Ok so I have a girl that's really into me. I really like her too, so everything is great. The thing is, we're both 18, and live in Germany.

Unlike in the USA, it's not custom here to "date" someone before actually getting with them. Meaning If you admit to a girl that you like her a lot then she'll basically take it as you wanting to have an exclusive relationship with her.

Not much harm has been done, though I do need to back-peddle a little bit. I already told her that I liked her a lot and that I had thought about having a relationship with her.

Now today I'm probably going to talk to her for the first time since I told my girlfriend that I wanted an open relationship. This means this is the first day where I can do things with this girl.

The problem is though, I'm worried that I'll kiss her and she'll automaticall think that we're together. She might also refuse to give up sex until we're "together"

How can I, right from the start, explain to her that an exclusive relationship is not what I'm looking for, but that this doesn't mean I don't care about her and just want to use her etc. etc.

Anyone have any experience in this?

Input greatly appreciated

This is coming from the guy that dumped his girlfriend after morning sex?

You're on your own.

Tell her straight out that you have a girlfriend but you've bartered (for lack of better word) an open-relationship with her so you can be with her.

Gotta tell her straight out the situation mate. Where it goes from there is up to her.

I think I shall return to my roots. I like the sound of Germany! Ach da lieber!

quote:Originally posted by stab:

Tell her straight out that you have a girlfriend but you've bartered (for lack of better word).

I think you're looking for Parlé.

If you don't have anything to say that contributes I'd appreciate if you shut the fuck up in my thread.

To those of you who gave advice, thanks. But I already knew I had to "tell her"

I was wondering more about the how exactly.

quote:Originally posted by Geenie:

If you don't have anything to say that contributes I'd appreciate if you shut the fuck up in my thread.

To those of you who gave advice, thanks. But I already knew I had to "tell her"

I was wondering more about the how exactly.

No one is going to be able to give advice on something that specific. We dont know you, nor the girl, and something like that is entirely based on the specific circumstances.

You're German. So just take a dump on her chest. It's self explanatory.

I don't mean that you should actually phrase it to my exact situation, that would be silly.

But I know for a fact that some people in S&A have experience with open relationships, and that they therefore have experience in talking to women about it.

This experience, is what would interest me.

Even if its not entirely pertinent to this, at least tell me if open relationships worked out for you etc.