Yeah that subject title makes no sense but uhm, does anyone else here have a girlfriend, who during sex gets all... dirty?

She gets all submissive, some times she's been like "rape me, yeah..." and gets into this freaky rape roleplay, and wants me to really take control and shit.

And the last time she was like "aw yeah am I a dirty whore...". No goddamnit, you're the girl I love so shut up with that... "Yeah you're a dirty whore and you're gonna get this deep inside of you" is around what I actually said.

What the fuck is up with that? I try to play along but I think I suck at it and to be honest it's not really my thing. I just do it cos it seems to turn her on a lot.

Anyone else with similar experiences? Some tips perhaps, what'll get her reeally hot?

She likes to feel that way, she wants to be told she's a filthy come-slut for taking it like that?

If it's not your cup of tea, discuss it with her maybe, or share what you find hot with her, and compromise by playing along!

I doubt I could do that sort of thing. It just seems....really stupid to me.

Also, I think I'd be concerned about that person's mental state or past experiences.

*ducks reprisals*

quote:Originally posted by oc6:

I doubt I could do that sort of thing. It just seems....really stupid to me.

Also, I think I'd be concerned about that person's mental state or past experiences.

*ducks reprisals*

Vanilla.

Personally, I like play like that, but things involving roleplay or verbal stuff of that kind can maybe be hard to get into if you're not used to it.

If she wants to be talked dirty to, it's probably worth it, since it's a sure way to keep her on edge.

Hold her down on a handy surface and tell her slowly what you're going to do with her, and how she's a horny little slut who is just begging for a big cock inside her..

erm well there's a rough example, just use your imagination.

"Imagination, can make a man of you, imagination, can make me love you too, imagination, is all I want from YOU!"

quote:Originally posted by oc6:

I doubt I could do that sort of thing. It just seems....really stupid to me.

Also, I think I'd be concerned about that person's mental state or past experiences.

*ducks reprisals*

Yeah dude it seems pretty silly to me as well.

And yeah I am wondering if it's got something to do with her mentality... I mean it must be some kinda psychological game that turns her on, I'm just wondering what exactly could make her like that. I'm pretty sure it's not a case of sexual abuse...

And man she seems like a pretty normal person most of the time, not the kinda person you'd expect this from.

And thanks for the tips flock, sounds good!



[This message has been edited by B-Phaze (edited 10-31-2006).]

quote:Originally posted by HandOfZek:

Vanilla.

What...a person can't have a hearty fuck without feeling the need to be insulted or degraded?

I just don't get it.

quote:Originally posted by oc6:

What...a person can't have a hearty fuck without feeling the need to be insulted or degraded?

I just don't get it.

Don't worry, it's just another one of those elitest things... You're worthless unless you're just like them. :\

quote:Originally posted by Gus:

Don't worry, it's just another one of those elitest things... You're worthless unless you're just like them. :\

Seriously. Fuck Gus, you've never spoken truer weords.

Honestly, sadistic sex was fun while I was into it, but I was into it when I hated the world, myself, and the person I was dating. Now that I love everyone and everything...it just makes me sad.

<3 you gus

-rizzo

You know B-Phase, you seem like the sort who will be able to find balance between the two by putting your own spin on it.

What turns you on the most?

Yeah well I think I'm sorta getting better at it, but goddamnit it just triggers all sorts of weird feelings when you're yelling "yeah take it in you dirty slut you are, now suck it...".

I guess it kinda does turn me on, I mean it's growing on me... Eh regular turn ons for me though, I don't really know. Mostly seeing the girl enjoying it I guess, seeing her really want it bad. She's the first chick I'm having sex with so, I'm sorta new to all of this... Unfortunately, she isn't, she's had one bf before.

quote:Originally posted by B-Phaze:

Yeah well I think I'm sorta getting better at it, but goddamnit it just triggers all sorts of weird feelings when you're yelling "yeah take it in you dirty slut you are, now suck it...".

I guess it kinda does turn me on, I mean it's growing on me... Eh regular turn ons for me though, I don't really know. Mostly seeing the girl enjoying it I guess, seeing her really want it bad. She's the first chick I'm having sex with so, I'm sorta new to all of this... Unfortunately, she isn't, she's had one bf before.

Christ you're getting thrown into the fire here with her. I've never been with a girl who was into all that roleplay/dirty talk. I mean I guess i'd do it, but it just seems so superfluous. I dont want to call a girl I love a dirty whore. That seems contradictory. Anyway, if you dont like it, then dont do it. If you grow to enjoy it remember that not every girl will like it.

quote:Originally posted by B-Phaze:

Yeah dude it seems pretty silly to me as well.

And yeah I am wondering if it's got something to do with her mentality... I mean it must be some kinda psychological game that turns her on, I'm just wondering what exactly could make her like that. I'm pretty sure it's not a case of sexual abuse...

And man she seems like a pretty normal person most of the time, not the kinda person you'd expect this from.

And thanks for the tips flock, sounds good!





Tough one.

My main thought is regarding you. This is sex-play, which is all well and good I guess. However, when does "reality" enter into your sex life together? If this is all there is, then I would ask myself what is it that I am looking for and can she too fulfill that aspect for me as well?

When it becomes one-sided, where everything is geared toward another persons wants ...and you respond to that (as you seem to indicate you do out of wanting to please her), where is the reality of you in it? Where is the reality of her in it?

If it is only a game...then afterwards...what do you really have together?





[This message has been edited by oc6 (edited 10-31-2006).]

I had it happen to me, but i knew what i was getting into, and lets be honest- i dig that shit. Sex just isn't right without the starch of rape to add a little substance to it.

Domination and control are a great sexual pastime.

Lucky bastard.

It's just dirty talking. She enjoys being psychologically involved in sex as well as the act itself. Nothing wrong with her doing that.

She knows she isn't any of these things and wouldn't want any of them to actually happen, she just thinks it's hot to fantasize about it.

Just take her cue and run with it. It's for her pleasure, not your own.

Edit: There doesn't have to be any deep issues, she simply enjoys doing more than laying there like a cold fish; I'm sure you get enough of that at work.

This rubs up more against your issue of placing her on a pedistal than anything on her part.

Alright, so she's the "girl you love", but she is still a person. Being someone you care about doesn't limit her in who she is and what she does. You should feel pleased that she trusts you enough to let loose in such a manner.

[This message has been edited by Euda (edited 10-31-2006).]

youre a dumbass, i wish my girl was like that.

quote:Originally posted by Paul Kemp:

Lucky bastard.



qft

Yeah it seems she basically likes anything that can be classified as dirty talk, so maybe it's not as bad as I'm making it out to be...

And oc6, I don't know man, maybe it's too much of a game and too much about her but keep in mind that I've only been having sex for a really short time, so I guess I'm just not so sure what I like and shit. Can't really say I know anything in particular that would really do something for me.

So far, any sex is good sex for me :P

Everybody's crazy at some level. Get used to it.

quote:Originally posted by Euda:



Edit: There doesn't have to be any deep issues, she simply enjoys doing more than laying there like a cold fish; I'm sure you get enough of that at work.



Harhar, true that :P

And yeah yeah I guess you guys are right, I am sorta lucky that I have a girl who's really into it. The other day she asked me like "why's it always me who takes the initiative?". Dude she never gives me time to do it...

quote:Originally posted by B-Phaze:

Yeah it seems she basically likes anything that can be classified as dirty talk, so maybe it's not as bad as I'm making it out to be...

And oc6, I don't know man, maybe it's too much of a game and too much about her but keep in mind that I've only been having sex for a really short time, so I guess I'm just not so sure what I like and shit. Can't really say I know anything in particular that would really do something for me.

So far, any sex is good sex for me :P



Well, you did express concern about it. Be like her and don't be afraid to ask for what you want too. Don't let it become one-sided. That's what I meant when I said to put your own spin on it. Is there a reason why "vanilla" and "kinky" can not be blended?

Just be sure to put some of yourself into it.

quote:Originally posted by oc6:

Is there a reason why "vanilla" and "kinky" can not be blended?

This is the blend. It wouldn't hurt you to point out that it bothers you to hear her calling herself names, since you care about her. There's nothing wrong with what she's doing, and you certainly shouldn't condemn her or make her feel in any way that it is wrong.

quote:Originally posted by Euda:

This is the blend. It wouldn't hurt you to point out that it bothers you to hear her calling herself names, since you care about her. There's nothing wrong with what she's doing, and you certainly shouldn't condemn her or make her feel in any way that it is wrong.



Kind of what I mean is:

Her: Ride me like a bronco!!!

Him: Oh....baby....you're my favorite ride...



[not literally....but....that's kind of what came to mind....]



I'm terrible at sex talk. [laughter]

[This message has been edited by oc6 (edited 10-31-2006).]

'Making love' gets old really quickly...

After a while, you have to throw in a few perversions to keep things from getting boring.

And dirty talk is pretty tame. You're lucky she isnt into anything darker, because you obviously couldnt deal with it.

quote:Originally posted by B-Phaze:

Harhar, true that :P

And yeah yeah I guess you guys are right, I am sorta lucky that I have a girl who's really into it. The other day she asked me like "why's it always me who takes the initiative?". Dude she never gives me time to do it...



Consider yourself lucky. VERY lucky.

quote:Originally posted by SilentMind:

'Making love' gets old really quickly...

After a while, you have to throw in a few perversions to keep things from getting boring.



I disagree. Making love to someone you love, and who loves you back, never grows old.

OP, why is she talking during sex..did you run out of duct tape?! :P

Oh, how I love to call her a dirty, cumslut fuckhole and that she's nothing to me but a cunt to fuck.

Of course, after, we talk about normal things and smile. It's just a game. But a good one...

Look next time she starts gettin into shit like that just say something along the lines of *in a really deep voice* "Yeah spank my hairy ass bitch" and see how she likes that, if it turns her on or anything...you really gotta talk to her bout that.

Take it too far and demand that she pay you for protection. Then bitch slap her.

It can be a real turn on for a girl sometimes though.. hehe

I call kate a stupid whore all the time. Sometimes she gets so turned on she has to kick me from totse chat.

I only like being called things similar to that in the bedroom :P

I talk a little dirty, too, anyways, like "Yea, fuck me. Your dick feels so good. You're so deep, etc... etc..." But, it's rarely gotten any dirtier than that. Once he started talking really dirty to me and said something along the lines of what you described and I was slightly shocked, but had I been more prepared I probably could've gotten into it better.

In any case, recently I dressed as JonBenet Ramsey (post mortem) for Halloween and my boyfriend said something odd to me. I went to give him a hug and he said

"You know, your lolita kindercore look is sadly lost on me. I'm just not into that kind of stuff."

and I'm like "What?"

He says "I mean, I could probably learn to be into it if you're really into it, but..."

and I was just like "It's just a costume..." This isn't the first time he's brought this up to me before, though. The thing is is he's a lot older than me and I think sometimes he thinks I'm being all lolita with him, when really I'm just being 23. If I were his age, I doubt his mind would go there with it.

Anyways, I think it's sort of relative to what you're talking about.

Cheers,

Lost

quote:Originally posted by SilentMind:

'Making love' gets old really quickly...

After a while, you have to throw in a few perversions to keep things from getting boring.

Boring people do get bored very easily.



quote:Originally posted by SilentMind:

And dirty talk is pretty tame. You're lucky she isnt into anything darker, because you obviously couldnt deal with it.

She just might be and he doesn't know it yet.

Haha I have the same kinda situation, like she is all about the dirty talk and I love hearing it but I just can never think of anything to say. When we are havin sex I usually just use my mouth for less verbal communication....

quote:Originally posted by senorfrog:

Haha I have the same kinda situation, like she is all about the dirty talk and I love hearing it but I just can never think of anything to say. When we are havin sex I usually just use my mouth for less verbal communication....

I remember feeling that way when I had to play Barbies with my friends as a kid. It kind of reminds me of that.

Not the dirty talk, mind you. It's just the whole play acting always felt stupid to me for some reason.

I suppose I'm just not a talker. Nor into drama either. :P

She's just a little freaky. Your lucky. Trust me. Get some cocaine in her. God damn girls get freaky after a nice line or two.

quote:Originally posted by B-Phaze:

And the last time she was like "aw yeah am I a dirty whore...". No goddamnit, you're the girl I love so shut up with that... "Yeah you're a dirty whore and you're gonna get this deep inside of you" is around what I actually said.

ahahahahahahaha.

"no goddamnit, you're the girl i love so shut up with that...uhhh i mean, yeah, take it bitch...etc..."

i just find that ridiculously funny.

quote:Originally posted by YouLookFourteen:

ahahahahahahaha.

"no goddamnit, you're the girl i love so shut up with that...uhhh i mean, yeah, take it bitch...etc..."

i just find that ridiculously funny.



I thought it was very sweet.

oh well yeah, obviously that he's still thinking about how he loves her while he's nailing her rape-obsessed self. that's sweet.

just the whole "no you're not a whore you're the girl i love, shut up!" bit made me chuckle.

Well....sweet....and funny.

quote:Originally posted by senorfrog:

Haha I have the same kinda situation, like she is all about the dirty talk and I love hearing it but I just can never think of anything to say. When we are havin sex I usually just use my mouth for less verbal communication....

Exactly dude, it feels kinda bad... She's like oh talk dirty to me but all I can think is "gah but it sounds so stupid and cheesy".

Then I'll try to mutter something but she can't hear and goes like "what?", "I saaaid: I'm gonna take you harder than you've ever felt it before..." and it all just gets awkward.

Heh and I'm reminded now how one time after some fooling around, she was like "do you think I'm cheap..?". I said of course you're not cheap, you're fooling around with a guy you've been seeing for months. Perhaps you're MY cheap whore, but that's okay

It was a joke but she called me a total moodkiller and didn't like it. What's up with that...

Sounds made up.

I fucking hate when my girlfriend does that. A random hookup maybe, but not the girl you love.

=lost respect.

quote:Originally posted by B-Phaze:

I said of course you're not cheap, you're fooling around with a guy you've been seeing for months. Perhaps you're MY cheap whore, but that's okay

It was a joke but she called me a total moodkiller and didn't like it. What's up with that...

The 'dirty talk' is restricted to only during sex.

quote:Originally posted by oc6:

The 'dirty talk' is restricted to only during sex.

Yes, I have to agree that calling your girlfriend a cheap whore...no. I don't care how funny it sounds in your head.

It amazes me how many learning experiences you're encountering in such a short period of time, but as long as you're learning.

[This message has been edited by Euda (edited 11-01-2006).]

Most of the guys in here are pussies. She wants to play a game where you dominate, if you love her, you'll respect her enough to give her what she wants. You can have slow, steady, respectable sex too, but fuck man, it's not nearly as fun.

Treat your girl like a whore, and love her afterwards. Keep things spicy. Boring relationships die.

Sounds like your girl and I would get along..

quote:Originally posted by LostCause:

lolita kindercore look



wtf?

quote:Originally posted by fullcircle:



wtf?

I was qouting him. Your guess is as good as mine.

Cheers,

Lost