My girlfriend broke up with me today because she said I was getting on her nerves for asking her what was wrong, because theres something wrong with her and she wouldn't tell me. Then she said when she does stupid things i get mad at her. The stupid things she does is drink,smoke, and cuts herself. And she broke up with me for caring about her. WTF.... Anyone else thinks this is fucked up??

It's the good ol' catch-22 breakup. It sounds like she wanted it to end, but wanted to blame you, so she setup an impossible ultimatum to alleviate the guilt.

wow what a fucking bitch

Girls don't like it when guys simp around and do say shit like, "baby..are you mad at me.. did I do something wrong??... please talk to me.. tell me what I did..etc" which sounds like is what you were doing.

for future references if a female won't tell you what's wrong or what's bothering her.. take a step back and let her figure shit out for herself. this lets it be known that you aren't willing to play any bullshit games, and it gives her space to herself which is what she may need.

and as far as the cutting and other lifestyle choices she makes-- you aren't gonna be able to change that shit, that's something she has to change for herself. and if she doesn't want to change she doesn't want to hear you getting on her case about it. so this really isn't surprising at all. typical if you ask me. charge this bitch to the game and move on and find a new female.

thats a good point. thanks

quote:Originally posted by forebidenaxe:

wow what a fucking bitch

I might be wrong though. That's just my take on things.

Come to think of it though, maybe she sees your concern as being too invasive. It all depends on how often you bring these things up and in what way...

Her drinking and smoking really is her own choice, and you might come off as trying to control her by wanting her to stop.

The cutting thing... well... I'm not even gonna touch on that one. I simply don't understand that at all.

^ Not only does this man always know what he's talking about, he's the first person to work out that she broke up with you because you were whining, bugging and annoying her.

Duh.

Edit: That was in response to DENKDAN's post.

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I don't really understand the cutting either but she would just sit there staring off a lot for the past weak and I asked her what was wrong one day and she told me blah blah blah this and i asked her the next day she told me its none of my business.

quote:Originally posted by forebidenaxe:

I don't really understand the cutting either but she would just sit there staring off a lot for the past weak and I asked her what was wrong one day and she told me blah blah blah this and i asked her the next day she told me its none of my business.

Maybe she's looking for attention...?

I'm running out of ideas.

Die Emo's

Dudezor, she's not woman enough for you.

Dignity & culture pour off of you like sweat off a horse's neck!

quote:Originally posted by DENKDAN:



for future references if a female won't tell you what's wrong or what's bothering her.. take a step back and let her figure shit out for herself. this lets it be known that you aren't willing to play any bullshit games, and it gives her space to herself which is what she may need.



And the mighty lady killer hath spoken!

...shut the fuck up, virgin.

quote:Originally posted by forebidenaxe:

My girlfriend broke up with me today because she said I was getting on her nerves for asking her what was wrong....

And she broke up with me for caring about her.

It sounds to me like she broke up with you for nagging at her. That's something I hate. When I'm ready to talk, I'll talk. But I don't like to be pushed into it, and trying to do that will make me pull away even more.

I don't think all girls are like that though, just some.

quote:Originally posted by yoyobek:

And the mighty lady killer hath spoken!

...shut the fuck up, virgin.

What he says is fucking true though. How many times has a girl been asked if something is wrong, and shes says "Nothing", when it is painfully obvious that there is. Guys and girls communicate on different levels and the problem often is that either of us expect the other to know what is going on.

He raises a good point of giving her space, and you're saying that's a bad idea? I guess you would want to feed and clothe and indescribably suffocate them then. Plus it's pretty clear that most young girls prefer the 'bad guy' thing anyway, so him being all "Oh are you ok" yada yada yada isn't gonna get him anywhere.

Well, give her up totally. If she's a whiny little bitch then you don't want her anyway, right? Good to know that now, and it's good that you got out of it early on.

It's good to ask your girl what's wrong, but not all the time or in a suffocating manner. If something is amiss, try to figure it out, but ask her. If she doesn't want to talk about it, she might be trying to see if you'll continue asking until she tells you, or any number of things. She may not want to talk about it and isn't playing games. It depends on teh girl and the situation, and it's never 100%. People aren't fixed objects that never change. She may mean it one way on Monday and then mean something else entirely on Thursday. We men communicate in a very different manner than women. Body language, language usage, and all kinds of things go into this. Anyway, that's not really the point here.

You need to be glad you're done with her. If her lifestyle is in conflict with your values, then don't date her. Problem solved. You might've whined at her or appeared to be weak and pathetic when you took her bullshit. I don't really know. What I do know is that obviously she wasn't the girl for you, so now you can just move on and keep searching for a girl who will complement you better.