Ok, well this girl who i tlaked to about 6 months ago, and seen about 3 times wants to see me, and when we meet we snog and shit, and we take it a step further and as its half term, we decieded to have sex.. like you do, but this would be my first time and it wouldnt be hers... so what if im shit? and can anyone give me any techniquies?

Does she know it's your first time? It would prob be better to let her know that than let her think you genuinely suck, if you do end up not doing well. Who knows, she might be the kind of chick that likes to teach, or maybe you'll be a magnificent stallion, I really don't know. I feel gay for saying that, though.

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Yes, she does know its my first time, but like i want to be good at it...

I hate to break it to you, but you wont be. No matter how many tips we give you on technique- you dont have any yet.

You will have absolutely no fucking clue what you are doing, and will feel like a fumbling dipshit.

And thats ok, she expects if for your first time. Just relax, enjoy it, let her take care of you.

Itll be fine. Everybody else has had to do this too. You will be just fine. Do it a few times, and then come back for a discussion on some of the finer points.

You said she knows it's your first time, and she sounds like she still really wants to go with it.

She almost certainly finds it endearing and cute to take your virginity, and will probably have 0 qualms about "teaching" you some things. So have fun, and make sure to bring two condoms, the first time you'll probably blow your load really quick, then after that you should be good to go in not more than 15-30 minutes, and will hopefully last a lot longer and get to try new positions, technique, etc.

Also, believe me, I lost my virginity to an experienced girl, and it was really cool and good.

Think about it this way, would you rather feel like a dumbass with your with a girl for the first time because of the experience difference?

Or would you rather her be nervous as hell, bleeding out of her vag, and probably in a lot of pain?

The choice is clear. Good luck though, no matter what happens.

Good luck mate, just do what comes naturally.

Be enthusiastic.

ok, and i was also thinking...

should i just let everything fall into place?

Should i masterbate before?

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quote:Originally posted by XHippie HunterX:

[B]I hate to break it to you, but you wont be. No matter how many tips we give you on technique- you dont have any yet.

You will have absolutely no fucking clue what you are doing, and will feel like a fumbling dipshit.

B]

Your a dumb ass thats not always true, yes some will be dumb fumbling asses but not all. I mean my first time i was good at it as any, made my girl at the time question whether i was a virgin or not. The only part reason it started off crappy is because she was so tight(her first time as well) that it hurt her so we had to go really slow but once she got feeling ok the sex was decent(it hurt her still but enough to were she could deal with it).

Its natural instincts, i mean lots of thigns come natural to me so maybe thats why i was just naturally good at sex but sex is instinctual and its not that fucking hard to know what to do. Its really simple the hardest part would be getting your dick in because that could be the ackward part after that all you do is go up down in and out or if shes on top thrust your hips into her and grab her hips and rock them to the thrusting.

The easiest sex postion i found was girl on top because then you jsut have to thrust and you can also use your hands on her hips to control her movement.

quote:Originally posted by XHippie HunterX:

I hate to break it to you, but you wont be. No matter how many tips we give you on technique- you dont have any yet.

You will have absolutely no fucking clue what you are doing, and will feel like a fumbling dipshit.

And thats ok, she expects if for your first time. Just relax, enjoy it, let her take care of you.

Itll be fine. Everybody else has had to do this too. You will be just fine. Do it a few times, and then come back for a discussion on some of the finer points.

QFT

quote:Originally posted by AprenticeChemistBITCHS:

Your a dumb ass thats not always true, yes some will be dumb fumbling asses but not all. I mean my first time i was good at it as any, made my girl at the time question whether i was a virgin or not. The only part reason it started off crappy is because she was so tight(her first time as well) that it hurt her so we had to go really slow but once she got feeling ok the sex was decent(it hurt her still but enough to were she could deal with it).

She was a virgin also dumbass, the girl the OP is with has alot of experience, she wont be impressed by it being "decent".

Also, you didn't say whether she orgasmed or not, so I'll assume she didn't.

Oh well sorry for not saying that. The reason it was DECENT is because of the girl smart one, like I said it still hurt her but it was at least bearable. If it hadnt hurt her we could have had much better sex. And yes she did orgasm. The next day afterwards we fucked five times each time with her orgasming and the second time she orgasmed 3 times in a row. Like I said the reason the sex was decent was because i didnt want to hurt her by thrusting all hardcore and fucking like we fucked later on in the realationship. Like I said i mean most things just come natural to me like playing guitar, learning things, driving, shooting, fixing things, fixing electronics and other stuff so maybe im just one of the lucky ones that has sex come natural to me.

The person im doing it with on tuesday isnt a slag... and if she masterbates over me then it would be a clashing of strong feelings for each other, i think ectasy would be the best word :P

Just take a look through the Sex Archives, it'll be worth your while.

http://www.totse.com/bbs/Archives/Archive-000002/HTML/20040617-4-007959.html

there are many more to read though.