I have this thing where I just can't bring myself to get involved (romantically OR sexually) with someone who's already been with a friend (either romantically OR sexually). I just don't understand how others can do it. For example, the girl I lost my virginity to went on to fuck a bunch of my friends (and dated a couple of them). Then my most recent ex-girlfriend went on to start seeing an ex-friend of mine. That really pissed me off.

Now there's this girl who I kinda like, and it seems like she might be into me (I know for a fact she was at some point), but when I look at her, I just keep thinking: "WHY DID YOU HAVE TO FUCK HIM!?"

It just makes things so awkward when I'm around her because it's all I can think about.

Is this normal? Or am I taking it too far?

Does anyone else understand where I'm coming from at least?

See...if you didn't have any friends this could have been avoided.

Yeah I understand it, but you're fucking self-centered as hell for thinking that. Don't you think your friends think the same thing? Oh god, I can't believe she fucked him!!!

Get over it. They have their own lives, and those lives have nothing to do with yours. You do what you want to do, and they'll do what they want to do. Quit trying to control them, and quit thinking you're so fucking superior to everyone else.

In this particular case, I don't mean it in a "omg eww why him?", in a condescending kind of way...

When he fucked her, I was actually there. I brought her out, and I thought things were going good between us, but then she started to show a liking to him, and I was totally fine with that. At the time, I was only looking for a fuck. But as of lately, I have started to see a possible romantic potential. It's nothing personal against him (in this case at least), I actually think he's a pretty decent guy. It's just that in general, it bothers me to know that someone I'm with has been with people I know.

Obviously every girl I fuck or date isn't going to be a virgin, but as long as I don't hear the details, I don't care. Which is why I never ask a girl things about her ex's or sexual history. I just don't like to know these things...

I think that maybe when I threw in those examples of girls that I've been with going on to get with friends of mine in the future, I might have confused things.

My point in bringing those up was just to bring up examples of what I would never do. I don't understand how they could actually look at any girl I've been with in that way. For me, once a girl has been with anyone I know, it just kills any interest I might have had to begin with.

I see where youre coming from in the sense that being with a girl who has been with other guys from your social circle makes for very awkward situations.

Ultimately that doesn't kill my attraction though. If I like the girl then that will far outweigh the "why him"-factor.

Besides, who cares? They WERE with them and now they are with you. The past doesn't equal the future and factually it really doesn't matter if one of your friends porked her.

In fact, I think there is a moral responsibility to "pass on" the woman. If a friend got with a girl that I had had in the past, I would gladly tell him what she likes in bed. Providing, of course, that I do not still have any kind of interest in the girl.



[This message has been edited by Geenie (edited 11-03-2006).]

So it's ok for you for fuck around with 4 outta 5 girls who are friends, but its taboo when 'ZOMG SHES BEEN WITH MY FRIEND!!!!11'



What a fucking hypocrit.

No respect flying anywhere.

I smell... *sniff* a word beginnign with J



If that mary did fuck that bob who was your mate, you felt the J becasue you wanted her? maybe it was betrayal...

Did your bredrin know you liked her? and mayby you should try a relationship instead of shag-and-go. Becaseu if your datign a slag then duh... guess whats going to happen?

well.. either you can get all emo about it. or you can get on with it.

plenty more to life.

sorry if the above post makes no sense or sounds like i'm being an arsehole. I'm shitfaced and I just parachuted a stilnox.. what can I say? I'm a trashbag.

You need to face whats making you uncomfortable. Invite all of your friends over and hire a hooker. Then pass her around, and try some double penetration positions.

After that, it wont bother you so much.

quote:Originally posted by happy_one_hit:

See...if you didn't have any friends this could have been avoided.

lawl

Just go for it, the girl i've loved more than anyone else fucked the guy i hate more than anyone else before me, i looked past it.

quote:Originally posted by gadzooks:

I have this thing where I just can't bring myself to get involved (romantically OR sexually) with someone who's already been with a friend (either romantically OR sexually). I just don't understand how others can do it. For example, the girl I lost my virginity to went on to fuck a bunch of my friends (and dated a couple of them). Then my most recent ex-girlfriend went on to start seeing an ex-friend of mine. That really pissed me off.

Now there's this girl who I kinda like, and it seems like she might be into me (I know for a fact she was at some point), but when I look at her, I just keep thinking: "WHY DID YOU HAVE TO FUCK HIM!?"

It just makes things so awkward when I'm around her because it's all I can think about.

Is this normal? Or am I taking it too far?

Does anyone else understand where I'm coming from at least?

You're not the only one my friend. Its all happend to us, even if it wasnt about sex & affection. We all have to go through it, and we always question things. It's one thing that tears us apart and that same one thing that makes us human.

Gadzooks sometimes your a bitch. Eather fuck her or don't.

quote:Originally posted by Geenie:

In fact, I think there is a moral responsibility to "pass on" the woman. If a friend got with a girl that I had had in the past, I would gladly tell him what she likes in bed. Providing, of course, that I do not still have any kind of interest in the girl.

It's very interesting that you say that, because, kinda unrelated to the reasons for which I feel uneasy about getting with a girl who a friend has been with, I also don't think it's right that any friend gets with a girl I've been with.

I guess it's because I never really lose that "interest". I mean, obviously it dies down to some degree, but I'd like to think that I'm a bit more special than that, and that my girlfriend chose me because she found me interesting and all that. Not because I was just at the right place at the right time.

quote:Originally posted by kAtE-:

So it's ok for you for fuck around with 4 outta 5 girls who are friends, but its taboo when 'ZOMG SHES BEEN WITH MY FRIEND!!!!11'



What a fucking hypocrit.

It's not like I didn't feel bad...

Ok fine, I'm somewhat of a hypocrite. That's kind of the point of this thread though... I realize that there may be something wrong with the way I see things...

Like I said above though, it's moreso about the fact that I really just don't like knowing anything about the sexual history of any girl I'm with. It's just a topic I like to avoid. Call it an unrealistic fantasy if you wish, but I like to think of the girl I'm with as being special to me, and mine only.

Maybe I'm actually going too far with it, being clinically paranoid and all, but even when I hear any loving words, the first thing I think of is: "How many other people has she said this to?"

quote:Originally posted by Jack_and_Jill:

I smell... *sniff* a word beginnign with J

Honestly there might be a *little* bit of jealousy I guess.

But the main part of it is that, if I were to fuck her, it would feel like I'm rubbing my dick against his or something...

And when I kiss her, I'd just be thinking of the fact that he's already been there and done that.

I don't know... I just really don't like thinking of the girls I get with as having experience beyond myself.

quote:Originally posted by stab:

No respect flying anywhere.

What..? Sorry, I just don't understand what you mean by that.

quote:Originally posted by Garfunkel:

well.. either you can get all emo about it. or you can get on with it.

plenty more to life.

sorry if the above post makes no sense or sounds like i'm being an arsehole. I'm shitfaced and I just parachuted a stilnox.. what can I say? I'm a trashbag.

I'm not 100% sure what you meant to be honest... The part about "plenty more to life" makes sense though. I mean, at least when it comes to deciding whether to go for her or not. Maybe I don't even like her that much. I guess if I REALLY liked her I would just ignore the fact that she.. ughh... fucked my friend...

quote:Originally posted by SilentMind:

You need to face whats making you uncomfortable. Invite all of your friends over and hire a hooker. Then pass her around, and try some double penetration positions.

After that, it wont bother you so much.

I had an MMF threesome with my friend and his ex-girlfriend. Obviously, he gave me permission to fuck her, but I still felt REALLY REALLY BAD. I still regret it.

I told my psychologist too. I told him that I sometimes do stupid things out of horniness. Things that I will regret right after cumming...

He told me it was "just hormones".

quote:Originally posted by StealthyRacoons:

Eather fuck her or don't.

Lol. I love how you give me the only two options possible. I guess no matter what I'll be following your advice.