Okay, my best friend that I've known for 3 years and myself recently admitted to one another that we have feelings for each other. About a week after this, she breaks up with her boyfriend. Shortly after this, we start fooling around, making out, foreplay, holding hands, foreplay etc. and everything was all good. Then one day she just stopped kissing me and whatnot so I talked to her about it and this is the jist of what was said.

She has feelings for me and feels that what we do has meaning, she hates her exboyfriend but she she says it's hard to get over him, she said she doesn't want me to give up on persuing her, but she doesn't want a relationship right now.

help me s&a, what the fuck does she want?

Shes a woman, no one knows what the fuck she wants.

^ That's about right.

Well I think she wants what she says. You to keep persuing her. Might just have to play into her little game.

You honestly can't figure that out? Lol man, it's simple. You just have to give her reassurance she's doing the right thing. Solved.

bump-

i hate the games girls play..

Stab's right. She basically told you that she wants you to chase her a little, and that she's going to play hard to get. Either play her game, or say something like "i think i'll just wait until you're over him, it'll be better." and then act as if you don't have any feelings for her at all.

Your call - either let her play hard to get with you, or try to turn the table on her.

quote:Originally posted by Psionicist:

Stab's right. She basically told you that she wants you to chase her a little, and that she's going to play hard to get. Either play her game, or say something like "i think i'll just wait until you're over him, it'll be better." and then act as if you don't have any feelings for her at all.

Your call - either let her play hard to get with you, or try to turn the table on her.

I wish i had the strength to just totally deny my feelings for her. but honestly, i've been seeking something meaningful with all of my efforts for the past 3 years. the irony is, she was right in front of my face this entire time. it's a really delicate situation, the feelings i have are just so real, it's not something that i want to screw up. do you think a talk would work? confronting her about where she sees things going? this might work successfully, but a lot of the time her answers are something to the effect of "i don't know".

quote:Originally posted by 556:

Originally posted by Psionicist:

Stab's right. She basically told you that she wants you to chase her a little, and that she's going to play hard to get. Either play her game, or say something like "i think i'll just wait until you're over him, it'll be better." and then act as if you don't have any feelings for her at all.

Your call - either let her play hard to get with you, or try to turn the table on her.

I wish i had the strength to just totally deny my feelings for her. but honestly, i've been seeking something meaningful with all of my efforts for the past 3 years. the irony is, she was right in front of my face this entire time. it's a really delicate situation, the feelings i have are just so real, it's not something that i want to screw up. do you think a talk would work? confronting her about where she sees things going? this might work successfully, but a lot of the time her answers are something to the effect of "i don't know".

If she's telling you she doesn't know, confronting her obviously isn't going to work. Just pursue her, reassure her every so often, and continue as normal. She's going to have to get over her emotions for her ex, even if that's hatred, it's still something you have to get over. It'll work itself out with time.

quote:Originally posted by Fanglekai:

If she's telling you she doesn't know, confronting her obviously isn't going to work. Just pursue her, reassure her every so often, and continue as normal. She's going to have to get over her emotions for her ex, even if that's hatred, it's still something you have to get over. It'll work itself out with time. yes, i suppose you're right. i appreciate the advice.

quote:Originally posted by 556:

yes, i suppose you're right. i appreciate the advice.



Anytime. I just hope it works out well for you.