Long story short, I found out the reason that it was painful for my girlfriend when i'd try to finger her is becuase she still has her hymen intact.. and her cherry has not been popped yet. I was just trying to do it normal becuase i'd never popped a girls cherry before. But then she told me that the membrane was still there and i had to be gentle.

Could someone (preferably a girl) give me some personal exeperience on this matter? Is it just something that breaks eventually over time, after i finger her enough times? Is it something that i have to actually TRY to pop, by being extra physical? She said shes heard that it hurts and bleeds when it pops, so its not something she wants me to do on purpose.

Can someone offer some insight please?

Thanks!

Are you using adequate lubrication/is she turned on enough? I have no recollection of when my hymen broke, and it didn't hurt very much when I lost my virginity. I'm assuming it broke before then...I don't know...

I think that some girls have thicker hymens that are harder to break, and I think a doctor might even have to do it for the rare girl...I could be wrong.

Has she been to the gyno?

I doubt it. And i dont know anything about how thick it is or anything, i just know that its still there. I havnt pressed too hard agaisnt it yet whilst trying to finger her, so maybe it would just break?

*Plops down and waits for jacketch*

quote:Originally posted by met_B_A_N_S:

*Plops down and waits for jacketch*



He doesn't pop just anyone's cherry you know.

It would help if you wear a red wig unless it's your natural color, for starters.

what the hell is a cherry?

seriously, i dont know.

It's the membrane in a pussy. you pop it and it bleeds. that's why they call it a cherry.

quote:Originally posted by Maya133:

It's the membrane in a pussy. you pop it and it bleeds. that's why they call it a cherry.

so tgat;s how women could tell if their daughter was a virgin? they would have to produce a bloody blanket by poppibng their cherry?

thats gross.

quote:Originally posted by WannaFuckWannaSex0r:

so tgat;s how women could tell if their daughter was a virgin? they would have to produce a bloody blanket by poppibng their cherry?

thats gross.

It could happen to a girl if she masturbates...Furiously.

Tell her it has to happen eventualy. It won't happen by its self unless she plays alot of sports, then it might. Just tell her its a slim chance it will happen by its self and she should pop it if she ever wants to enjoy the magical...ness....of sex.

Or you could pop it on "accident," she will only be mad for a short while.

quote:Originally posted by happy_one_hit:

Tell her it has to happen eventualy. It won't happen by its self unless she plays alot of sports, then it might. Just tell her its a slim chance it will happen by its self and she should pop it if she ever wants to enjoy the magical...ness....of sex.

Or you could pop it on "accident," she will only be mad for a short while.

Because any time blood leaves the lower region of a girls body they instantly become mad of course.

Yea - Just lube it up and shove something in. She'll get over it and have something to remember you for.

it has to happen sometime. what does she want it for? luckily mine disappeared sometime long before i was even sexually active so i never had to worry about it, but i wouldn't want to have to go through forcibly removing it. uhh...get her really worked up and then just slide in there. make sure she's ok with losing it first, but don't tell her "ok, so now i'm gonna stick my finger in you." because she'll just tense up and freak out.

eeesh. hymens. useless things.

i heard that gymnast commonly break their hymen while doing their gymnastics stuff.

http://www.ironhymen.com/

punch her in the vag

quote:The hymen is normally torn or dilated by playing sports, using tampons, pelvic examinations or even straddle injuries.

Once a girl reaches puberty, the hymen tends to become quite elastic. It is not possible to determine whether a woman uses tampons or not by examining her hymen. Only 43% of women report bleeding the first time they had sex; which means the hymen likely stretched enough that it didn't tear in the other 57% of women.

It is rare to damage the hymen through accidental injury, such as falling on the crossbar of a bicycle. Although such an accident may cause bleeding, this is usually due to damage to surrounding tissues such as the labia. It is so unlikely that an accident would damage the hymen without injuring any other part of the vulva, that damage to the hymen alone, described as an accident, would be seen as a strong indicator of sexual assault.

http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Hymen

quote:Hymenorrhaphy or hymen reconstruction surgery is the surgical restoration of the hymen. The term comes from the Greek words hymen meaning membrane, and raphe meaning suture. It is also known as hymenoplasty, although strictly this term would also include hymenotomy.

Such procedures are not generally regarded as part of mainstream gynecology, but are available from some plastic surgery centres, particularly in the USA, Japan and Western Europe, generally as day surgery. The normal aim is to cause bleeding during the wedding night, which in some cultures, mostly Arab but not exclusively, is a required proof of virginity. It is becoming slightly more common in Western cultures.

http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Hymenorrhaphy

That outa provide all you ever wanted to know

OMFG

Do the obvious thing man... Go all gental and such... play with your fingers/face, whip out your dick without her noticing..... THEN JAM THAT MOTHER FUCKER IN THERE! That'll get the job done nice and quick... AND! you'll show how much of a man you are....

Pussy.



I love you guys.

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I was able to finger a girl for months without her ever complaining of pain because of her hymen.

It was just like "the end" of her pussy basically that I could reach.

It was cool to feel.

Its extremely scary to break it with your finger, I dont have the "balls" it would take, even if the girl said it was ok. I would shit my pants if she screamed out in pain.

I broke my hymen doing a roundhouse kick...true story.

nail her...in a romantic way ..but nail her none the less...forget planning just whip it out and go for it...failing that turn your fingering into one sudden session of fisting then post vids and pics on totse.

quote:Originally posted by Raptafairious:

It could happen to a girl if she masturbates...Furiously.



Hahaha. thats also true. It's lucky when the girl already has it popped by physical activity- not the other way, ouch.