Well, I have been dating this girl for a month now. We got together rather quickly and moving really quick, I was on 3rd base the first date. The problem is that she is a virgin and seems rather desperate to get close to me. She really isn't my type though, like her personality is way more serious then me and she has a bright future. I havn't taken it all the way because I really don't want to be her first. Well, she seems to really enjoy our time together but I don't. It fucking blows sometimes because she will talk to friend in chinese and I don't understand. Not to mention she hangs out with a lot of guys and gets drunk with them, which worries me sometiems. Since she enjoys me should I stay with her longer just so she is happier, or should I end it now for myself? I personaly don't seeing it go anywhere, but she is a good person and I really don't want to ruin anything for her.

Idk dude i would dump her but dont be mean about it say like for example i really dont think where right for eachother and we should see other people but i mean she seems like a nice girl and she should be with someone who loves her and wants to be with her for the rest of his life. you know what i mean?

You have to be selfish every now and again - never stay with a girl just to keep her happy. You said yourself that you don't see the relationship going anywhere; that should be reason enough to end it.

quote:Originally posted by Napalm2004:

I personaly don't seeing it go anywhere, but she is a good person and I really don't want to ruin anything for her.

There's the answer. If you don't wish to go forward, let it slide.

She is only happy because she doesn't know how you feel. It isn't fair to her to keep up a front.

That is not a ticket to be a jerk, simply try honesty.

quote:Originally posted by Napalm2004:

Since she enjoys me should I stay with her longer just so she is happier, or should I end it now for myself? I personaly don't seeing it go anywhere, but she is a good person and I really don't want to ruin anything for her.

You sound really sweet. But, as cute as that is, self preservation is the most important thing. You are all that you have, and you have to protect yourself.

It's better to end it now and save the both of you alot of problems and difficulties than trap yourself in a miserable relationship that you want to escape from.

Well, thanks for input, it sees pretty one sided . Now, I gotta figure out how I will break it to her, I really suck at break ups. This is like my second actual girlfriend and I am 20 .