On Saturday night (actually Sunday morning) me and a girl, which I have like for a while (same with her), had sex. This was my first time, but far from hers.

Anyway, ever since then, I have fell deeply in love with her. I know she is somewhat of a "player", although she isnt a gold digger. She does see a lot of guys.

I just dont know what to do. We have been friends for almost a year now, but have just had our first sexual experience, and I know I could get it anytime she wants. I know we like eachother, but she also likes other guys.

I want to tell her tonight or tomorrow night how I feel, but I dont have the words. I want to make it count, becuase I really really love her, and would like to take our relationship further.

Thanks for any advice...

Ouch, you have these feelings ebcause it was your first time dude. Don't let it fool you, you may be walking into a relationship that will end with heartbreak. I say either 1) try dating her more, and then tell her. 2) slep with her more and sleep with other girls and play the field before jumping into something.

Yeah I see this. It's true for me too, but you're not emotionally ready for it if she doesn't want a commitment.

This is the reason most girls stay ten feet away from virgins at all times.

Fight your urge to "love" your friend. You might be closer now, but give it some time.

So should I continue our relationship, both friend and sexual, and wait before I tell her how I feel for a few more weeks/months?

If you want to tell her how you feel you're probably not going to get a good response out of saying you're in love with her. If she's the kind of girl who doesn't get attached easily (player, or so you said), she'll be a straight deer in the headlights. Take things slow before dropping bombs on people.

[This message has been edited by kappelpie (edited 10-16-2006).]

No, don't wait, don't waste energy, go for a different girl.

hmmm

*does this smell like chloroform to you baby*

*unzips trousers*

quote:Originally posted by -OutKast-:

So should I continue our relationship, both friend and sexual, and wait before I tell her how I feel for a few more weeks/months?

What makes you think that the sexual relationship will continue?

As far as I know, she doesnt have sex with just anyone, only people she likes.

Also, during sex, and after, we were talking about what we would do next time, and even where. Also, this was right after a party at my friends house, which goes on every weekend, and she said she will start coming more often.

So, I think if she shows up this week, she would be there in part becuase of me.

I have decided not to "drop the bomb" anytime soon, but I will try to get a little closer to her, and if she seems like she likes me as much as I like her, I will tell her when the time is right.

Never tell a girl you love her without having a good reason to be able to love her.

Ask yourself why you love her.

And see if you can truly figure it out.

quote:Originally posted by -OutKast-:

As far as I know, she doesnt have sex with just anyone, only people she likes.



1. '...'

2. I refer to my previous post.

Wait. And wait. You can't know just now. People are right, it's because it's your first time you feel like this. If you feel like this in five months' time, it might be something. But it doesn't sound like she feels the same way anyway, unfortunately.

quote:Originally posted by -OutKast-:



I have decided not to "drop the bomb" anytime soon, but I will try to get a little closer to her, and if she seems like she likes me as much as I like her, I will tell her when the time is right.

That is a good choice . You have to make sure this kind of stuff is mutual.

I agree, I would be crushed if she wasnt ready for me either.

However, I have felt somewhat strongly before I even hooked up.

I love her becuase she is beautiful.

I love her becuase she is easy to talk to.

I love her becuase she is easy to be around.

I love her becuase she is open minded.

I love her becuase she likes (loves?) me too.

I love her becuase I would rather hang out with her than do anything else in the world.

These are just a few I thought off the top of my head. I know that other peoples love may be deeper than this, but this is a start.

Thank you for all the advice you have given me. I will see her tonight, but most likely not have sex.

What does everyone think I should talk about? Or should I act normal and cool around her?

Thanks again!

quote:Originally posted by -OutKast-:

I agree, I would be crushed if she wasnt ready for me either.

However, I have felt somewhat strongly before I even hooked up.

I love her becuase she is beautiful.

I love her becuase she is easy to talk to.

I love her becuase she is easy to be around.

I love her becuase she is open minded.

I love her becuase she likes (loves?) me too.

I love her becuase I would rather hang out with her than do anything else in the world.

These are just a few I thought off the top of my head. I know that other peoples love may be deeper than this, but this is a start.

Thank you for all the advice you have given me. I will see her tonight, but most likely not have sex.

What does everyone think I should talk about? Or should I act normal and cool around her?

Thanks again!



Heh, sure sounds like you're in love.

quote:Originally posted by absolutecaliber:



Heh, sure sounds like you're in love.



Sounds like you're a freshman or sophomore in high school to me. Your feelings are premature and inaccurate. I'm gonna go out on a limb here and say that you don't receive too much attention from other girls.

Don't get your hopes up and don't tell her anything about your "feelings" and maybe you'll get laid again.

quote:Originally posted by y4m4:



Sounds like you're a freshman or sophomore in high school to me. Your feelings are premature and inaccurate. I'm gonna go out on a limb here and say that you don't receive too much attention from other girls.

Don't get your hopes up and don't tell her anything about your "feelings" and maybe you'll get laid again.

Sadly, I'm going to have to agree with this guy- truthfully. I'm not doing this because I have anything against the OP, but this just sounds like the harsh truth that needs to be said..

When you really do fall in love, it will be for more in depth reasons than just "I want to hang out with her more than anything in the world". It may not make sense now, but once you grow up a little more, it will.

~Saint947

Actually, im 18, she 17. Im already graduated, but we work at the same place, which is how we met.

Also, I get plenty of attention from girls, I just dont go through with it. I could have got laid years ago, but I was always raised to have sex with a special girl, and that is what it seemed.

Situational appearances are often self-deceptive.

So I mistook your age and I'll take your word for the whole attention from girls thing. This doesn't make the second half of my post any less valid though.