Ok, My girlfriend of one year whom I really love is threatening to dump me if I don't quit smoking weed. She even cuts herself when she finds out I smoked. I'm sick and tired of always being the bad guy even though she drinks when she gets depressed? What should I do?

"Cut" her loose.

^_^

Seriously though, dump her ass.

Get out, now.

I was in that situation (my boyfriend threatened to dump me if I kept doing drugs) but I refused to choose, especially since he drank his face off all the time.

By the end of two and a half years we were fighting constantly, always about the same things.

One of you has to concede, and if neither of you is willing to step up to the plate, then there's not point in continuing a relationship.

quote:Originally posted by MomentaryLapseOfReason:

"Cut" her loose.

^_^

Seriously though, dump her ass.

agreed. Cutting is the lowest form of expressing emotion. She also doesnt respect your personal preferences. I think its selfish to make you stop smoking just because she doesnt think its ok. Fuck her. Damn I need a cigarette

[This message has been edited by gmail (edited 10-25-2006).]

quote:Originally posted by DisAcc:

Ok, My girlfriend of one year whom I really love is threatening to dump me if I don't quit smoking weed. She even cuts herself when she finds out I smoked. I'm sick and tired of always being the bad guy even though she drinks when she gets depressed? What should I do?

OH MY GOD- This EXACT thing happened to me last year. Jesus christ, that was frightening to see the accuracy of that post.

Dude. You either need to find peace with her on this issue, or get out, because I chose not to, and endured the most painful 4 months of my life.

Fuck dude, I feel bad that you're where I was, exactly....

~Saint947

quote:Originally posted by gmail:

Damn I need a cigarette

me too.

You shouldn't be smoking pot in the first place. But dont deal with her shit anyway.

DTB.

Show up at her place smoking a joint, and give her a handful of razorblades.

You should really re-evaluate the commitment that you've put forth in the relationship.

Do you think it's worth her? I've gotten dumped for refusing to quit some of my less-then-admirable habits, and it really pissed me off. I honestly wish I would have saved the time and trouble and just ended it when I saw how rocky it was.

I was in denial of just how shitty the relationship had become, I guess.

Anyway, back to the subject, she sounds pretty ignorant about weed if she's making such a big deal out of it. Have you discussed with her the myths and other shit surrounding pot? If you have and she's still up your ass about it, I'd say dump her.

If she's not going to respect you, why should you respect her?

[This message has been edited by Saline Colors (edited 10-25-2006).]

Finish her.

There is nothing else to it, girls shouldn't hold these restrictions on you.

No if you don't mind, I'm tipsy and high, it's bed time.

- Rabb

quote:Originally posted by Saline Colors:

You should really re-evaluate the commitment that you've put forth in the relationship.

Do you think it's worth her? I've gotten dumped for refusing to quit some of my less-then-admirable habits, and it really pissed me off. I honestly wish I would have saved the time and trouble and just ended it when I saw how rocky it was.

I was in denial of just how shitty the relationship had become, I guess.

Anyway, back to the subject, she sounds pretty ignorant about weed if she's making such a big deal out of it. Have you discussed with her the myths and other shit surrounding pot? If you have and she's still up your ass about it, I'd say dump her.

If she's not going to respect you, why should you respect her?



discussing the facts wont do shit with her. She is brainwashed along with millions of other people. There is rarely hope for these types of idiots. Let them spew their bullshit then stick facts in their face and theyll still dismiss it anyway they can

Personally, I'd quit drugs if the right girl came along. I don't want a girl that is actually okay with me doing drugs, I feel like that kind of balance would be good for me.

I need to quit drugs anyway. I don't want a girl who is associated with this lifestyle, and if I continue on the way I am, I'm going end up a broke, pill-popping cokehead, and with a reputation like that, I'll never meet the kind of girl I'm looking for.

quote:Originally posted by HandOfZek:

Show up at her place smoking a joint, and give her a handful of razorblades.

We have a winner.

quote:Originally posted by HandOfZek:

Show up at her place smoking a joint, and give her a handful of razorblades.



That would be such a hilarious way to break it off with her.

quote:Originally posted by MomentaryLapseOfReason:

We have a winner.

I was going to say something to that effect as well. I heart you HandOfZek.

quote:Originally posted by HandOfZek:

Show up at her place smoking a joint, and give her a handful of razorblades.

*gets on knees*

We're not worthy. We're not worthy

Brilliantly said

i dont even think it's about the smoking of the weed.. she's trying to change you, and that ain't right.. she should accept you for who you are.

sure, i might quit weed for a girl i majorly loved in your position, but then where does her changing of you stop?

i don't really like when my boyfriend smokes or gets completely shitfaced. especially if we make plans to hang out and he does it before coming to see me....it makes me feel like im not enough or something. i dont give him shit about it (usually at least) and would never tell him its it or me...but still i can understand why she is upset.

just talk to her about it. see why it makes her so sad.

Smoke weed with her. My girlfriend always got mad at me when I smoked. We smoked together and fucked like crazy and ever since that night she's fine with me smoking.

Otherwise dump that dumbass bitch. Cuts herself? What a dumb cunt.

quote:Originally posted by king koopa:

We smoked together and fucked like crazy

The night before we broke up, I finally got my ex to smoke... And we fucked like we never have before. She was shaking so bad from how high she was, and she couldn't take her pants off fast enough (was funny to watch that..) She was freaky as fuck.. After I fingered her, she was sucking her juice off my fingers, which was extremely hot.

I don't hesitate to say that the sex we had that night was the best I've ever had. Frenzied ferret fucking.. that's what it was..

~Saint947

fuck that shit. tell her to get over it.

i always said i would NEVER quit smoking for a girl,but ive found the right girl and ive given up EVERYTHING of my substance use for her...and personally i couldnt be happier.

Well...ask yourself an important question...Do you like smoking a bowl more then you like getting pussy? You now have an answer.

quote:Originally posted by soro_one:

Well...ask yourself an important question...Do you like smoking a bowl more then you like getting pussy? You now have an answer.

Wrong, ask yourself something else. This is just stupid, like she's the only one that can give you pussy.

Ask her why shes botherd by it, my EX the dumb bitch used to think there was heroin in street weed because the fucken popo put in her head the when ever you buy weed its laced with RAID and shit. I just told my GF that if I was getting weed laced with heroin it woulbe a hell of a lot more then $10.

quote:Originally posted by HandOfZek:

Show up at her place smoking a joint, and give her a handful of razorblades.

I agree with this fine man.

Sure, everyone is an indivdual & just how many couples match every faucet of their personalities on a 1-to-1 basis? Yet, with just smoking as an example? Either Bud or Cigs?

How could one relate to someone else if they're totally opposite on either one? I know people do it with cigs but it's as hard or harder with the Bud.

Sure, I imagine a couple where both smoke the Bud but one just gets too fucked up & unreliable? Smokes too much/at the wrong time & place? Yet, I don't think I could go with someone who don't?

I'd rather leave them to someone of their own ilk.

Break up with her. Then quit doing drugs.

In any kind of relationship I've ever had with stoners (or any drug (ab)user), including friendships, I've always known that I come second to whatever their substance of choice is.

And I accept that, if I care about the person enough. If not, move on.

She doesn't care enough.

Jx

quote:Originally posted by Jessic:

I've always known that I come second to whatever their substance of choice is.

Jx



*ding*

I've seen in about 99% of cases that this is completely true, so QFT.

It's more or less why my ex and I broke up, she chose drinking over me. Not a cool feeling on this end. :\

quote:Originally posted by Jessic:

In any kind of relationship I've ever had with stoners (or any drug (ab)user), including friendships, I've always known that I come second to whatever their substance of choice is.

And I accept that, if I care about the person enough. If not, move on.

She doesn't care enough.

Jx

The whole "Anti-Drug" vibe in this thread is just stupid. There is nothing wrong with doing somthing that makes you happy. Its when it takes over your life that its a problem. There is a word for people that have put drugs ahead of you and everything else, and that word is ADDICT. Theres a difference between an addict and occasional use and for some reason everyone here has lumped them both into addiction.

Ultimatums are always absolute bullshit. She cuts herself because you smoke pot? Good. Tell her you smoke pot because you can't deal with her immature, emo, psychotic bullshit, and you're better off without her.

Ooh, and what Zek said... brilliant. However, when she leaves her suicide note (written with her own blood on the bathroom floor, of course) you better hope she leaves that part out.

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quote:Originally posted by HandOfZek:

Show up at her place smoking a joint, and give her a handful of razorblades.

This thread completely disgusts me.

quote:Originally posted by DisAcc:

Ok, My girlfriend of one year whom I really love is threatening to dump me if I don't quit smoking weed. She even cuts herself when she finds out I smoked. I'm sick and tired of always being the bad guy even though she drinks when she gets depressed? What should I do?

Well honestly, i got through to my boyfriend, got him to stop smoking. I dont want to go into detail Its a long story. She is cutting thats gross, i never cut or drank my brains out. I would either talk and compromise or leave.

Now I'm in a sober state of mind let me re-evaluate my reply.

Finish her.

Seriously, it's the best thing you can do, eventually there will be more and more things that she'll stop you doing, and then you'll be in a sticky situation.

- Rabb

quote:Originally posted by DisAcc:

She even cuts herself when she finds out I smoked.

Wow, that's seriously fucked up. I can somewhat understand cutting when people have real severe issues with self-loathing and such, but that's just about the craziest reason for self-mutilation I've ever heard.

It sounds like she has a really unrealistic view of marijuana. Have you tried explaining things to her and trying to show her how it's relatively harmless, etc? It's worth a try if you haven't, but then again, she doesn't sound like the most reasonable person in the world from what you've described here.

I guess it all depends on how important this relationship is to you. If I was in love, I'd quit anything and everything for my girl if she so desired, but that's only in a really idealistic 'soulmate' kinda scenario (which hasn't happened yet and probably never will).

You could just tell her you quit and continue to smoke, but if weed is a big part of your social life, she's probably gonna find out eventually and flip the fuck out.

Tell her you smoke...because she cuts!

i would rather get baked ... but hey thats why i am single . Its a damn good life though

Pot really isn't that great. Quit smoking it and do something constructive with your life, like learning to write well. Also, don't let controlling, abusive people run your life. She's trying to control you by placing an ultimatum on your behavior. It's manipulative, abusive, and bad for relationships. If she doesn't like your behavior, she should break up with you. If you don't like hers, behave likewise.

quote:Originally posted by XHippie HunterX:

me too.

You shouldn't be smoking pot in the first place. But dont deal with her shit anyway.

DTB.

So smoking ciggarettes is fine.. but pot is just horrible.. you're fucking retarded.



quote:Originally posted by Fanglekai:

Pot really isn't that great. Quit smoking it and do something constructive with your life, like learning to write well.

Speak for yourself pal. Not everyone is as close-minded as you are.

[This message has been edited by TheRealGeoff (edited 10-26-2006).]

I have a question and didn't want to start a new thread for it.

Do you think it's fair to ask your partner to just not use drugs around you?

Like, you don't care that they do it, you just get annoyed by it?

[slightly off topic ]

I'm an alcoholic, and did just about every drug that was available back in the '80's. Occaisonally i have smoked hash and inhaled. I quite like the taste of the stuff, am not so keen on the effect as it tends to make me really paranoid and violent...far more so than alcohol.

What really pisses me off, and i get it alot with my hash smoking friends , is the 'missionary' zeal of a lot of dope smokers.

People like TheRealGeoff who go around calling anyone who doesn't share their opinion 'retarded' and 'closed minded'.

It's a drug, people. Just like any other. It isn't 'holy' , it isn't the answer to all mankinds problems and the world would still be a shitty place even if we all smoked it.

OP, decide what is more important to you. This girl or your weed.

quote:Originally posted by TheRealGeoff:

Speak for yourself pal. Not everyone is as close-minded as you are.



Yes I'm closed minded because I've done pot a number of times and realized that it's a waste of time because the high is shit. You know me so well!! Moron.

quote:Originally posted by Fanglekai:

Pot really isn't that great. Quit smoking it and do something constructive with your life, like learning to write well.

So just because someone smokes weed once in a while their ability to do something constructive with their life is gone?

quote:Originally posted by jackketch:

[slightly off topic ]

I'm an alcoholic, and did just about every drug that was available back in the '80's. Occaisonally i have smoked hash and inhaled. I quite like the taste of the stuff, am not so keen on the effect as it tends to make me really paranoid and violent...far more so than alcohol.

What really pisses me off, and i get it alot with my hash smoking friends , is the 'missionary' zeal of a lot of dope smokers.

People like TheRealGeoff who go around calling anyone who doesn't share their opinion 'retarded' and 'closed minded'.

It's a drug, people. Just like any other. It isn't 'holy' , it isn't the answer to all mankinds problems and the world would still be a shitty place even if we all smoked it.

OP, decide what is more important to you. This girl or your weed.

Hey now, don't go grouping all of us marijuana zealots together. I'm on a constant crusade to end the prohibition world-wide and stop the oppression of peaceful pot smokers/growers. Constantly sending out letters and e-mails to people in local governmental power. (The tyranny and the bullshit's gone on too long!!!)

I also think marijuana has a shitload of potential to help with a myriad of medical problems, if the medical community would stop their irrational fear of anything that has a "bad wrap".

I'm full of zeal, and I'm sure some of it defies logic at some point. I've also done my research (enough to get an A on a college research paper ^^) and know that there are TONS of negative affects as well, most of them mental. Marijuana is not for everyone, and for us to pull all this shit where we rely on half-assed (slated) research done by a.. questionable.. group of people, claim that the world would be a better place if everyone did it (where's the evidence to back this up? Would be best to not comment) and that anyone that says something negative about the drug (particularly if it's true) is "closed-minded", well.. that's not helping the cause one bit.

The TRUE zealots depend on information, research and personal experience. And the way to win this misguided war is not with more propaganda (this time speweed by the "good guys"), but with INFORMATION! Educate the people, don't lie to them! That makes us the same as those responsible for the prohibition way back when, and is the true evil here in the world.

For the record, I wasn't the first to throw this off-topic (jack ^^).

weed is ghey wtf smoke crack instad u pussy

Damn fool way to equalize shit. Tell her to quit fucking drinking if you're gonna stop toking.

Edit: Spelling errors.

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quote:Originally posted by firekitty751:

I have a question and didn't want to start a new thread for it.

Do you think it's fair to ask your partner to just not use drugs around you?

Like, you don't care that they do it, you just get annoyed by it?

I think that's fair enough. Like, "I don't care if you get high, just not around me." kinda thing. Yeah, that's a fair compromise. I wish my ex would have just said that, it would have saved us a whole lot of hassle.

quote:Originally posted by king koopa:

So just because someone smokes weed once in a while their ability to do something constructive with their life is gone?

Did you read the original post? Did you read my first post in here? Did you read geoff's reply?

My point is that when you're so into a drug that you will give up people for it, you've got a problem. The OP's girlfriend, however, is manipulative and should be removed from his life for that reason, so perhaps it's a moot point. That's the main issue in this thread. His girlfriend is a problem. She should not be controlling him, and she needs to know that.

The separate issue is about his marijuana smoking. A lot of pot smokers get so defensive about their smoking habit. Do it if you're going to do it, but don't go on about it as if it were the be all end all goal of life. It's just a mild high, and it's really not worth giving up people, nor is it an excuse to not develop talents or complete goals. I've seen too many people waste years on pot. It's stupid, and you gain nothing from it. Doing something worthwhile, like developing a talent or improving oneself is a far better use of time. I'm done here.

HandofZek, don't get me wrong. I too am pro-legalising ganga. Infact i'm pretty sure the real reason it was banned had very little to do with it being a drug...*insert Favourite conspriracy theory here* (a chemist friend once told me that hash oil has some amazing fuel properties and the petro-chemical industry etc etc).

I just hate all the 'missionary' crap that gets spouted and how the fanatics won't admit that there are indeed major negatives to it.

quote:Originally posted by deadteenager:

Wow, that's seriously fucked up. I can somewhat understand cutting when people have real severe issues with self-loathing and such, but that's just about the craziest reason for self-mutilation I've ever heard.



Good point, cutting indicates severe issues with self-loathing.

Compare:

quote:Originally posted by Jessic:

In any kind of relationship I've ever had with stoners (or any drug (ab)user), including friendships, I've always known that I come second to whatever their substance of choice is.



!!!!!with:

quote:Originally posted by oral fixation:

i don't really like when my boyfriend smokes or gets completely shitfaced. especially if we make plans to hang out and he does it before coming to see me....it makes me feel like im not enough or something. i dont give him shit about it (usually at least) and would never tell him its it or me...but still i can understand why she is upset.

just talk to her about it. see why it makes her so sad.

^^^^^^^^^^^talk

Good Luck

Same thing here bro. I just broke up with my girlfriend of 3 years.

She found out I have been schmokin' da weed... And she's like "OMFGWTFBBQ QUIT SCHMOKIN WEED"

So I'm all like "NO fucking way bitch! I love my weeds."

So she's all like ya "OMG you're going to die of cancer, and you are going to fail at society."

Then I retaliate "I have a 4.0 in college bitch, better than you so cram that shit."

"But you're GOING to, it takes time with marywana."

"I've been schmokin' weed since I was a freshy in highschool."

"OMFGWTFBQQ!"



Me- "haha pwnt."

/relationship......



True story, but a little bit of comedic value added. I love you totse, and I love you whiskey, and I also love you mary-jew-wanna

Hey hey hey

Smoke weed everyday!

quote:Originally posted by MonetaryGraspOfLesions:

Hey hey hey

Smoke weed everyday!

Wish I could afford it/didn't loose effectiveness the next day..

But I guess I smokey daily on and off. Every 3rd week about.

quote:Originally posted by acid_drop:

Wish I could afford it/didn't loose effectiveness the next day..

But I guess I smokey daily on and off. Every 3rd week about.

You need to smoke smurf bukkake!

Although i think people who smoke marijuana number among the stupidest on earth, if she says she is going to dump you if you stop the relationship is never going to work out.

quote:Originally posted by Garrett:

Although i think people who smoke marijuana number among the stupidest on earth, if she says she is going to dump you if you stop the relationship is never going to work out.

I have a 4.0 in college son. Granted, I almost failed highschool, but that was a bordom issue, highschool should be condensed into 2 years. But I'm by no means dumb. If you mean collectivly... then yes, I have to agree. But to generalize is just sickening. I'm not the burnout, not even close. Notice my girlfriend didn't even KNEW I smoked weed untill just recently.

Uh, how controling, not worth your time.

What a dumb bitch. Seriously, just let her go. She's a little immature.