I've been with my current girlfriend for 3 years and she is the only person I've had sex with. She tells me she didn't see the what the big deal about sex was until we started fucking and I believe her. I'm the only person to give her an orgasm. All of that's great and I feel good about that but...

Basically the only problem in the relationship is that she is reluctant to get freaky and kinky. Even when we're just playing around a little bit it seems I'm doing everything and she's not giving back. It really frustrates me because I talk to her about it all the time but she stays reluctant.

Anyone have this problem before? Any advice?

There are some things people just arn't comfortable doing. If you've talked to her and can't change her mind on the matter, just learn to deal with it or dump her.

Well koopa, that is interesting. BUT , what kinda things do you want to do with her?

Be more x-rated in your description.

She sounds kinda the shy/passive type. Maybe some behavoir modifications can be implemented.?

Peace,

Nikkuh (drunk)

quote:Originally posted by Nikkuh:

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She sounds kinda the shy/passive type.

Exactly how I would describe her when it comes to sex.

There's no specific thing I really want her to do. I would just like to see some enthusiasm. I want her to get into the sex as much as I do. I want her to take some kind of initiative to do different things on the fly during sex.

Not sure if anyone understands what I mean by any of that. Kind of hard to put words to what I mean.

quote:Originally posted by king koopa:

I talk to her about it all the time but she stays reluctant.



That could be part of the problem. She feels either put under pressure to be something she's not or she thinks you see her just in tems of sex.

quote:Originally posted by jackketch:

That could be part of the problem. She feels either put under pressure to be something she's not or she thinks you see her just in tems of sex.

Maybe. I guess I'll ask her if I'm putting too much pressure on her about this.

quote:Originally posted by jackketch:

That could be part of the problem. She feels either put under pressure to be something she's not or she thinks you see her just in tems of sex.

=D

Shirt on, lights off, no talking.

Use drugs to enhance sex?

*Splam has arrived back in S&A after spending half a year in BLTC*

quote:Originally posted by king koopa:

Exactly how I would describe her when it comes to sex.

There's no specific thing I really want her to do. I would just like to see some enthusiasm. I want her to get into the sex as much as I do. I want her to take some kind of initiative to do different things on the fly during sex.

Not sure if anyone understands what I mean by any of that. Kind of hard to put words to what I mean.

You want her to fuck you back, not lie there like a potato acting like she deserves it