Hey,

I posted on here a while back about how I have a problem where I'm not turned on by anything but spanking (not even sex or girls bodies - or guys).

I have a girlfriend now and I had an idea where I could watch a spanking video and she could wack me off at the same time and she was keen to do it. But when we tried I couldn't get it up, not even the slightest slightest bit. I made her leave the room so I could try get it up myself lol but I still couldn't.

I know it's because of nervousness, like a didn't feel at all nervous but if anything sexual depends on whether or not I have an erection then I just can't do it.

Can anybody help me out here? I don't know what to do because I don't feel nervous I just kind of am and can't do anything about it.

Thanks,

Greemah.

Murder-suicide seems to be the only solution.

Do you get hard when you spank her? And if so WHEN? (ie the 'lecture' you give her before hand? When her knickers come down? When she lays across your knee? When you actually strike her?)

I don't get aroused at all when actually spanking (though before ever doing it I always thought I would). Though talking about it with her sometimes gets me a bit aroused. But it's mainly videos and pics (when I'm alone), that's why I came up with this idea.

"Know Thyself" tends to be the best advice in all sexual problems. Run your mental cinema and try and identify what exactly turns you on and why. For example was being spanked as a kid the only real time you felt emotionally connected to your parents?

Chances are once you are clearer about who/what you are then your nervousness will decrease or you can start working on it effectively.

Nope there was no spanking in my childhood, not sure where exactly my interest came from lol. I'm pretty sure that it's because this whole problem has pretty much been in my mind 24/7 since I was 13 (I'm nearly 19 now) so anything sexual seems like a huge event and there's too much pressure so I just can't perform. My girlfriend's very understanding but it's frustrating because I'm fine when I'm by myself but just her being in the room would stop me from getting an erection.

Close your eyes, clear your mind, try to transfer all thought into the pleasure you receive.

quote:Originally posted by Minority Deport:

Close your eyes, clear your mind, try to transfer all thought into the pleasure you receive.

I have, I've spent lots of time doing that but its gets me nowhere, not even to a slight semi. If I have a slight boner out of the blue and she starts waking it I think about stuff that turns me on the most and concentrate on the physical feelings but even then i actually loose it and go completely soft. I've tried thinking of absolutely nothing too which made no difference.