I need some advice.

Ive been with this girl for 6 months, both of us in love with each other, all great. We're were discussing random crap as always and somehow it lead onto her past, which she has always been pretty open about. Now, she's a virgin and she tells me that she wants to be honest with me which is great, and she tells me she gave oral to three guys in her past before meeting me. I always thought she hadnt done anything, and it really shocked me. I love her, and i want this relationship to last, but how do i deal with getting over her past?

[This message has been edited by strangeone (edited 11-03-2006).]

Deal with it. Thats pretty damn pure as pure goes. What are you looking for? A girl thats never been kissed, touched, or otherwise been shown any affection?

If you like her, then look past it. Chances are, it's only a problem because you're inexperienced. And it evens out, trust me.

quote:Originally posted by SilentMind:

Deal with it. Thats pretty damn pure as pure goes. What are you looking for? A girl thats never been kissed, touched, or otherwise been shown any affection?

If you like her, then look past it. Chances are, it's only a problem because you're inexperienced. And it evens out, trust me.



very on point.. well said.

quote:Originally posted by SilentMind:

Deal with it. Thats pretty damn pure as pure goes. What are you looking for? A girl thats never been kissed, touched, or otherwise been shown any affection?

If you like her, then look past it. Chances are, it's only a problem because you're inexperienced. And it evens out, trust me.

Thanks for the advice, im guessing it justs take time to get used to it?

quote:Originally posted by strangeone:

Thanks for the advice, im guessing it justs take time to get used to it?



Dont dwell on it. My first serious girlfriend was a virgin who had done oral before. It didnt really bother me. I took her virginity. In the face of that, oral really doesnt mean much.

quote:Originally posted by strangeone:

I need some advice.

Ive been with this girl for 6 months, both of us in love with each other, all great. We're were discussing random crap as always and somehow it lead onto her past, which she has always been pretty open about. Now, she's a virgin and she tells me that she wants to be honest with me which is great, and she tells me she gave oral to three guys in her past before meeting me. I always thought she hadnt done anything, and it really shocked me. I love her, and i want this relationship to last, but how do i deal with getting over her past?



This is something you just have to learn to get over. Do it now. People aren't always upfront about their past, and really that's ok. There's no need for everyone to spill their life story on the first date or even in the first 6 months. Realize that she has had a life, and that what she's done really is not that much. Believe me. It seems like a lot probably because you don't have much experience. If you were a virgin and she'd been with 9 guys and a few girls, I could understand hesitation or shock. Just let it go. You care about her yes? Then care about her and not her past.

Well, then she might not be too bad at sucking the pen0r.

But seriously, that is nothing. My girlfriend who is 18, was raped by her older brother when she was like 6. that took awhile for me to get over.