1st Question (My friend's situation): My friend, let's call him Jim, is definetly one of my best friends. He is just generally a cool guy, and most likely the best wingman ever. Well, Jim, while not great looking, is certainly not bad looking. Yet he seems to get millions of women. He doesn't have any game or anything, in fact girls just straight up approach him and ask him if he wants to fool around without commitment. Recently, a girl texted him and basically told him she would love to have sex with him. The main problem is that he doesn't know how to get around how awkward it would be when they both realize what's gonna happen.

Should he get her drunk so it would be less tense, or would this ruin his first time?

2nd Question (My situation): I am also decent looking, around as good looking as my friend Jim, but I don't get many girls. I recently went to a party, and ended up making out with the hostess. She's very attractive, but also annoying. She strongly wants a relationship, whereas I just want to continue hooking up with her. My friend Jim talked to her and found out that she is willing to go to third without going into a relationship.

Now, (a)where/how should get her alone (I can't drive yet) and (b) get to third without getting her hopes up. She is a nice girl, so I'd prefer not to lie or anything like that.

Thanks a lot guys, I realize these questions are kind of vague and hard to answer.

Edit: Also, I figure if you actually went through the trouble of reading this, you wouldn't mind one more question. Could you throw in various making out tips as well please? It was my first time the other night, and I imagine I wasn't very good.

[This message has been edited by crazyassindian (edited 11-01-2006).]

ok then lets get started answering some questions! ..... Ok I promise never to do that again.

Anyway, with your first question, the best thing to do would simply for him to just ignore what the message said. Instead he should just worry about having a good time with this girl, leave worring about sex till it happens. If he gets really panicy he can just act dumb, and pretend he didnt get what the message ment. I know its not the best idea but theres some times nothing else will work, i know as I have the same problem.

As for your second question, considering this girl wants a relationship, where as you just want sex, you have not much of a hope. There would be no real way for you to continue hooking up with her if your not willing to get into a relationship. After all you said you didnt want to get her hopes up, and if you try this you will. A much better idea would be just to go out on a date somewhere, after all, how well do you really know this girl, you might end up not finding here that annoying at all. Maybe even a future girlfriend.

Besides what are you doing trying to hook up if you can't stand the chick? If your just looking for some sex, look elsewhere. Or risk getting caught up.

Just saw your edit, as for tips on making out, seeing you said it was your first time last time, just go with the flow. If your that inexperianced it would be better to just concentrate on what is at hand (pun intended).

[This message has been edited by Ferret (edited 11-01-2006).]

quote:Originally posted by crazyassindian:

Could you throw in various making out tips as well please? It was my first time the other night, and I imagine I wasn't very good.



The solution to all your problems is to continue to make out with her while making no promises or commitments.

How old are you?

What would make it tense? If she said she wants to sleep with him, then I don't see the issue. I don't see how booze enters into the equation

Tell her flat out that you aren't interested in a relationship, but that you're very interested in her on a sexual level. When do you have privacy? Whenever you have time alone, you have the chance for time alone with her.

Making out tips...kiss, careess, be aggressive but not overly so, don't just shove your tongue down her throat, pull back, tease, be sure it's mutual, there are two of you participating. Just have fun and learn for yourself over time.

quote:Originally posted by crazyassindian:

The main problem is that he doesn't know how to get around how awkward it would be when they both realize what's gonna happen.



WAAAAAAAAAAA ITS GUNNA BE A LITTLE AWKWARD DURRING MY FREE NON-COMMITMENT SEX

WAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAA

quote:Originally posted by Euda:

How old are you?

What would make it tense? If she said she wants to sleep with him, then I don't see the issue. I don't see how booze enters into the equation

Tell her flat out that you aren't interested in a relationship, but that you're very interested in her on a sexual level. When do you have privacy? Whenever you have time alone, you have the chance for time alone with her.

Making out tips...kiss, careess, be aggressive but not overly so, don't just shove your tongue down her throat, pull back, tease, be sure it's mutual, there are two of you participating. Just have fun and learn for yourself over time.

What the fuck are you talking about? You are saying that you don't know what sexual tension is?

Like it is a casual thing at 15 (By the way the fucking thread title says how old he is) to just say hey, I know you want to have sex, I do too. Here is my dick, start sucking it whore!

Of course not, the question is how to proceed from knowing you both want to fuck, to actually fucking. It can be nerve racking, and I don't know why you don't know that since I am guessing you've lost your virginity at some point? Hopefully....

Anyways, I say alcohol is a great idea, just in moderation. You don't want her all fucked up, just a little loose so you are a little more bold and so is she. Maybe drink like 2 beers, and give her 1 wine cooler or something. Then watch a movie, and just sit next to her, and ask her if she wants to kiss you.

If she wants to fuck, she will say yes, get the kiss, and then seal the deal.

quote:Originally posted by crazyassindian:

My friend Jim talked to her and found out that she is willing to go to third without going into a relationship.

If sex is third in your book, what is fourth?? remember the four F's: French, Feel, Finger, Fuck. (Finger includes oral, etc.)

Stop calling the bitch who ran the party "hostess".

Anyone who talks about about 'third' or 'bases' is too immature/too american to be having sex.

quote:Originally posted by jackketch:

Anyone who talks about about 'third' or 'bases' is too immature/too american to be having sex.

QFT especialy the american part

quote:Originally posted by jackketch:

Anyone who talks about about 'third' or 'bases' is too immature/too american to be having sex.