I very rarely post in S&A, but I need mature help.

Let me start off by saying i'm 16, and she's 18.

Recently, at work, we hired a new person to work in the grooming salon, (I work at a PetSmart). Anyways, we went on one date, nothing happened afterwards, (don't do sex on the first date). So, fast forward a week...

She is now completely obsessed with me. Shes constantly texting me, going on and on about how much I mean to her, how much she loves me, how we're meant to be together, on and on, 24/7. Not much problem so far... Read on...

Now, there's this other girl. She is my age, and we've been really really close. I've seen her through 2 breakups, we've fooled around before, but nothing serious. Now, after talking to her tonight, I have come to the realization that at this point in time, she, (the girl that is my age), is the one for me. We already know each other really well, we get along like crazy, hang out all the time, but she's not obsessive about it.

Main reason for this topic, is I need advice on how to let the 18 year old down as softly as possible. I have a feeling that she is gonna go ballistic about it, and I don't want that to happen, because then it would make work suck A LOT. I've considered just messin around with both of em, but I'm not that kind of guy...

Any advice would be greatly appreciated.

soften a blow?

k. that's kinda conterdictin' the usual advice i give, but maybe try something other than blunt force trauma.

perhaps a gun shot? but totally silent or it'll not work

Shoot the 18 year old.

Wow. Dude. That's awesome, for starters.

I think you need to tell her the truth. That you're in love (yeah?) with another girl. Tell her about her. It's logical, rational, and real. She'll back off, and actually respect you even more, so she'll be open to you if you want her in the future.

The truth is usually the best thing man. Don't be afraid to use it.

quote:Originally posted by stab:

I think you need to tell her the truth. That you're in love (yeah?) with another girl. Tell her about her. It's logical, rational, and real. She'll back off, and actually respect you even more, so she'll be open to you if you want her in the future.

Or she'll go all psycho-bitch on you and the other girl...

Dude... I dont see whats bad having someone loving you and you not loving them, the one that you do love might be playing around, or might be fooling around, i'd give it a week, pay equal attention to them both, and then probably if it does come to dumping the 18 year old, i'd have to say your fucking crazy then probably the truth and say that you felt uncomfortable and that you want a break.

Hehehehehehe...Reminds me of the time I got drunk at work and kissed a girl outside. She was 26, I was 20...Just the kissing made her text me and call me and shit going on about "Love you loads baby, can't wait to see you at work!"

Anyhoo...

Do what I did and say that you'd be no good for her in the long run...That you're an arsehole, selfish sonofabitch when it comes to relationships and you'd be much better to her as just a friend.

Failing that, say you're joining the army soon and she shouldn't be with someone who might get shot!

Those worked for me!

quote:Originally posted by psycho_8b:

Failing that, say you're joining the army soon and she shouldn't be with someone who might get shot!

Those worked for me![/B]



yes, hes going to join the army...the only problem being that he will see her everyday.

quote:Originally posted by Pseud0nym:



yes, hes going to join the army...the only problem being that he will see her everyday.

Soon, that's what he said.

Wow, the older one sounds really intense. There's not much you can do, but try and be nice about it - let her down easy but still make it very clear that you do not want a relationship with her. Don't drop in maybes or I guesses because then she can use those words against you.It also leaves hope in her mind that their might be a chance if you don't make it very clear to her.

Good luck.

She's like that after a week??? Tell her to chill out. You should probably just tell her you don't think you work out as a couple and that you just want to be friends. You do want to be friends, because you work together. It'll be awkward if you aren't careful!