Alright, maybe you smart Totsers can help me out here.

I've been with this girl for about a month; we've done most of our "firsts" together. First kiss, etc.

I've fingered her a few times but I don't think I've ever made her cum, and so far she hasn't reciprocated. (Kind of bugs me but I'm sure it'll happen soon.)

So a few days ago I started using my tounge.

After a few minutes, I asked her "am I hitting the right spot?" She motioned for me to come back up on top of her and we just kept making out.

wtf? I'm confused. why would she want me to stop? I don't think I was doing anything wrong, she seemed to be enjoying it...

I you have to ask, you know you're doing it wrong.

I think you're moving too fast for her.

That's why she's not reciprocating, that's why she asked you to stop oral.

quote:Originally posted by Jibalao:

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I've fingered her a few times but I don't think I've ever made her cum, and so far she hasn't reciprocated. (Kind of bugs me but I'm sure it'll happen soon.)



Many girls are wary about reciprocating and sticking their finger in a boy's arse. It's just a little female foible, live with it.

quote:Originally posted by CatharticWeek:



I think you're moving too fast for her.

That's why she's not reciprocating, that's why she asked you to stop oral.

hm... well, first time I fingered her, I slowly moved my hand up her thigh, and before i started anything, I asked her if she was okay. And she didn't seem nervous or anything...

I did the same thing /w oral; slowly kissing up the thigh

Some girls just dont like it.

quote:Originally posted by Shodan's Own:

Some girls just dont like it.

Yup - mine doesn't.

Anyways, to the OP: I think you're reading too much into this. Give it time.

oral is my favourite thing. if it's done right under the right circumstances, it feels fucking amazing. your girl doesn't not want oral, she just doesn't want BAD oral. it's probably not all because you suck, although you might want to think about your technique. probably it's mainly because she's nervous or uncomfortable. i'm assuming she's never done anything with another guy, and she probably doesn't want you to think she's a prude so that's why she's letting you do stuff to her but isn't reciprocating. she doesn't want you to think she's a sexual introvert but she's not confident enough to do anything to you, plus it's also probably all moving a little too fast for her. you being the first guy to do so, she's probably also pretty unsure about having your face that close to her crotch. a lot of girls are pretty uncomfortable about the way their vagina looks because they think it might look/smell/taste/whatever wrong. maybe just give her some more time. let her know you WANT to and it's not just some ploy to get her to return the favour and you want her to be ok with it. pay attention to how she reacts. switch things up a bit. you might be doing something that doesn't feel that great.

I don't think it's that she doesn't like it.

She's probably pretty uncomfortable with it. She's not too experienced so you'll need to just take it really slow.

I'm agreeing with 'YouLookFourteen' on this one.

she thinks her pussy stinks

woah woah woah man you're moving WAYYY too fast. Oral sex after only a month, when you were the first guy she even really kissed? That's FAR too advanced. I've been with my girl for about 5 months and we're just starting to do some oral and stuff now. Give it time, wait till you know she's comfortable with it.

How old are you? How old is she?

[This message has been edited by Shadowhunter_36 (edited 11-08-2006).]

quote:Originally posted by fray97:

she thinks her pussy stinks

Yeah, that could be a major reason.

Also, not all girls like oral. I guess most of them do, but I don't. It just doesn't do it for me. And of course once any guy I've been with has heard this, they of course want to be the one to make me like it. But no one has yet. Meh.

quote:Originally posted by Sick_Boy:

Also, not all girls like oral. I guess most of them do, but I don't. It just doesn't do it for me. And of course once any guy I've been with has heard this, they of course want to be the one to make me like it. But no one has yet. Meh.

Yeah a girl I had just started dating said that to me too. She changed her mind

Anyway, to the original poster, you're moving too quickly. It's been a month, slow your ass down. You have plenty of time. Don't just go sticking your face in her crotch. Kiss her a lot, feel her a little for a few weeks. Let her get used to it all. Don't stick your tongue down her throat. Just chill out and do stuff with her that isn't all physical. Take her out, go places. Once she's more comfortable with you, then the physical stuff will be easier for her, and she'll enjoy it more.

hm.. ok, thanks

You are doing it wrong if she doesn't like it. It is possible that a girl doesn't like recieving oral but that is extremly rare, so I recommend you move slowly and with time she will accept it more. The trick is finding how she likes it, since she can feel it you have to listen a bit to the sounds and her body laguage - it will tell you if you are doing it right or wrong. Also try different movements with your tongue and don't stay in one speed. You can't just start licking a pussy like you lick a fucking fudgesickle.

But if she still dosn't like oral then try anal it is a world of pleasure for you - more girls tend to hate it and think its gay.

Oh and Sick_Boy how old were the guys that tried, because it takes time and experiance to become a master. So find a mature man to do it for you - nobody too old of course ahah.

Thank me later.

a lot of girls are wary about their vagina, they think its ugly/or a bad thing etc..



you just have to go slow, also get her really horny and go for it



above all make her confident you want to do it and her pussy is beautiful