I'm a bit confused.. I recently started fingering my girlfriend. Shes very tight, becuase i'm the first one shes ever done anything with. So we're just figuring it all out, together. One thing she mentioned to me is that it doesnt exactly just go straight in.. it kinda goes like down and towards her butt i guess?

Im kinda confused.. because sometimes when i'm going, she'l wince and say I went too deep and that it hurt. But there were other times where i've had my entire finger all the way in there, and she loved it and enjoyed it thoroughly.

What can i do about this? Should i just slide it in more slowly?

use your finger/s in a "come here" motion against the front (belly side).

I realise you want to impress her by being a master from the very beginning. But practice really is the best solution to most of the questions that follow this vein.

Yeah i've heard both of those.. First off, I was doing the 'come here' against her belly side.. but the problem lies in actually getting my finger in there. She's pretty tight as it is, and I have trouble finding the exact spot becuase she's a little hairy down there. Once i find it, its difficult to get my finger in there without hurting her.. i have to find the exact direction.

And as for practice.. obviously, thats just what we'l keep doing. we're figuring it out, together. I was just hoping for some general advice that might help

Thanks

Porn. Find out where the vagina is. Not kidding.

quote:Originally posted by doornob_lightbulb:

Porn. Find out where the vagina is. Not kidding.

lollercoaster, i cannot believe people are this dumb.

Just go in

You either have monster hands or she's insanely tight. You should be able to get at least one finger inside without it hurting her....

Wait... Are you just jamming it in there without some sort of fingering foreplay?!

Third star from your right and straight on till morning.

Just stick it in there. It's not that hard...follow the hole. It won't allow you to go directly up. As far as the times when she says it feels good, it's called the "g-spot", dear. Congratulations on finding it. Anyways, you'll get through it together.

Try oral stimulation. Females absolutely LOVE it. I believe in you. Now go get her, tiger!

quote:Originally posted by red9535:

Direction to finger a girl?

North. True north.

Sylph is right, give her oral...lots of it and you'll find that she will then put your finger(s), cock just where she wants it.

quote:Originally posted by Euda:

Third star from your right and straight on till morning.

I thought that was where the hymen is located?

quote:Originally posted by sylph:

Just stick it in there. It's not that hard...follow the hole. It won't allow you to go directly up. As far as the times when she says it feels good, it's called the "g-spot", dear. Congratulations on finding it. Anyways, you'll get through it together.

Try oral stimulation. Females absolutely LOVE it. I believe in you. Now go get her, tiger!

Ever since finding out how old you are... it's just disturbing. I mean... my sister isn't far off your age.

wait a minute, if she is a virgin, and she still has her hymen, is it possible that you are hitting it?

quote:Originally posted by Skane:

wait a minute, if she is a virgin, and she still has her hymen, is it possible that you are hitting it?

Shit. I can't believe no one else thought of that.

Premarital sex isn't worth it! You can catch AIDS, or cancer, or testicle weevils, or a bad body image or rickets. You know what IS worth it? Making love to Jesus. Because you can't knock Him up and He'll never ask what you're thinking – cuz He already knows!

I really hope you're at least "trying" to play with her clit before you jam your huge monkey hands up there. If you just go straight ahead and stick your fingers up it's not going to feel like much of anything. Most girls orgasm purely from clitoral stimulation and less often from vaginal intercourse. So maybe try getting her wet before you shove your hands up there next time and it might not be so hard to get them in.

Regardless of your problem of entry, you should be getting her decently aroused /BEFORE/ you just stick your fingers in. So why not make an effort to have a bit of foreplay before you start the...foreplay. Plus, if you take your time, it'll be easier to get your bearings, hah.

quote:Originally posted by another pint:

Ever since finding out how old you are... it's just disturbing. I mean... my sister isn't far off your age.

Meh, I don't think you have to worry about your sister. I've been on totse since I was 12 and I have a lot of older people as strong influences in my life. As long as you keep her relatively sheltered she won't end up like me.

The world's a scary place. This is what happens when you're stripped of all your senses of security. I suppose. I wouldn't say I dislike being open minded. I'm not brainwashed and I'm far from a whore. Although it may sound like it in here. I just have common sense and I read a lot.

quote:Originally posted by Euda:

Third star from your right and straight on till morning.

This made me laugh really fucking hard--

~Saint947

"Try oral stimulation. Females absolutely LOVE it. I believe in you. Now go get her, tiger!"

I won't lick a hairy pussy