Ok well, i have been dating my b/f still and we have already had sex and all that shit blah blah but anyways whether its sex,fingering,eating out or any of that i cant climax all the way, i mean it feels REALLY good but i dont want him to be doing things to me forever trying to make me get off, i feel kinda bad if he does, because it doesnt take him that long when i pleasure him....... i dont know what do do or try, my friend said for some reason that some girls do orgasm but they realy dont feel it......

i think you guys have more to say and probably better advice, please help...

Do you masturbate?

Some people say that you can't have an orgasm until you've tought yourself how to.

This could be a very subtle troll but i dotn think it is ...

One of my exes wa a virgin when i met her and she was very horny semi-constantly . She would pleasure herself on the phone to me all the time . This is a fairly nice idea , but sex is only one part of my life but all of hers ... ANWAYS ..

When we first got together it was very difficult for her to orgasm quickly It would take forever . I used to get cramps in my jaw .

In regards to your situation i think from what i have learned this is because , i am just guessing here , that you arent very sexually experienced . It is a very personal thing sharing an orgasm with someone and the more you get some lovin' the more comfortable you will be with it.

I have experienced this sort of thing when i was a virgin , I must be the only guy to have faked an orgasm just to get her off me.

no i am not trolling, i find it pointless and stupid to be like a troll, but anyways, yes i do masturbate, ive limited though so when ever i see him then it might make me climax quicker but it doesnt really work............

quote:Originally posted by inverted:

In regards to your situation i think from what i have learned this is because , i am just guessing here , that you arent very sexually experienced .

This isn't necessarily true. I'd consider myself a very sexually experienced person and I've never achieved an orgasm with someone besides myself. Some girls are just a LOT more difficult than others. Yeah comfort level plays a big part but when you get down to it, mindset has a lot to do with allowing yourself to feel that way.

quote:Originally posted by Shattered_innocence:

i dont know what do do or try, my friend said for some reason that some girls do orgasm but they realy dont feel it......

...no, we DEFINITELY feel it. it just doesn't usually shoot everywhere as guys' does.

um, don't feel guilty and just let him keep doing it? all you can really do is just keep trying. if you're stopping him because you feel bad, you're kind of just shooting yourself in the foot. if that doesn't work, try other stuff, like a combination of fingering and him eating you out. or in the middle of the action, start getting yourself off and then when you get close, get him to take over. tell him what you like/don't like.

Do what the girl that I'm seeing does. Sit back and enjoy the ride. She has a similar problem, I've gotten her close a couple times but its a no-go; actually she started crying one time when I got her really close via g-spot stimulation. She can do it on her own or infront of me just fine.

Aslong as you are enjoying yourself and he is too don't put so much pressure on yourself. Let it happen naturally and ensure him that it is okay and you still enjoy it. Don't feel bad or let him feel like he is doing something wrong.

Relax and enjoy being together.

I'll throw this one out there but I don't have any experience with it; try a little alcohol. Might help you let go of some inhibitions that you may have.

Come to my house

dont worry, i have the same problem, and ive had sexual experience, and lots of it ima kinda nympho, lol, just enjoy it, and let it happen naturally, as long as ur both satisfied, who cares? ive resigned myself to the fact ill prolly never have 1, but its ok, just enjoy urself, thats the important part, if u keep tryin to get one, ull get ur mindset to that, and keep getting upset over the fact u arent having one, then soon u might not even want to have sex its true!!!! i did for awhile, now i just enjoy it and roll with it, u should too, thats all my advice, lol

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thanks for the ideas, the combo thing he does that already, but yea i also heard of that if guys insert their finger or something with their palm up and make like a "come here" motion then it feels really good also, but yea next time we try i'll just let it all ahppen, he told me to guide him next time so he knows and all that, thank you