I've always wondered if there was a polite way to do this.

Say you're planning on asking a friend to hang out, but you haven't gotten a hold of them yet.

So somebody else says "Hey, are you busy tomorrow?"

You technically don't have plans, but you plan on making them... so you can't say "I have plans" because half the time, people are nosey fuckers and say "Oh, what are you doing?" And you can't say "I'm hanging out with John tomorrow" because what if John can't hang out?

And sometimes, they keep asking. Is it rude to say "I was going to see if John could hang out," cause that seems like you prefer John over this person? And even if you do, that's not something you want to say...

This isn't a specific problem, it's just something I've wondered. I'm able to escape this situation by saying "I have no gas" because I live so far away... and most of the time, I really don't have the gas to go anywhere.

kick him in the nuts

I usually just make up vague plans, or say I'll call them later. I usually do call, but I'll have a good excuse ready. Haha, I bet all my friends know when I do this.

you worry too much.

"Oh, I'm probably doing something."

quote:Originally posted by Clit Commander:

you worry too much.

So true.

Just say you can't hang out, sorry, some other time.

Geez.

quote:Originally posted by Clit Commander:

you worry too much.

Yeah, it comes with the territory of being female. Guys don't have that underlying cattiness to their relationships.

quote:Originally posted by stab:

Just say you can't hang out, sorry, some other time.

Geez.

Sometimes people question you! It's weird, and kind of annoying.

just say, "bugger, I have something on but I can't remember for teh life of me what it is.. but yeah, I do have some thing on."

or.. alternatively...

"fuck you cunteyes, i dont like you and i dont wanna hang out with you."

quote:Originally posted by firekitty751:

Sometimes people question you! It's weird, and kind of annoying.

Just make something up:

"I'm having a family dinner"

"I'm going out with my boyfriend"

"Me and [insert appropriate friend here] are going [insert movie here]"

They're not going to call and check on you.

quote:Originally posted by firekitty751:

Sometimes people question you! It's weird, and kind of annoying.

'Oh my god the house next door is on fire!' *SLAM*

You can put it down to you being a little bit strange. If you act strange, it's hard to be rude. Comprendo? Good. Now fly my precious!

Let's say you were planning to go the movies with John.

Just tell your friend, "Sorry, I was planning to go to the movies tomorrow." No other parties are specifically mentioned, and you are scot-free if the plans don't work out.

If I was ever in a situation where I had more than one friend, I'd just be like

"hey yeah! I was gonna hang out with /whoever/, lets all hang out together!"

"i cant hang out tommorow, im sleeping all day"

quote:Originally posted by firekitty751:

And sometimes, they keep asking. Is it rude to say "I was going to see if John could hang out," cause that seems like you prefer John over this person? And even if you do, that's not something you want to say...

Yeah, you're thinking too hard.

Just tell it like it is - you want to hang out with someone, but haven't had the chance to make the plans; and you'll get back to whoever this new person is you may make new plans with.

quote:Originally posted by firekitty751:

"Oh, what are you doing?"

That line always gets me... Like they're trying to keep it cool. I like took that phrase and burned it out of my mind. I never say it now.

In this case, I usually go with "I'm unsure of my plans and am waiting for my boss to call me back"....

works for me.

"I'm probably gonna be doing x, but I'll call you if I'm not". You really do worry too much .

quote:Originally posted by stab:

You can put it down to you being a little bit strange. If you act strange, it's hard to be rude. Comprendo? Good. Now fly my precious!

Has worked for me.

I usually say something like "I probably can't, I have homework/work/family function/etc., but I'll call you if I can." That way it doesn't seem like an outright rejection!

"I don't think I'll be able to, but I'll get in touch with you later if I can."

-|Iskalla@HalfBaked|-

"I don't feel like hanging out."

"Sorry, but I've got the AIDS. Bye."

Just make up some bullshit excuse like:

I'm sick.

I have to visit my mom/dad tommorow.

I'm hanging out with my girlfriends.

"I was going to make plans with john, but I might give you a call if they fall through"

Really, noone cares if you were going to do something else before they asked you.

Sorry I got diarrhea always works for me.

I will stab you in the fucking face you ask me what I'm doing one more time.

I dunno.. I'd be kind of offended if I asked a friend if they wanted to hang out and they said basically, that they had better plans, but they'd resort to hanging out with me if their *real* plans fell through.

Fucking women If someone has plans, but they don't end up happening, what do you want them to do? They call someone they know wanted to do something that night.

If you can't handle being the second choice one night, maybe you should stick to gerbils.