerryG2480/caveman.jpg
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Old 2006-11-14, 03:50
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dump the girl. she has cheated on you and it will hurt more than you can possibly imagine when you finally find out(and you inevitably will). You don't have to let her treat you like that. the best thing you can do is leave her first and get as far away as possible for when the bomb drops.
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Old 2006-11-14, 04:40
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Put the cunt in her place. But being a woman, if you're like "Stop hanging out with him. You're cheating on me" she'll turn it around and make you look like/feel like the bad guy.

Tell her to stop that shit or she can fuck off.

(by the way, be prepared for her to fuck off)
 #62 
Old 2006-11-14, 10:53
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Be honest with yourself champ.

You were looking for a way to avoid the horrible truth. You didn't want to believe it.

By posting this topic its clear you KNOW what the real answer is.

She probably got fucked and didnt get loved before or afterwards and couldnt handle it.

DUMP DUMP DUMP THE BITCH
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Old 2006-11-14, 12:24
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quote:Originally posted by CaSp3R88:

Okay so, we talked in person a lot more, and I somewhat believe her. What I think happened, at the most, is that she was looking for validation,like most women do, and tried to make friends with this guy. She didn't realize that it'd piss me off until it was done, and when I made that clear, she realized she fucked up.

So, we went to go see Borat, and she leaned her head on my chest the entire movie and was stroking my hand. We just got done fucking for the fourth time, and she's sleeping. I thing everythings good. I must say though, post-angry sex is the shit. Hahah she bit her lip until it bled.

Anyway, I feel a lot better about the whole situation now. Thanks, guys. I'll still be on the lookout in the future though...

CaspeR



She apologised because of guilt.

Shes stringing you along because she loves you - but she isnt in love with you.

Shit man, i know that your not going to take kindly to hearing it off the internet - odds are you wont take me seriously, but the girl is no good.

She can brush you away and spend time with another man just like that? Dont lie to yourself because you know something happened.

People will lie because they dont want to hurt someone with the truth, because it avoids a situation - but the lie wont satisfy.

Maybe this guy didnt want to have a girlfriend, maybe he wasnt worth leaving you for - but if shes out there making 'friends' (looking for new boys) then sooner or later shes going to find one.

Give her away, it'll hurt, you'll miss her - but when shes on the arm of some other man a week later it'll sink in that you were being had.

quote:Originally posted by rabbitweed:

Tell her to cut out this bullshit behaviour and do as she's told, or it's over.

That, or let this drag out a few more weeks/months, whine on totse more, and leave this relationship with no dignity left whatsoever, which frankly is more likely.

Your choice.



Your choice casper nolan.
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Old 2006-11-14, 23:34
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quote:Originally posted by NutzOfThePheonix:

hahaha he's got her out in the woods hitting it like a cave man.
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Old 2006-11-15, 09:18
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Nah I was wrong. Everyone here was, I guess. She's been absolutely normal and stuff the past few days, and hasn't even gone to see him. That and she's been unbelievably on my fucking nuts the past few days. Iunno- she pulled me into a Ralphs bathroom and we fucked on the counter. Im confused.

She also pulled out the "L" word. No, shes not a lesbian. But she hadn't used it before and now she says that she realizes how much we need each other.

Tonight I was cooking dinner and she was cleaning up the house and shit and then we layed down to watch TV. Then at one point we just met eyes and thats what got me. There are times, looking into someone's eyes, you can really see how they feel. She smiled and stared me down with those big blue eyes and kissed me. Im sure she wasn't lying, even if it was stupid.

But dammit...now she's using the L word.

CaspeR
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Old 2006-11-15, 09:21
CaSp3R88 CaSp3R88 is offline
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Nah. It was all wrong. She fucked up, but she didn't fuck him. I know.

CaspeR
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Old 2006-11-15, 11:14
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quote:Originally posted by CaSp3R88:

Nah. It was all wrong. She fucked up, but she didn't fuck him. I know.

CaspeR

What, so she sucked his dick??
 #68 
Old 2006-11-16, 02:03
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Are you into drugs too? If so you should have been there with her, if not I can see why she didn't invite you. You said she was going out there to eat shrooms, that's probably what they did.

It's possible she cheated on you, I'm not going to say either way. I don't know about shrooms, but I know tripping on acid you aren't really thinking about sex and sex while tripping would probably be pretty strange. If the shrooms weren't involved I would say she definitely fucked him though. It's possible she really did go out there just to trip though. If you aren't into drugs than get into them and you will understand.
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Old 2006-11-16, 02:56
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quote:Originally posted by Toothlessjoe:

Punch her, right in the face.


DO IT!
 #70 
Old 2006-11-16, 05:37
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Get off the guy's fucking nuts, gang.

I was in a very similar situation a couple years ago, right when I quit drinking. My girlfriend lived about two hours away, and my bestest friend in the whole wide world was another chick who was terribly cute. I passed out at her dorm drunk many a night, because I was hammered and didn't wanna walk twelve blocks. When I gave up the sauce, she stayed at my place for most of a week, sleeping on the couch and occasionally checking to make sure I wasn't having a withdrawal seizure in my sleep.

My girlfriend got a little prickly over this, but understood. And when the other girl came out and admitted she DID have an interest in me, I politely and comfortingly told her that sucked, because I loved my girlfriend.

Bottom line: Check your fucking attitudes, gang. Situations differ, and people just fuck up sometimes.
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Old 2006-11-16, 08:35
CaSp3R88 CaSp3R88 is offline
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Yeah, Im pretty sure she just fucked up. If you've read BLTC though, you might know that Im definitely into drugs. I do more than he and she combined. But they actually ended up doing E there, which I also wasn't thrilled about, but we had a good long talk, and I think we're cool on that. But still, we get in all these stupid fights and shit, so I don't know how much longer Im gonna be down for this, honestly.

But the other night we were just laying there after sex and she was just looking at me with her big blue eyes, and then she smiled and kissed me, mouthing the words "I love you". Hell, I haven't even brought myself to say that, so I'd say thats kinda significant. But there are those times you just "know"...

CaspeR

COMING SOON: A list of all the stupid fucking feminine reasons that she gets angry at ME...
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Old 2006-11-16, 08:53
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quote:Originally posted by CaSp3R88:

..mouthing the words "I love you".

She's willing to say anything to have you forget about her fuckuppery.

I doubt she means it. You don't do what she did with out anything happening. Shrooms? Maybe. E? Fuuuuuuck no! Did they have lasers, lights and massive speakers pumping music to entertain them selves all the way out there in the forest? What? No? Just each other? Yeah, I figured. Hmmm, how would I entertain my self while on E in the presence of a female...
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Old 2006-11-16, 08:53
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quote:Originally posted by CaSp3R88:

Yeah, Im pretty sure she just fucked up. If you've read BLTC though, you might know that Im definitely into drugs. I do more than he and she combined. But they actually ended up doing E there, which I also wasn't thrilled about, but we had a good long talk, and I think we're cool on that. But still, we get in all these stupid fights and shit, so I don't know how much longer Im gonna be down for this, honestly.

But the other night we were just laying there after sex and she was just looking at me with her big blue eyes, and then she smiled and kissed me, mouthing the words "I love you". Hell, I haven't even brought myself to say that, so I'd say thats kinda significant. But there are those times you just "know"...

CaspeR

COMING SOON: A list of all the stupid fucking feminine reasons that she gets angry at ME...

I dunno dude, this reminds me eerily of the relationship I just got out of. My instincts were right 100% of the time.

Be careful man, don't let her break your heart.

and if you need buttsecks

hit me up big boy

naw jk lol faggot.
 #74 
Old 2006-11-16, 09:33
CaSp3R88 CaSp3R88 is offline
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Hahah Rizzo, you ass-pirate.

Yeah, Im going to be very wary. Its impossible for me to have my heart broken though. Its a widely known fact that I have no heart, hence my ungodly comsumption of drugs.

CaspeR
 #75 
Old 2006-11-16, 21:44
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quote:Originally posted by arquin:

She's willing to say anything to have you forget about her fuckuppery.

I doubt she means it. You don't do what she did with out anything happening. Shrooms? Maybe. E? Fuuuuuuck no! Did they have lasers, lights and massive speakers pumping music to entertain them selves all the way out there in the forest? What? No? Just each other? Yeah, I figured. Hmmm, how would I entertain my self while on E in the presence of a female...

I'm gonna have to agree with arquin here. When I posted my first reply I had forgot about you saying she kept "falling asleep" at his house, which is suspicious as hell, and the fact that she was doing E with him out in the forrest instead of shrooms.....

Dude if you think you can trust her cool, but that's hella sketchy make sure you aren't blinding yourself to what you don't want to see.
 
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