I like some of the girls around in my grade, grade 10 and want to ask one in particular out. There are some problems that are occuring with this normal situation

1) All the girls I want to go out with just finished some major tragedy or are in a relationship

2) I have no self-confidence and my talking time with them is limited (I plan to take her to the movies, and ask her out there)

3) I seem to be "good friends" with a ton of girls, when I have parties at my house it is normally 60-70% girls, all of them are not bad looking either. So honestly, what am I doing wrong? I just need a bit of a push in the right direction not a walkthrough on dating girls.

PS: I don't think the girl I want to go out with has done much sexual, I have made out + BJ nothing past that, and those weren't even with girls I was going out with.

EDIT: god damn it..I spelt the title wrong

[This message has been edited by kenshin_kid (edited 10-17-2006).]

1) Girls in relationships. NO. Tragedy, either say that you just heard about it and you're empathetic, and you offer your help if she needs it.

2)Then grow balls and talk.

3)Then grow balls and talk at the party. Or get them drunk and rape them.

Just talk to random people you see. Honestly, I saw a girl with those sour apple sugary licorice stray things, like sour patch kids. I thought she was nominally good looking, and I walked by her, thinking about the candy, stopped dead in my tracks, turned around and asked her for one. She asked, "What?" and I replied, "Oh, sorry, I'm Dan, and your name is?" and she said, "Kristina" and I said, "Oh nice to meet you" shook her hand, and I asked, "I love those sour things, could I have one?" and she gave it to me. Later she saw me and told her friends about me, and I saw her and walked over and was introduced, and I shot the breeze with her for a little, and ended up with her number.

Just learn to engage in conversation. Take control, you determine your own fate.

:::EDIT::: Had to fix a spelling mistake. Firekitty migh come around and check.

[This message has been edited by met_B_A_N_S (edited 10-17-2006).]

Seriously, the double your dating series talks a lot about how to approach and speak to girls, and how to avoid being filed into the 'good friends' category.

But aside from that, theres not really much I can tell you except to take the nike approach and just do it. If you're that nervous talking to girls, I guess you could practice by approaching girls that you dont know so well and seeing how long you can make the conversation last.

quote:Originally posted by SilentMind:

Seriously, the double your dating series talks a lot about how to approach and speak to girls, and how to avoid being filed into the 'good friends' category.

But aside from that, theres not really much I can tell you except to take the nike approach and just do it. If you're that nervous talking to girls, I guess you could practice by approaching girls that you dont know so well and seeing how long you can make the conversation last.

It's not that I can't talk to them, I can do that for a few hours if I had too. But when I am with friends we talk about porn/masturbation/drugs/religion/politics/science and etc. I know girl are interested in those things, but How in hell do you approach them about it?

PS: Most at my age aren't as mature as you guys might invision...

quote:Originally posted by kenshin_kid:

It's not that I can't talk to them, I can do that for a few hours if I had too. But when I am with friends we talk about porn/masturbation/drugs/religion/politics/science and etc. I know girl are interested in those things, but How in hell do you approach them about it?

PS: Most at my age aren't as mature as you guys might invision...





Best ever, just talk about the classes, and how piddly they are, and how your ideas on this and that are so much better than the teacher's. The only sexy men are ones who can pawn me in arguments, and brown ones, and ones in thongs, or with ribs, but smart men are right up there.

quote:Originally posted by captain_kirk:



Best ever, just talk about the classes, and how piddly they are, and how your ideas on this and that are so much better than the teacher's. The only sexy men are ones who can pawn me in arguments, and brown ones, and ones in thongs, or with ribs, but smart men are right up there.

Sweet! An opinion from a girl who I consider pertty awesome.

Take a shot at making a move. Doesn't really matter if the target goes for it or not, all the other chicks will see you trying. If you just sit around and "be friends", they will probably assume you're gay.

You need to get out there in the sexual part.

Wow i am a girl in 10th and i have done so much shit. With one guy though. Plus its a long relationship.

For your advice.

Take her out to dinner , then a movie, then a kiss on the cheek goodnight and then offer another date, if she is up to it then ask her out!

Thats what i would like a guy to do if i was in the case.

I suggest just play around with formats. No single approach will help you get a girl, and using the same one too much means you won't be able to change it up much dependant on the girl later.

Just give it a shot, you'll get rejected a bunch before you land a good one.