So I was talking to this guy today, and I ask him- what makes sex better than masturbation? Since I've never had sex and he always speaks so highly of it. So he says some generic stuff that doesn't really mean anything, and I ask if it's the physical sensation or psychological or what.

He says it's the ability to just be able to do stuff to a girl, because you normally don't get that. Something about getting what you want too. Basically what I got out of it was that sex is good because it means you win. Then I asked him if he meant it was a power thing, and he misunderstood and thought by 'power' I meant 'violence'.

Opinions? Is it different for different people? I have never actually looked at someone and thought 'hey, I'd like to have sex with that person'. I've gotten happy-tingly sensations when I've heard a particular person's voice before, and if there's a woman walking up the stairs in front of me I often look at her butt and think 'nice.', but never a specific desire for sex.

So what's the big deal? IS it just the physical sensation? If not, what's the thing with it?

Put down the book and pick up a girl.

Alright?

Sex is enjoyable for a wide variety of reasons. I'm not going to sell it to you though. Sex is not a car, it doesn't need a salesmen.

neither do some cars....

quote:Originally posted by Euda:

Put down the book and pick up a girl.

Alright?

Sex is enjoyable for a wide variety of reasons. I'm not going to sell it to you though. Sex is not a car, it doesn't need a salesmen.

it does need a salesmen, because it varies a price; both emtionally and financially, in the quest.

Your friend sounds like a dick.

Sex is great because you're not doing it yourself... For some people. I like the intimacy. It varies, it just depends on who you are and what you like.

"Sex not about intimacy says I, sex about bustin a nut in some chicks pooper. Remember these words young padawan, for serve you will they are going to." -Yoda

Intercourse with the opposite sex makes us all feel a little less gay than masterbating.

^^That was actually my impression as well, which is why I'm glad totse doesn't come up on any google searches of my username.

And yeah, I don't think there's anything wrong with considering it. I don't generally go around doing things without considering their significance. To know who I am, I need to know how I act, and I can't in good concience decide how to act without knowing exactly what the action means to me, especially if it's something as supposedly significant as sex. I guess I don't really need to know anything; I'm not going to go out looking for random sluts anyways- it's not a big enough deal to expend the effort.

So yeah, it doesn't matter. Just wondering.

Ever simultaniously came with a girl you love? Where there's no rubber between you. She's on the pill, and you blown inside her? For a moment, it's just raw passion, staring into each other's faces, together you're one.

The intimicy is amazing. That's emotional bonding.

Then there's the physical side. Like say you're doing a girl doggy style, you're coming, she hears it in your moans, she pulls you out and makes you finish in her mouth. Then you see the satisfaction in her face, even though she doesn't like come, she swallows it for you. She wants to please you.

It's selfless.

Hmmm, selfless passion.

I like that. Dude, sex is one of the most important aspects of life.

Well yeah, I don't think there's anything wrong with considering it. I don't generally go around doing things without considering their significance. To know who I am, I need to know how I act, and I can't in good concience decide how to act without knowing exactly what the action means to me, especially if it's something as supposedly significant as sex. I guess I don't really need to know anything; I'm not going to go out looking for random sluts anyways- it's not a big enough deal to expend the effort.

So yeah, it doesn't matter. Just wondering.

Different sex is good for different reasons.

Passionate sex with someone you really love is unbeatable.

Dude, honestly, sex isn't all it's cracked up to be. At least not to everyone.

I've had sex hundreds of times with several different chicks, and I still think there are hundreds of things better.

Sometimes when I was with my ex girlfriends, I would actually avoid sex and just jerk off after she fell asleep because it's so much easier.

I mean, sex has it's advantages, but it's definitely not the best thing in the world.

At least, that's how I see it.

sex is about numerous things depending on those partaking.

it might be about bonding with the person, it might be about getting off, it might be about dominating the person, it might be insuring that they achieve orgasm and enjoy themselves, it might be about getting back at someone etc etc

all of our motivations for sex vary from person to person.

ok, so...sex vs. masturbation...

i am a girl, so this is probably different than what you personally deal with...but i figured the female perspective on it can work. when i masturbate it usually feels better for me clitorally. however, there is no way that my vagina can be stimulated better than through actual intercouse. plus, during sex there is someone else touching you, they can pull your hair, caress, scratch, suck, bite, etc.

beyond the physical upsides there are emotional ones too. when you masturbate you just want to get off. when you have sex you can get yourself off, someone else can get you off, you can get someones else off. you can unleash all you emotions, no matter what they are. you can make it hard, soft, fast, slow, kinky, whatever you want. having someone else there adds an entire new mental sides to things. it adds depth to the action.

and getting someone off can really make you feel good and accomplished too.

at least that's my take on things.