I dont come to S&A at all, but I would really like some help here. Ill give you a short version and then a longer version if you feel like humoring yourself at my expense.

ShortIm going on a blind/double date saturday and ive had a bad experience with a girl before, how do I not look like the skinny weak guy that I am?

Long So im 16 and ive only had 1 relationship in my life. It was beginning of august when my friend set me up with this cool chick. Well she led me on mass, and then told me that she didnt like me the day before my birthday. It hurt me pretty bad. Well now im trying again, and on saturday night im going on a double/blind date with my friend (the one who set me up) and his girlfriend. Apparently this girl im supposed to be going with is really hot. I dont think of myself as a hot guy at all. Im tall, skinny, and not that strong. I dont think there is any way I could get this girl (assuming she IS that hot) and im also really nervous about what could happen, like what did on my birthday. Is there any way I can look just a little better than the lanky kid I am?

Okay, you're paranoid. Chill. Take it as it comes. No drugs or alcohol be sober. Enjoy it. You're testing her, not the other way around. Know exactly what you're doing. Be fine.

You're up for it, mate.

confidence! if you want to try drugs to help you out a little maybe try and get some benzos. I was nervous befor a date once and took 20mg valium and was relaxed but a little to out of it so be carefull.

well I wish I could take a little vallium or something to help me calm down. But really, I loved being in a realtionship, and ever since the "incident" ive wanted to be in another. Things dont come easily for me, so I really really want this to work.

Well first you need confidence if you want any chance. And forget about what happened before, focus on now. Dress nicely, and be confident, and a little cocky. Make sure you sound outgoing. Don't be the quiet guy who doesn't talk.

don't try to get with her because she's hot, try to get with her because you like her. that being said, don't try too hard. just go and enjoy it, and if you guys click, ask her if she wants to hang out again. if she seems nervous or unsure, say that you guys can go out as a group again to take the pressure off and not make it seem like a date.

Ok, so ive got to be Confident and Outgoing. I think I can do it. Thanks, I love S&A now. Just think of the responses if this was posted in SG.

i'm 6 feet tall and only weigh 130 pounds.

doesnt stop me.

but dont wear baggy clothes, no one likes that. i wear small shirts and not that baggy pants (not emo tho, but lots of chicks like emo pants too) i think they're loose boot cut style or something

but most of it is how you act. doesnt matter if you're skinny. lots of guys are skinny. lots of skinny guys have girlfriends. dont act like a retard. dont act all nervous either. just have an attitude like "fuck it, if she doesnt like me, theres someone else" and act like shes your best friend. you hae to talk. if you sit there the whole time without talking, she'll know you're shy. just DO IT.

because really, if she doesnt like you for who you are, move on.

Wow, Im about 6 foot and 130 too. I usually dont get nervous about shit, but like I said earlier, I dont get ass, ever. I NEED someone to be with.

quote:Originally posted by nick45174:

Wow, Im about 6 foot and 130 too. I usually dont get nervous about shit, but like I said earlier, I dont get ass, ever. I NEED someone to be with.

maybe they just think you're weird

are you like a nerd or wigger or band geek or punk or prep or emo or what.

dude,someone already said it..if you have this outlook "fuck it...if it doesnt work out it doesnt work out" yet still give it a good shot your odds are with you bro.

quote:Originally posted by frank the tank:

dude,someone already said it..if you have this outlook "fuck it...if it doesnt work out it doesnt work out" yet still give it a good shot your odds are with you bro.

yeah that was me.

and one thing i forgot to say was dont try to act "cool."

you will fail.

tall skinny boys are hot. seriously. at your age, anyway, girls are WAY more interested in social status than muscle mass. and the fact that you guys were set up means 1) you have friends, and 2) OTHER PEOPLE think you two would be good together. and you're both single. come on. how could this be any better?

quote:Originally posted by stab:

No drugs or alcohol be sober.

Worst advice ever.

quote:Originally posted by Lysol:

get some benzos.

Great advice.

quote:Originally posted by Lysol:

20mg valium

Better advice.

Seriously, benzos rock. I once took 50mg temazepam to have a nice night in, then I get a random call from some one I hadn't talked to in a while, it's a date proposition, any way.... It ended up with me ripping her underwear off with my teeth. That's all I remember. But I know it went well. Very well. You have no inhibitions.

quote:Originally posted by Tentative:

but dont wear baggy clothes, no one likes that. i wear small shirts and not that baggy pants

Great advice. Baggy clothes are for hiding ugliness, but unfortunatly you're not kidding any one but your self. Wear some nice, fitted clothes.

I was always scared of being skinny... now I flaunt it, and my god, there are girls who totally fucking dig it. It's shit hot.

quote:Originally posted by nick45174:

I NEED someone to be with.

That's a fucking TERRIBLE attitude to have. You don't NEED any one. You will come off as desperate unless you get over this need for some one.

quote:Originally posted by lauren7249:

tall skinny boys are hot. seriously.



Sorry for the numerous/long response.

Alright im getting a little more confident. Is there anything that I could say in case it gets awkward and no one is talking?

and no im not a wigger or any of that shit. Upper middle class, rich neighbourhood.

Lauren, what would you consider tall?

OP, this is a blind date, right? You should know nothing about each other. That shouldleave plenty of space for conversation. I fthings get bogged down though, mention a concert / sporting event that your interested in going to. Not only will this let her know more about who you are, but starts the conversation running.

fap like 10 minutes before.

relaxed as hell.

you really need some more confidence to ever be really successful with girls, so that should be the main thing for you to work on, now and in the future.

you could start by not being apologetic, like in your thread title. NEVER be apologetic or insecure towards a girl. be yourself, but bring out the best in you. yes, be sober. drugs might temporarily make you feel more secure, but that isn't you. also, that kind of behavior leads to addiction.

don't worry.