so tonight i told my boyfriend we need to talk a break from each other because i dont know if i still care for him in a girlfriend way or just a friend way. i kept babbling on for a minute just trying to reassure him it wasnt over, but it might be. i told him i needed a week alone to figure things out. so i ask him if he had anything to say (he was just sitting there all quiet like) and all he said was "i don't want to but do what you have to do." i babbled for another minute and then he said to me "you don't have to keep talking, you can go." and he kissed me and i told him i would call him in a week, and left.

now, the thing that is annoying/worrying me is 2 of my friends recently did the same thing with their boyfriends. in each case the guys fought. they tried to get their women to stay, but he just let me go with no resistance. idk, it just makes me feel like he really doesn't care enough for me.

People react in different ways.

I mean...He doesn't really seem like he cares about you that much when you're NOT breaking up with him either. *shrugs*

If he said he didn't want to take the break and kissed you on the way out,he obviously wants to keep you around.

^yeah, but i dont know how much. i mean, there is no passion in him when it comes to me, and this just seems to prove that further. idk, maybe after this week things will seem clearer, and if they still are fuzy i will just tell himi need more time.

Why do you want to be with a guy who's not passionate about you?

Maybe the reason he let it go so easily was because he respects you and your decisions and doesn't want to sound like a whiny ass bitch.

i really don't know. beyond the trite 'but i love him' thing, there really isnt any reason. familularity maybe. and he has been nice to me, lately at least.

the fuck?you are the one who wanted the break, he was being respectful.....jeez you get what you want and you still cant be happy

That has to be the lamest reasons I've ever heard...And you really seem very lukewarm about it.

Oral, reread what you've written, and I think you'll know what you should do.

"i really don't know. beyond the trite 'but i love him' thing, there really isnt any reason. familularity maybe. and he has been nice to me, lately at least."

Give him up. For good.

when i am around him i am more entusiastic about him, i swear. i love to be with him adn cuddle and all that crap. but last nigth i wasnt having a good day and i was upset. i called him over and we had sex. and i felt nothing. not in a pleasure way (it was actually pretty good), but in a emotion way. i felt no connection to him, and me made me feel bad. that was pretty much the breaking straw.

and i know that i wanted the break. but idk, him not doing anything to try and save the relationship worried me (mainly after talking to my friends....). i just hope this break will allow me to see what i really want for once.

Maybe he didn't want to feel like a desperate guy who really "needed you or couldn't live" type of thing.

I know, no matter how crazy I am about a girl, I'd never beg her to stay. Seeriously. If she was my wonderwoman, and was perfect for me, if she wanted a break, or wanted to not talk for a while, I wouldn't try to make her stay.

To me, it'd be like me begging a girl to go out on a date with me.

I don't like to seem pathetic.

quote:Originally posted by Ali G in da house:

the fuck?you are the one who wanted the break, he was being respectful.....jeez you get what you want and you still cant be happy

That's women for you.

Oh my god.

That man is just trying help you. Wtf do you want him to do? He sees your feelings are changing, and he's matuer so he won't fight with you. He understands there not a lot he can do. He's mature.

Oral....



things are able to hit people in different degrees.

what you just told him was that you wanted to take a break. it hit him pretty hard, do he is just going to lay off and let you get shit straightened out. He doesnt want to be in the way, because if hes in the way, you will resent him.