I have been bothered by my life a lot lately.* The more I reflect on my life the more pathetic I think I am and the amount of missed opportunities in my life almost makes me want to go crazy.* I am 21 and a virgin- I would never admit it.* I lie a lot- I moved far away from home to go to school- I tell people im from Florida even though im not.* I want to be myself- but its like im fighting myself to be who I am- when its easier to lie about who I am and what I represent.* I dont understand why I am the way I am.* Im too antisocial.* I am always finding reasons to be by myself and waste time.* For example, I bought a skateboard a year ago and would try to get good at skating for hours a day.* Today I realized- I will never be good at skating.* I never skated when I was younger- I never hung out with a crowd that skated.* Skating by yourself at age 21 is sad.* Im not doing something good for me- Im making my life worse.* I realized all of this today.* I dont have people to call, I dont have people to talk to, Ive become really frustrated- and dont know what to do next.* Its like my whole life has been shit and I just avoid people and feel sorry for myself.* Never being outgoing, never appearing to want friends or girlfriends- but truly sad I have neither- and live inside my head- even though their are plenty of opportunities for me. I feel like I have never been a man and always been scared of everyone and everything. Ive had a lot on my mind- If anyone can relate and wants to talk or give me some advice- it would be cool.

Too long/Didn't care



Oh, and

quote:Originally posted by jwwc2006:

I am 21 and a virgin

LOL

can i buy ur skateboard if its goood....seeing as you wont be useing it,and as far as your problem goes....get on that man, a hooker or somthin, any girl will sell themself for a price......

Go somewhere that interests you and make conversation. Take things from there.

So go out and make friend! Go to a club and drop some E, you will have met so many people by the end of the night, trust me.

First of all.. paragraphs are your friend. Now, having said that, 21 is still young to figure out yourself and how to relate to women. And friends for that matter.

Find an unattractive girl to practice on. Sounds cruel but you'll probably have no problem just walking up to some fugly chick and striking up a conv.

Might even lose your virginity!

Anyway, you get the point. Start with the attainable and work your way to the (in your minds' eye) unattainable.

quote:Originally posted by jwwc2006:

I am 21 and a virgin

Loser.

quote:Originally posted by pathogen:

First of all.. paragraphs are your friend. Now, having said that, 21 is still young to figure out yourself and how to relate to women. And friends for that matter.

Find an unattractive girl to practice on. Sounds cruel but you'll probably have no problem just walking up to some fugly chick and striking up a conv.

Might even lose your virginity!

Anyway, you get the point. Start with the attainable and work your way to the (in your minds' eye) unattainable.

Don't mean to be rude but that is terrible advice. If you practice on ugly girls then when you see a hot one you'll be like "oh shit, i can't go for her, she's out of my league." I am average-looking and always go for the hottest girl in my field of vision.

Second, losing your virginity to an ugly girl is perhaps the worst thing you can do. There were several opportunities for me to have sex while I was younger but I never went through with it until a few months ago (I'm 16). Your first time should be with someone really stunning so that you can always look back on it fondly. After that you can bone as many fat/ugly girls as you want because they just don't have to be as memorable.

[This message has been edited by Galbador (edited 10-23-2006).]

You're 21. Go to a fucking bar. Give it away to the first drunken slut you can lay your paws on. It may not be romantic, but I think you'll feel better.

-F☺rd

First of all, you people aren't kind enough.

Secondly, jwwc2006, before you can even think about having a relationship with another person, you have to learn to like yourself. Of course you haven't taken all your opportunities in life, most people haven't.

But if you want to be happy, to have to appreciate, to the fullest level, what you have. You have to bend the truth in the positive. You have to kid others, and kid yourself, and create the myth, and the legend, that is yourself.

You are the most important thing. How you feel about yourself. Getting laid is a very distant something-or-other, and wouldn't even be neccesary without those damn unintelligent hormones we've got coursing through our veins.

Don't worry about being a virgin. Nobody will care if you don't. It's your attitude that counts.

Ok here's my offer, I will move to America and go to live with you. In exchange for a place to stay and a bottle of vodka twice a week I will teach you how to pick up hot women.

I bet you would get laid if you had dashing good looks instead of dashing punctuation.

LOL at all the serious replies.

Dude, you're 21. It's called alcohol. You know how EASY it is to get drunk at a bar and have some chick be all over you?

21 year old virgin here, too. My advice? Forget it. Fuck it. I don't care if I get laid tomorrow, or if I live my whole life celebate. If through some miracle, I get pussy every day for the rest of my life, great. If I'm confined simply to beating off to porn, 'tis fine for me too. Doesn't really make that much of a difference to me.

quote:Originally posted by Elephantitis Man:

21 year old virgin here, too. My advice? Forget it. Fuck it. I don't care if I get laid tomorrow, or if I live my whole life celebate. If through some miracle, I get pussy every day for the rest of my life, great. If I'm confined simply to beating off to porn, 'tis fine for me too. Doesn't really make that much of a difference to me.

Spoken like a true virgin.

quote:Originally posted by Memorex:

Spoken like a true virgin.

quote:Originally posted by Elephantitis Man:





Not trying to be mean. I mean, I like your whole philosiphy on it, and I agree, you shouldn't let the pussy run your life.

But come on, everyone needs a little something here and there. Just wait till you get laid, then you'll know what I'm talking about.

the only way you're going to change is by fucking changing. you listed exactly what you think is wrong with you, so just do the opposite. it'll never change if you dont try. if you have a hard time talking to girls then force yourself to go talk. who cares if you have an awkward situatoin with some bitch, i sure dont, and neither does 99.99997% of the population, why should you?!

First question, Are you morbidly obese and/or hideously ugly?

You spent hours and hours practising but never got decent at skating...

I think you may be a failure at life?

I highly recommend reading Viktor Frankl's Man's Search for Meaning. He talks about Existentialism and logotherapy-a type of therapy that focuses on reasons why you don't kill yourself and strengthening those reasons. Just read the book. life changing.

quote:Originally posted by Clever Name:

I highly recommend reading Viktor Frankl's Man's Search for Meaning. He talks about Existentialism and logotherapy-a type of therapy that focuses on reasons why you don't kill yourself and strengthening those reasons. Just read the book. life changing.



life-changing as in you can save the 22.50 you'd spend on that useless piece of shit, and instead of filling some money-grubbing author's pockets you can use that money to go buy a bitch some drinks and get your dick wet proper.

I always thought I wanted a girlfriend and I realise that shit is over rated. I enjoy being by myself more then with a girl, I am only attracted to them sexually. Other then that I'd rather spend my time at home watching TV, working, or playing video games. I am perfectly fine on how life is right now and don't even feel pressured to get a relationship going. On the friend side I have like a few good friend who just like chilling, I got to parties sometimes with them and that how I met girls. Still I'd rather be alone though... I think once you start dating you will see it's not all rays of sunshine.

quote:Originally posted by SlapinFoFun:



life-changing as in you can save the 22.50 you'd spend on that useless piece of shit, and instead of filling some money-grubbing author's pockets you can use that money to go buy a bitch some drinks and get your dick wet proper.



Considering the almost universally poor quality of your posts in both grammar and advice, I would assume you are neither intelligent enough nor patient enough to actually read through any philosophical material, let alone existentialist.

But I'm sure you'll just retort with some uncultured, philistine bullshit that further demonstrates your lack of depth and maturity.

I am not ugly or morbidly obese. Im 5"7 140 in really good shape. I wouldnt have gotten anything if it wasnt for the girls that approached me. I was never picked on- I got along with everyone in high school. Im not a social retard. I just was always staying out of the way and nobody cared. They thought I just had no motivation- they thought I was kinda antisocial- but Im not socially retarded. I tried to lose my virginity before college by using internet and stuff- was supposed to get with some married lady but didnt go through with it. Im pretty good at skateboarding- its just I realized I missed my opportunity to be great at skateboarding because I didnt skate when I was in my teens- like every skateboarder that is good. Waisting my time getting big in the gym or good on my skateboard makes me try not to think of all my failures- but I just want to be able to finally not have all the shit that is in my head that prevents from getting friends and hooking up with hot girls that I could get if I knew how. Ive had a friend ask me why I dont socialize- and that I was better looking than him and could more girls if I tried. And Ive had really hot girl want to be with me but didnt understand why I was so shy and cold around her-I was only with her 3 days. I thought the last night I was with her I would lose it . I was so happy- but she passed out drunk- I had told her to stop drinking earlier- cuz I thought we knew what was goona happen that night. I want to get it over with- I think than I wont be worrying what other people think of me, Ill be more outgoing, and that doubt and shit in my head will be gone.

Ok.. so you have a problem with yourself..



Your problem is that for whatever reason, you are anti-social.

So, lets get that fixed! If the root of all your problems is the fact you don't have friends, and can't meet women. Then FIX it.

First, you need to learn to talk to people. Honestly, just start with walking down the street, and saying: Hi. to everyone you make eye contact with.

That right there will normally solve most fears people have with being social.. You learn that MOST people are NICE people. You say hi, they say hi. If you are a friendly person, most people will respond the same way.

You're 21, and moved to goto school.. This tells me you still go, am I right? Of course I am.

After you are comfortable with saying hi to anyone you see, trying talking to some of the GUYS(READ: NOT GIRLS) in some of your classes. Find out what they like, ask about their crazy hair cut, or that band that is coming to town, or maybe what they think of the class.. find out what they are majoring in.. Just generally get to know the person in a friendly way.

Now, not only did you just learn some social skills, you made a friend! YAY!

After you are good and decent at all of that, just add women to that group of people you talk to. Find stuff out about them, and generally be their friend at first, then move on to finding dates., Just don't be too nice to the women, you'll scare em away.

quote:Originally posted by Elephantitis Man:

21 year old virgin here, too. My advice? Forget it. Fuck it. I don't care if I get laid tomorrow, or if I live my whole life celebate. If through some miracle, I get pussy every day for the rest of my life, great. If I'm confined simply to beating off to porn, 'tis fine for me too. Doesn't really make that much of a difference to me.

Spoken like a triue awesome person.

quote:Originally posted by Cloaked Dagger:

So go out and make friend! Go to a club and drop some E, you will have met so many people by the end of the night, trust me.

That is terrible advice, taking the E that is.

But what you must do, is goto a bar or go out, get to that drunk stage where you're most confident and try to meet new people.

Sitting at the computer grizzling about it won't work wonders, in fact, dwelling on it will make things a lot worse.

A lot of people lie, but they just limit to how far they go.

You seem the sort of person to really take to notice of what others think. I used to about 2 years back, now I do't give a shit what others think. I just get on with things and it's got me further than I'd imagine.

Hope it works out for you.

What you need:

1 wad of cash

1 white van

1 expensive(looking) camera

1 freind(or some guy you pay on the street) to hold the camera

The plan:

Find a girl and tell her you are making porn.

I'm 19 and a virgin. I'm not gay, fat, or ugly. In fact, I'm handsome.

My reason: I'm antisocial and I have a low self esteem, which is a damn dirty shame. If I was obese I could just lose weight.

Edit: I also don't try, like Elephantitis Man.

[This message has been edited by smallpox champion (edited 10-23-2006).]

This is bad advice but...

Anger overpowers shyness.

quote:Originally posted by SlapinFoFun:

you can use that money to go buy a bitch some drinks

buy bitches DRINKS?? hell no.. that's called TRICKIN.. spit game and holla before you spend change and dolla. you dumbass trick.

quote:Originally posted by veeDuB:

That is terrible advice, taking the E that is.

I have first hand experiance with the stuff and I fail to see how.

quote:Originally posted by veeDuB:

But what you must do, is goto a bar or go out, get to that drunk stage where you're most confident and try to meet new people.

And now you are telling him to get drunk. This is just as bad if not worse than me telling him to take E.



Anyway, the point is that you need to go out to where people are having a good time and socialize. If you can't do this sober, then by all means drink a little or do something else that will help make you social, just don't become reliant on any of that stuff to be social.

dude its never too late to try skateboarding, im in a similar situation with that. "too old" to skate, but who cares if those 14 year old twerps think you look like an idiot? it's fun, and gets more and more fun the better you get.

anyone who's dissing on you for being "old" and sucking at skating isn't worth bothering with in the first place, keep practicing and you'll get better.

.....................................

21 year old virgin here, and it doesnt bother me one bit personally.

I have a tonne of friends, im social, im happy with who i am in everyway (5'11, slightly overweight, but doesnt stop people flirting with funnily enough). Ive had chances to lose it when i was younger, but i was shy and nervous a lot back then, so i missed the chances. Looking back on it its probably a good thing because i think i wouldnt be who i am now without declining the offers. As far as im concerned itll happen when it happens, and it will happen when i feel its right for me to try. As yet i dont feel that way at all so, meh.

Im fully aware that some people on here will think its stupid, or pathetic, or gay to not try and lose it so quickly. My comment to you is this: why the fuck do i have to live up to youre expectations?

Answer: I dont, and neither does anyone else, so quit trying to force people to be like you.

that comment doesnt go to anyone who offered advice or support in this thread, jst people who berated or mocked the original OP without any form of decent answer occuring in their minds.

quote:Originally posted by DENKDAN:

buy bitches DRINKS?? hell no.. that's called TRICKIN.. spit game and holla before you spend change and dolla. you dumbass trick.



Yeah keep puttin Tariq in those $3000 suits nigga. That's all he wants.

quote:Originally posted by Byss:

Considering the almost universally poor quality of your posts in both grammar and advice, I would assume you are neither intelligent enough nor patient enough to actually read through any philosophical material, let alone existentialist.

But I'm sure you'll just retort with some uncultured, philistine bullshit that further demonstrates your lack of depth and maturity.



lol what a fag. We're not competing for a Rhodes Scholarship here nigs, relax your scrotum.

quote:Originally posted by jwwc2006:

I have been bothered by my life a lot lately. The more I reflect on my life the more pathetic I think I am and the amount of missed opportunities in my life almost makes me want to go crazy. I am 21 and a virgin- I would never admit it. I lie a lot- I moved far away from home to go to school- I tell people im from Florida even though im not. I want to be myself- but its like im fighting myself to be who I am- when its easier to lie about who I am and what I represent. I dont understand why I am the way I am. Im too antisocial. I am always finding reasons to be by myself and waste time. For example, I bought a skateboard a year ago and would try to get good at skating for hours a day. Today I realized- I will never be good at skating. I never skated when I was younger- I never hung out with a crowd that skated. Skating by yourself at age 21 is sad. Im not doing something good for me- Im making my life worse. I realized all of this today. I dont have people to call, I dont have people to talk to, Ive become really frustrated- and dont know what to do next. Its like my whole life has been shit and I just avoid people and feel sorry for myself. Never being outgoing, never appearing to want friends or girlfriends- but truly sad I have neither- and live inside my head- even though their are plenty of opportunities for me. I feel like I have never been a man and always been scared of everyone and everything. Ive had a lot on my mind- If anyone can relate and wants to talk or give me some advice- it would be cool.

I'm kind of in the same situation

minus the skateboarding thats teh ghey

man, to all you 20-something virgins who say you don't care, of course you'd say that.. i'd say that too if i were you. i lost my virginity at 17 and im 19 now and man would i hate my life if i hadn't gotten any pussy at all, it would just make me very depressed.

to the original poster, i think you may have problems with depression and/or anxiety. i would go find a psychiatrist and talk to them about your problems and maybe with the right medicine (or you could try just going and getting drunk) you could losen up, think a little more about yourself, and meet some people and get some pussy. life is all about your experiences man so you gotta get out there and have fun.

Don't dwell on it, it only makes it worse; I should know, I'm 20 and a virgin. Anyways, you sound like you need a friend more than a girl.

My suggestion, go somewhere fun and full of people. Then, start talking with them.

Be easygoing.

quote:Originally posted by pathogen:

Find an unattractive girl to practice on. Sounds cruel but you'll probably have no problem just walking up to some fugly chick and striking up a conv.



lol. that brings back memories. I second this, highly.

can all the virgins please post pics to help us non-virgins assist you to our fullest capabilities?

I'd chose a good skateboard over a harem of bitches all wanting to fuck me anyday.

Imo you need to first stop lying to ppl, and to yourself. You may as well be honest about who you are because otherwise you're just creating barriers that it doesnt seem you can break down.

Sex isnt the most important thing in the world, and loosing your virginity isnt' such a life changing event. Get over it and stop laybling yourself that way.

I think you expect too much of life and in order to get goodness out of it you should expect less and try more.

Give up on the "i dont try thats why i dont do well" attitude, it wont get you very far outside of high school in the real world.

You're in school now right? Why dont you join a club, or a frat or something where you'll be forced to be social, even if you think that its really really not your thing, do it anyways, the things that you've been doing up to here dont seem to be working for you so you might as well try soethign new.

Get over yourself, stop being so critical and learn to be happy.

Good luck man, it sucks to stuck inside yourself, i know, its better to just get out there.

god im a virgin at 16 and it pisses me off if i am by 21 im gonna go mugging a load of people a nd use it all on a hooker

quote:Originally posted by frunk:

i'd say that too if i were you. i lost my virginity at 17 and im 19 now and man would i hate my life if i hadn't gotten any pussy at all, it would just make me very depressed.



You're doing the exact opposite of what seems to be a good mindset that the virgins of this post have going: You're putting the pussy on a pedestal.

You would be depressed if you hadn't had an interaction with another's body part? Don't get me wrong, I love pussy, but I don't live for it.

~Saint947

quote:Originally posted by Napalm2004:

I always thought I wanted a girlfriend and I realise that shit is over rated. I enjoy being by myself more then with a girl, I am only attracted to them sexually. Other then that I'd rather spend my time at home watching TV, working, or playing video games. I am perfectly fine on how life is right now and don't even feel pressured to get a relationship going. On the friend side I have like a few good friend who just like chilling, I got to parties sometimes with them and that how I met girls. Still I'd rather be alone though... I think once you start dating you will see it's not all rays of sunshine.

Agreed its fucking difficult and leaves a sticky mess...

quote:Originally posted by Saint947:

You're doing the exact opposite of what seems to be a good mindset that the virgins of this post have going: You're putting the pussy on a pedestal.

You would be depressed if you hadn't had an interaction with another's body part? Don't get me wrong, I love pussy, but I don't live for it.

~Saint947

I have to agree with your answer Saint. ALso i apologize for my brashness in the other thread. I read your post and assumed a lot about you, which i now see as wrong, and i apologize. However, i still maintain the fact i believe that everything will be analysed from a socio-psychological standpoint, and i also believe everything should be, otherwise were doomed to not learn from our more horrendous but subtle mistakes.

I don't get a lot of sex because of my looks- you should be happy to be handsome because sooner or later if you hang out in social situations a girl is going to approach you- heck girls have approaced and hit on me and im ugly as fuck and really shy. Confidence is overrated just go out more, party a bit.

quote:Originally posted by camper velourium:

can all the virgins please post pics to help us non-virgins assist you to our fullest capabilities?

I dont think I look like a virgin- I dont try to act like one. Ive tried all the drugs you guys recommend- Ecstasy did make me feel outgoing- I went to a club and sweated alot, took one before class and tried to really participate in discussion, pot makes me kinda paranoid-didnt when I was younger- like the truth will come out that Im a loser- and I think about that- when Im trying to act cool, alcohol makes me more easygoing, I think it is key to me being social. DXM- I use to do a lot of dxm- I would take it before school a lot- It was like I didnt give a fuck about anything for about 6 hours. I could talk to anyone cuz I wasnt all there. I was addicted to it. I stop doing that about a year ago. Ive done crack- that made me really friendly to strangers. Again, didnt give a fuck. Ive huffed- I tried everything but heroin and acid. Anyway- the one post about stop lying to people about things- I think was right on. I got to be true to everyone. The reasons why I am a virgin and also why I think I have not many people to call friends is cuz I always find a way to avoid it. Looking back I think I have had opportunities but was too pussy. Also, Im always scared Im not good enough. They say you are gonna be bad your first time - that scares me- I wanna be a natural at it. I dont want the girl to know. Im not gonna give up on skating-Ive been skating about a year- and Ive gotten pretty good- still I feel Im not good enough to be around the real skaters. I hate posers more than anything- I feel 90% people are posers- and its easy for me to see, but I am a poser- thats why I have low self esteem?- cuz I see that Im fake? Anyway, I feel like Im gonna lose my virginity soon, the night I thoughtI would get my first kiss- is the night it happened. I just really dont want to be bad at sex. Whatever- I got nothing to lose so I should go all out.

My pics- Im not ugly- Im drunk and high in every pic- Ive stopped doing drugs though- just drink and smoke once and while

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Ahhh, just fuck off, I'm sick of whiny virgins.

This works http://s136.photobucket.com/albums/q196/jwwc2006/

You're pretty fuckin weird lookin...get used to being a virgin.

quote:Originally posted by SlapinFoFun:

You're pretty fuckin weird lookin...get used to being a virgin.

He just looks like every other surfer.

I don't see why he couldn't get laid due to looks.

He's decent looking. Not great but not awful by any means. I don't think looks are the problem here.

You don't look like a virgin at all.

Anyway, girls are like everything: practice.

I know guys uglier than you that get laid by hot bitches.

My advice is to hit the gym. You're too skinny.

Edit: I also just noticed you have acne. Go on Accutane. I used to have horrible acne, Accutane started clearing it up within 2 weeks.

[This message has been edited by Parallax (edited 10-28-2006).]

quote:Originally posted by Parallax:

I know guys uglier than you that get laid by hot bitches.

My advice is to hit the gym. You're too skinny.

Edit: I also just noticed you have acne. Go on Accutane. I used to have horrible acne, Accutane started clearing it up within 2 weeks.





You guys are harsh- I thought I was alright looking- Now Im starting to think I am ugly. I dont think I have acne- If you take a pic and its real close up you would see pimples on almost anyones face- Honestly I do not have really bad skin- I guess Im skinny- but doesnt matter how much I work out or eat- I always stay between 135-140. So, any advice on how I can just get laid- and how to make it obvious you want sex- How do I know which girls that I like-and want to have sex with- will do it? And- how can you be decent at sex if you have never done it?

these guys are idiots.. you don't have any acne, you appear to be in decent shape (not overweight), you aren't even a bad lookin' dude... and with that being said, looks aren't THAT important for guys anyway.

so we can go ahead and make the conclusion that your problem is MENTAL.. now what the fuck are you insecure about?? what's keeping you from having confidence?? focus on that and work on that. up your level of confidence and self worth, the women will follow. just start setting some goals and working towards them.

also whoever suggested acutane is a fucking moron.. acutane is the most hardcore shit out there, strictly for pizza face, pimple infested kids with boils covering their faces. a dermatologist wouldn't give you acutane even if you asked for it. ridiculous.

[This message has been edited by DENKDAN (edited 10-28-2006).]

quote:Originally posted by DENKDAN:

also whoever suggested acutane is a fucking moron.. acutane is the most hardcore shit out there, strictly for pizza face, pimple infested kids with boils covering their faces. a dermatologist wouldn't give you acutane even if you asked for it. ridiculous.

Huh? I asked a dermatologist for it, she gave it to me, it worked great.

quote:Originally posted by jwwc2006:

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How tall are you 5'7". If any less like me you will only be able to find girls who arent shallow (impossible i've been told), or date blind girls...

I say go to a pyschologist, a cool one though. Seriously, if you want to work through these problems, you're going to need to put a lot of time and effort into it. I see a pysch, and I look foward to it even though I dreaded it at first.

quote:Originally posted by Memorex:

Too long/Didn't care



Oh, and

LOL

quoted for truth

quote:Originally posted by SlapinFoFun:

You're pretty fuckin weird lookin...get used to being a virgin.

Rape slapin for fun might shut the bastard up...

BAHAHAAAHHA. Rabble rabble.

Nobody can change the way you act except for you. If you already know your faults, than change em!

The fact you are a virgin shouldn't be a problem.. it's just a symptom of you're anti-social ways. Don't reflect on that bit ever, it's only going to get you down. You're just going to have to get up and go, get out there more, almost scrap your old ways entirely. You may not have been outgoing before, but just try a little more, don't make it forced, just if you're ever round people crack jokes, small teasing maybe inoffensive ones that people can just crack a little smile to. Don't act down and don't look down. Stand tall, head in the air, back straighs shoulders back. Look confident and eventually, you'll learn to be confident. Go out to a skatepark some time and just skate a little bit, try and cooly introduce yourself to some of the skaters there, eventually you'll get to know some of them over time with skating with them and you can always suggest to them that you should hang out at a bar or something. Some of them might know girls and if they like you, you'll end up being invited to parties. Be genuine, let a few people know that you're not actually from Florida in a sort of jokey "I'm such a dick" with a smile sort of way and explain you have no idea why you said you were.

Things aren't going to get better unless you make them better.

By looking at those pics, there is no reason that you should be a virgin at all.

You'd think chicks would be lining up for you.

^^ Truth!

Dude, you know your "faults", if anything use them to your advantage, some girls actually like guys who are a little shy...

Just get out there and talk to people, you have nothing to loose remember, fuck pride, fuck what people think, do your own thing, and be your own man. If skateboarding makes you happy, carry on doing it! Who cares if you're no Tony Hawk. And as you're skating alone mainly, and have done for a year, you don't sound like a poser to me!

Confidence, matey

Be content in yourself, and get to know people.

The rest should follow naturally.

Your situation looks good.

Why? Because you are now realising what is going wrong.

This happened to me at the beginning of the summer (similar... but different situation). And now I am doing probably 500% better! You see the problem. Fix it.

I just wanted to get a few more tips from some people- and then I will put it to rest. Tonight is Halloween- and it was my goal a couple weeks ago to lose my virginity by Halloween. I planned on getting really ripped before I go to the parties tonight. Should I get completely shitfaced- or try the parties sober??- also should I avoid smoking- cuz sometimes when I smoke I get an increase sense of the vibe around me, and sometimes I think girls can sense that im inexperienced and kinda desperate for pussy- put sometimes I can get really antisocial at parties- not talking to anyone I dont know. I was really horny today and I already jacked off 4 times. I think I should have saved it- untill I get the real thing. I wanna get somethin tonight- anything- any tips- before I extend this goal to Nov 31?

help me!

quote:Originally posted by jwwc2006:

I just wanted to get a few more tips from some people- and then I will put it to rest. Tonight is Halloween- and it was my goal a couple weeks ago to lose my virginity by Halloween. I planned on getting really ripped before I go to the parties tonight. Should I get completely shitfaced- or try the parties sober??- also should I avoid smoking- cuz sometimes when I smoke I get an increase sense of the vibe around me, and sometimes I think girls can sense that im inexperienced and kinda desperate for pussy- put sometimes I can get really antisocial at parties- not talking to anyone I dont know. I was really horny today and I already jacked off 4 times. I think I should have saved it- untill I get the real thing. I wanna get somethin tonight- anything- any tips- before I extend this goal to Nov 31?



....jack it as many times as you can, you will last longer.

The trick is to just fucking forget about whatever your problems are, and just be yourself. The harder you try to put on some kind of show, the harder it will be for people to like you. If people dont like you for who you are, they simply just aren't people that like you. There are others that appreciate you. Its pretty corny, but its the truth. Im sure if you just get over this mental obstical people will like having you around.

And about skateboarding, did you have fun doing it?

It doesn't really matter if you aren't good... I play guitar, im no jimi hendrix, but I have fun. The fun is in slowly getting better, and reflecting on how i've improved.

quote:Originally posted by Cloaked Dagger:

So go out and make friend! Go to a club and drop some E, you will have met so many people by the end of the night, trust me.

Best advice so far!!

Think of all this recent insight as an opportunity. You can either wallow in self-pity, or do something to change your life. Instead of asking yourself "Why am I so miserable?" all the time, try asking yourself "How can I change my life?"